So you just went on a "vacation" with a man who less than a month ago told you that he dreams about doing awful things to you???

for the love of Pete... I really don't know what to tell you. You apparently didn't listen to anyone's advice after your last post. So unfortunately for you it is what it is. Leave him or put up with this for the rest of your life.

Two words: asshole and divorce.

After your last blog, I wouldn't have even gone to another country with him.

I hope this was the final nail in the marriage coffin for him.

"what's it gonna be little girl you can f*ck me or let me f*ck someone else"

I'm pretty sure this was his plan all along. He was in Thailand with every intention of getting his cock banged. No pun intended.

I'd pack his shit and set fire to it in the front yard and tell him if he ever came within spitting distance of me again, he'd be a eunuch. Nuff said.

I was in a similar relationship, and I stayed far too long. My ex would tell me the same "either you do it, or I will go and find someone else", he was finding someone elses the whole time anyway.

I stayed because I was terrified of being alone. There is more to that, I am not from the USA and not allowed to work, so how on Earth could I see my son and survive if NOT with him? Well, he found someone he thought was a better prospect and kicked me out. 3 days later someone from out of state moved in with him (the next victim). I WISH I left earlier, but you know what, it is now OVER 2 years later, I am in a much better position, people I thought wrote me off (including my family) were right there for me once I was not with him.

Two years later? Things are still hard, but they are hard because of immigration issues, but I have a wonderful support system and am making it - and making it in a far better way than ex is, and as people often tell me, I am better off than if I was still with him - I have no cc debt and a positive bank balance - that never happened when I was with him (he never would explain the $500 cash withdrawals day after day).

Plus, when I go to bed at night, I choose to go to bed alone! I am not worried about being shaken awake and having to lie there while he gets his jollies. If I want sex I can find it, but I do not have to give it when I do not want to! I am not being forced to dress up every night "just in case" because otherwise I would be kicked out, and then if he wants it hate it, but if he did not I do not lie there wondering why, when I am all dressed up, he does not want me (classic sociopath and abuser behavior right there).

I am happy and stable for my boy, I NEVER was with my ex, because I was always too worried about HIM and HIS needs and what was the next knock on the door going to mean...

It becomes all consuming, please please please, get out! It seems impossible, but it is not. I have a better support network, a better relationship with my son and well, a better everything ON MY OWN.

I am still scared, I do not trust him...I am moving into my own condo, owned by me, and my first thought is...now I will have a first floor (I live in a 2nd floor apt) and what if he breaks in and gets me, but hey, I have the local police on speed dial and know people to help.

It is NEVER worth staying.

Has he started any new medication in the last year? I went back on your blog about a year and your DH was being a great guy. I assume that is why you are still holding on to him.

People change BUUUT they should not change into abusive assholes. And sorry hun but yours has.

I know it is scary to leave your marriage but this man sounds dangerous. If you are not strong enough to leave now, get some therapy ASAP, to find out why you are still with him. And before he does something to hurt you.

Also let your mom or friends know what has been going on incase something happens to you, they will know to look at your DH.

To put it into perspective for you, this is what would happen in a loving and healthy relationship. Last night my DH wanted to have sex and started initiating some foreplay. I said "I'm sorry honey, I'm just not in the right frame of mind tonight"...he sulked for a minute (as most horny men do), then we talked it out, and snuggled to sleep. This is the respect you deserve, and should demand of your partner. This man you are with is quite obviously not rational and is seriously troubled. He needs help and you need help getting out. I seriously don't think you will be able to fix this behaviour, and to be honest you shouldn't even want to.

What meds is he on legally and what is he on illegally? You are lucky you didn't end up stuffed in a suitcase like the lady that was in Bali.

Have you called an abuse center? Have you ever told him you are leaving? If so, what happened?

It really looks like the time has come and gone for you to leave this man. There can be a much better life out there.

And BTW - if a man ever did to me what your did to you that night..well I would of told him "this little girl is just fine with you fi*king someone else. Your in Thailand...enjoy the mystery of "what's really under there" and get yourself some antibiotics. Give me your room key. Bye bye. " Then I would of switched rooms, told the staff to mot tell him my new room, then enjoyed Thailand. Then of course divorced his sorry, bully ass once I got home.

Sue

Oh puuuulezz.lol...You don't know this woman or her husband or her situation any better than I do. Everything you say may be true, BUUUT... I do know that you coming on here and basically calling her a liar could not be very helpful.

But if that is how you "help" then so be it.

My first thoughts on reading this post was that dh is "on something". I've dealt with addicts and this behavior is not uncommon. It's sounds like he was coming down from something. It's weird and abusive but it is what it is.

I'm betting that he needs to get some help. My ex would get really upset if I refused him sex. He was a total sex addict and alcoholic. He would become totally enraged at me and threaten me continuously until I just gave in. It was disgusting and I'm ashamed that I let him abuse me for so many years.