As most of you know, SD18 sued us to live with mom and put us through hell again recently trying to get back into our family. It was a disaster of a family vacation and now no longer welcome in our home. DH sees her and texts her from time to time. She left for college yesterday to the only school she could get in that is basically a party school about 4 hours from home. She will fail at this and end up back at home. I am sure. BM made her take out the student loans to go. 12K a semester. Not our problem. DH knows not to give her a dime. She knew we would have paid (DH) if she lived here and followed the rules and went to CC. 1.2 GPA has no business going away to school.

Well, my dilemma is this, I have monitored her twitter only since she tried to come back last fall to our lives. I check it once a day and it has been a way of when DH says something, I counter it with the truth. Lots of drugs, drinking and sex. I have seen it all. 6 friends were arrested last week. She wasn't, but not sure how. Last night, she posted that she got a fake ID and would be at this Frat Party and to make sure they were dressed like Sluts. I believe in the enemy you know is better than the enemy you don't. I know she is a child and I should believe in her and that she may prove us wrong and succeed, but I don't see how.

Do I continue to monitor Twitter? I feel like I need to stop, but I am afraid if I don't and something happens, she will try and come back here, since BS19 is at school and DH will tell me we are all she has, when BM is done with her. BM is moving out of town soon and will be in another town a little bit further away. But, her house is no picnic, her SD22 has an illegitimate child that they have been making SD watch all summer. She will fail miserable or get attacked or worse and need a place to go. She is Bi-polar and unmedicated. This is a recipe for disaster.

I know DH is worried about her, but honestly, I think he is relieved she is gone. She is now the school's problem. My issues are she is trying to get a Psychology degree (Ironic, I know) and will now have at least 12K in debt and will not succeed and have to pay it off. She will not be able to afford a life at all and will need help. Me, I think she needs re-hab now and a facility to get her properly medicated, not college.

I wish I could post what she posts on Twitter, so you can see why I monitor it. I am blocked on Facebook, but I blocked her and then she blocked me after she tried threatened to kill me. We have not spoken since. I am blocked from following her on Twitter, but she is public so I can still see everything. She is not smart at all. He BM is an idiot for not monitoring it. If she did, I think she would have hospitalized her several times. I don't say anything to DH unless it is something bad, but then I mention it and walk away. I will not let her cause drama between us. Life is good in my house. My kid leaves for college tomorrow and SS16, is loving his classes right now and excited about school. My company is doing great and I am finally achieving the financial security I want. I just booked our vacation over Christmas again and she is not coming and we had the conversation that DH better not even ask. Life is good.

The problem is this girl and I know the other shoe is going to drop and she will need help and we are the closest thing after BM and BM seems so done with her. I just want to make sure I know what her mess is so I can pre-empt it if needed or understand it to get her help. Ugh! They turn 18 and they are still a damn problem.

I feel like I have PTSD over what she has put me and DH through.