The every Sunday "wait"...
We have skids EOW, exchange day is Sunday. Here is the scenario when BM has already had the kids her week and it's Sunday: 11am text "When are you getting kids? I have plans."
Here is the scenario when it's the following Sunday, after we have had the skids:
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(Yep, that's a whole lot of silence!)
If we don't ask her what time she wants to exchange, she literally does not contact us. There have been times where we have tested her, and she will finally text at 8PM -- and say "so I guess I'm not getting them tonight since it's bedtime now, huh?"
It amazes me that after not seeing your kids for a week that she doesn't care AT ALL. I can't wait to just pick up my BS3 from daycare each day!!
I would like to add that I'm not asking for advice. We certainly could enforce our stipulation that says exchange time is 4pm...however it works for us to stay flexible for the times when we need to drop off late or early if we have a special event going on. So I know it COULD be fixed...it doesn't really bother us to keep skids longer on Our Sundays but it still irks me that BM doesn't care. Which is my entire problem with BM...could care less about actually spending time with her kids. And I digress...
Just wanted to commiserate with like-minded folks 
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I hear you. I have 3 grown
I hear you. I have 3 grown kids and 2 grown skids and 3 teen skids. BM's parenting and my parenting are like night and day. I can not stand the BM treats the teen skids ( adult skids are not hers). The boys are like second class citizens. She will do the bare minimum to purchase anything for them for clothes etc.
BM never does anything that would be in the best interest of the skids, only what suits her.
Yep. For some reason, it
Yep. For some reason, it always surprises me when she acts like that...5 years hasn't taught me enough! She is also the type who will not take her own kids to the doctor...or pick them up from school when sick. I just took SS To the eye dr for a bunch of testing he needed done, his first time. He was nervous. She had the option to take him (appt on her day off) but totally avoided the question. She hasn't even asked how it went.
The BM here is the same way.
The BM here is the same way. She is all up SO's butt if SD goes home and cries about some BS that happened at our home. Nothing out of the normal parenting stuff like being grounded for bad grades or losing privileges. BM is on it like a crazy person about poor SD and how she is being mistreated.
But at her house she has no room, sleeps on the couch, has to a babysit all of her moms husbands kids and if SD complains about she gets the wrath of her mother.
She doesn't buy her anything not even pads or toothpaste she takes it from our house. But she is MOTY in her sick little head.
She clearly doesn't want to
She clearly doesn't want to have to get them back. Tell her you can take them off her hands and have them full time and she would just have to pay child support and then she could make all the "plans" she wanted to.
****sound of lead balloon
****sound of lead balloon crashing and burning****
Oh, NO!!! They would NEVER give up that cash!!
Yeah we had a rollercoaster
Yeah we had a rollercoaster with that. They (not me) VERBALLY (ARRGGH) decided on EVERY WEEKEND. It ranged from her calling every 15 minutes when they came to visit trying to tempt them to coming back to the BM's to never hearing from her late into Sunday when we were going to drop them back at her house (she refused to do any of the transport).
It was as though Chef were on call (and me too until I stopped going to drop offs and pick ups). He'd have his cell close by at all times waiting for her to call and say she was ready.
When the skids would whine about wanting to go back to the BM's early, she was never available. Now I know you are *supposed* to get a CO and go by the letter, but we are talking Chef as MAJOR guilty dad and the PASinator CP BM who plays MOTY.
Been there, done that! It's
Been there, done that! It's so annoying that they need to stipulate THEIR plans, but f*ck OUR plans. Sometimes we luck when she wants them back early for whatever occasion.
One time years ago (about 8 maybe), my in-laws were picking up and dropping the skids off (as per court order at the time). They brought the kids home, like 2 hours early and BM was livid! She goes to my MIL "The CO says 7pm" and my MIL (God love her) fired back "We'll get here when we get here" and she turned around and left