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Update to: BM & Skids Moving in with BM's SO

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Submitted by BettyRay on Tue, 08/26/2014 - 7:59pm

Off to a bumpy start. Please see previous blog for background - http://www.steptalk.org/node/196446

BM texted DH tonight to call the boys and yell at them for not packing. :?

DH called SS17 and SS17 promptly told him that BM gave her SO SS17's xBox and the WiFi box until packing is completed.

DH told SS17 that he's not getting in the middle of this but that everyone is stressed and the shortest distance between 2 points is a straight line and that if SS17 wants his stuff back he needs to do what BM says.

And so it goes...

~BettyRay

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Submitted by BettyRay on Wed, 08/27/2014 - 8:29am

I agree - I don't think BM's SO will be on board with BM calling DH to discipline the boys when they are with her. I also think the other half of the problem is my DH - he should have stopped this years ago. BM has also complained numerous times that DH (and I) are too harsh.

Now after 10+ years for running to DH when things get rough with the boys BM is starting to use some of our methods of discipline. DH has taken electronics away from the boys - its their currency - and they bitch and moan about it. We just ignore it and stick to the punishment. Instead of doing this BM tells the boys SO took the electronics (putting him in the middle) and then calls DH to smooth things over with the boys.

I feel like BM is setting the stage for a massive failure. Putting her SO in the position of bad cop - enforcer. The boys will just start to resent him. I also feel bad for her SO - BM is putting him in the middle and it's not right.

~BettyRay