hahaha! yeah, I want a party to reveal what color my underwear are! so stupid. if I hadn't given her my number, it would have just caused more problems, without a doubt. I knew damn well why she was really asking for it. it sure didn't take her long to prove me right!

Today is her birthday. Last year, I got her a card and a gift card. She thanked FDH for it and he got the credit on fb, of course. She never so much as posts an insincere "happy birthday" on fb to DD19 or me, she missed her dad's bday last year, which is only 3 weeks after hers, she ignored DS6's bday this year, so I didn't do anything for her bday this year. I'm not sure, but I think FDH forgot. He may have texted her, but I doubt it. I know he didn't get her a card or anything. Oh well. If she can't be bothered to so much as say happy bday to any of us, I can't be bothered to spend my time and energy worrying about hers.

we are a 1 vehicle family and that vehicle is going to the shop in the morning, so we aren't going. she lives a good distance away, so we can't just catch a ride with someone else, either. besides that, she's having this gender reveal/bday party TODAY, during the week. :? FDH works 3rd shift, so that wouldn't have worked out for him anyway. Not sad or sorry to be missing all the "fun". }:)

I didn't do gender reveal parties. I hadn't even heard of them until a few months ago, but still would not have done it. I did a Surprise, It's a Baby! kind of thing. we didn't even tell anyone I was pregnant. FDH told his parents and SD about a month before DS14mos was born. A lot of people didn't even know until I had him. That's what happens when people want to treat me like shit and stress me out when I'm pregnant. You just don't get to know the next time around!

I love you guys! You make me realize that I'm not abnormal for not doing these kinds of things myself and that my POV is not just mine! I feel that some things are intimate and private and not everything SHOULD be shared. baby gender, sure. but a party to do it? Totally unnecessary. I think broadcasting everything cheapens it. There are some memories and moments that I want to be shared only between me and my child(ren), or FDH and me, whoever and me.

oh, here's another good one. this one really blew me away. a few weeks ago before I unfollowed her, SD posted that it was 2 years ago on that day that she and dh found out they were "expecting a beautiful, bouncing baby BOY!!!!!" What in the actual fuck? Now you are posting about the 2 year anniversary of your ultrasound? Are you fucking kidding me? the kid is a year and a half, I do not understand that post, nor do I understand why she repeatedly reposts pictures of herself when she was pregnant with him. and most of the pictures are only of her belly. :?

I wondered the same thing. If she has a girl, I bet for sure she will have another baby shower because her first is a boy. She will be getting diapers and wipes from us when the baby is born, and I will not be attending a baby shower at all.

oh yes, the selfies. SD is famous for those as well. She has been known to post as many as 3 in one damn day before. it is rare that I post a picture of only me, and if I do, it's just for my profile. SD needs to constantly hear how beautiful she is. Me, I don't care if anyone thinks I'm beautiful or not. FDH loves me and my kids love me and that's good enough for me.

I wish I could block her, but it's just not worth the drama.

People acting like assholes is one of the reasons we kept my last pregnancy a secret. I was horrible for announcing a prior pregnancy (that ended in miscarriage) on fb. I was apparently supposed to drive to everyone's house and tell them. (this was all FDH's family, not mine). Yet SD announced this pregnancy on fb and that was fine. When we found out DS6 was a boy, we were SO excited. we both wanted a boy. FDH's sm had to instantly be negative about how ultrasounds have been wrong and we shouldn't be so sure and we may end up with a (not the real names)Jane instead of John. When I miscarried, these same people who were so pissed that I announced on fb didn't even bother to call me and see how I was doing or express sympathy. So obviously they never really cared, they just like to bitch!

OMG. Is there any end to the ridiculous ways this new generation will try to be the center of attention and get gifts for themselves? DD is 19 and she's very unusual. Most of her friends are boys. She has 3 girls that are good friends, the rest are boys. She's not self centered and couldn't give 2 shits what anyone thinks of her. I asked her today (she has said she does not want natural children, she wants to take in foster kids) if she has any kids of her own, will she want to do a gender reveal party? she looked at me with equal parts disgust and "are you crazy" and said "Hell no! That's so stupid! Why do you need to have a party to tell people? You're going to either have a boy or a girl. You aren't the first person to have a kid!" I never even told her about SD's party, so that's just her real opinion on it. I'm so glad she is not like most of her generation!

Her mom thinks she's the best mom in the world, but SD has never had anything good to say about her to me. I would say their relationship is rocky. The reason I don't trust SD's intentions is because of how irate she was when she was almost 17 and I was pregnant, and how damn happy she was when I lost that baby. She knows after 2 miscarriages and a 2nd trimester stillbirth, pregnancy is a sensitive area for me, especially when it comes to her because of her past behavior. Part of me thinks she just wants to rub it in, but mostly I think she truly expects everyone else to care as much as she does. It bothers her that I never ask questions or make comments on her posts (that I don't even see). She's doing what she's got to to make sure I KNOW what's going on. She's trying to force me to care. The best she can hope for is that I don't completely cut her off, which I did for about 2 years. She's wanting way too much out of me given our history.