OMG! She has really lost her effing mind!!
SO after all that bullshit with BM yesterday she calls here for SD today (I didn't feel like following SD around to make sure shit wasn't being talked about me) and I let the machine pick it up. I listen to the message she left while SD was playing outside and now my driving is being put into question. For the Love of God you crazy woman! I have been in this childs life about 50% of the time for 6 yrs now. I have picked her up and dropped her off probably more than BM has. Obviously I drive with her in the car when shes here. I mean seriously! So she leaves this message in the most sickeningly sweetsy concerned voice imaginable. "Hi SD baby, its mommy. I hope your trying to have fun honey. Please make sure you call mommy back later and let me know your ok baby. Im worried and just want to make sure you got there safely ok?..I love you baby, call mommy back." Fucking PUKE!! I so badly wanted to text her saying something like "Im sorry, she cant call you back right now cuz I purposely smashed my car on the side of the road and decided to leave SD there to play in traffic and see what the odds are that some crazy person will snatch her up and put her into a child trafficking slave ring...Figured she have better luck in that situation then she does with you". Of course I did not and would not send that but the temptation...oh the temptation. The craziest part? I bet you she would be at the police station with that text making herself look like a damn ass trying to get them to come rescue her poor baby from evil crazy SM.... }:)
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^^^ this. how old is this
^^^ this. how old is this child? she's speaking and treating her as if she's three, but expect the child to return her call? I'm thoroughly confused.
lol, don't forget a paper
lol, don't forget a paper bag....Bm needs one of those too!!
Bahahahaha!!! That's freakin
Bahahahaha!!! That's freakin great!! I wish I had a recording of that version! LOL....Im not really letting her work me up today. Im just amazed at her level of crazy! And like texts we keep any relevant messages she leaves as well. It sucks but we have to save EVERYTHING for her crazy antics in court. I was actually saying to DH that I wonder what it would take to have her mentally checked out. Im serious, I think shes loosing her damn mind. And SD will be 7 in a couple weeks. She hasn't mentioned wanting to talk to BM once since she got here. I think shes actually nervous to after the shit she said to her at drop of. SO Im going with if the kid asks, sure you can call your mom. If she doesn't fine by me! Not to mention DH went and bought a shit load of fireworks tonight and SD is really excited about it an Im sure that's what she would talk to BM about. Technically it is not legal to light them off without a permit, however where we live unless they get a complaint from someone they don't really care. If BM knows DH bought fireworks and knows we are lighting them off tomorrow night (already called all the neighbors and they are cool with it) she would deff call the cops on us even though she 3 hours away. Don't need the hassel and don't need her ruining it for the kids. I don't think it will kill her to wait and talk to her until sunday
New phrase on this house (no,
New phrase on this house (no, not infront of SD) "Bitch be crazy". Simple and true. SHes jealous. Period. Finally seeing it for myself clear as day has made a huge difference and SD is having a blast as usual
Last time SD was here she was
Last time SD was here she was on the phone with BM and I guess BM got her a new TV cuz she had to give the old one to her SD. She says to SD well I got you a new tv, explains the details of the tv. Sd says oh I have one like that in our camper. BM says well I got you this. SD says well I have that here too. BM says well your getting X for your b-day. SD says I have that here. BM gets all pissed and says well I guess you have everything there huh? Really BM? Get over yourself. You should be HAPPY SD has everything she needs and so much more here. Not our fault you would rather get your nails and hair done every week even though they make you look like an owl with that damn haircut rather than getting things for your kids. We don't spoil our kids. We restrict time on all electronics and such. But we also have a lot of outdoor things for the kids. We don't have to go to a park or playground, that's for sure. Perks to living in a house in the country vs a tiny apartment in the city. Again-her choice, not ours.
Don't for a second believe
Don't for a second believe that BM is worried about your driving. She's worried about her kid possibly enjoying herself away from her, so she wants to make sure she instills fear into this kid. Instead of teaching her daughter to embrace life, she wants her daughter to be afraid and insecure so that BM can fly to the rescue.
BM has decided that SD's role in life is to meet BM's needs. All of SD's relationships must be damaged so that BM can remain the centre of SD's universe.
So don't let BM get to you. Or to SD (if you can help it).
I know! ^^^^^ I couldn't have
I know! ^^^^^ I couldn't have said it better myself. I wish she would realize she is actually starting to freak SD out. SD is not a stupid child. She said something to me yesterday about being treated like a baby. I said Honey I never treat you like a baby, your almost 7. She said I know but my mom does and I don't like it. I said well maybe that's something you need to talk to your mom about. SHe left another message this morning before anyone was up. "SD honey, its mommy. This is the second time I have tried to call you. Please call mommy back and let me know your ok. I love you." SD does not understand why all of a sudden BM wants to know if shes ok at our house. Im not saying much cuz I don't want to make things worse and say the wrong thing and DH is getting a bit annoyed at this point. In her state they take phone harassment very seriously. If she keeps this shit up she will be getting a lovely phone call from the cops telling her to knock the shit off, shes freaking out the kids! :O
Hey there - this really
Hey there - this really bothers me. I guess I have a mom I have to 'take care of' and so I have a gut reaction to this stuff.
This is NOT about if SD is ok. It's about BM making SD responsible for BM's feelings.
I don't know how to teach a 7 year old how to set appropriate boundaries with her mom. But if you guys can do, it will save SO much in therapy bills later in SD's life.
It's really not a 7yo's job to reassure her mom that she's safe. First, this gives the kid the idea that it's her job to reassure her mom. Second, it gives the kid the idea that she's not safe (at dad's or at a friend's... damaging her relationships with others outside of mommy). And finally, if the question REALLY was about safety, who on earth would think a 7yo can judge that appropriately?
I suggest that you guys don't let SD listen to BM's messages anymore.
If BM's asking her on the phone if she's ok, if she's safe, etc, somehow you guys can maybe help SD come up with an appropriate answer. Like, "Mommy, I always love to be with Daddy. I'm only 7, I don't know what you mean by 'safe'. Do you want to talk to Daddy? He's in charge when I'm here. Maybe he can help." (I totally know that is not age appropriate etc etc, but maybe along those lines????)
Oh trust me it bothers the
Oh trust me it bothers the shit out of us too and we are starting to feel like we are at a loss as to how to handle it. SD heard the first message but not the one that was left this morning and SD didn't want to call her back. DH and I have each been taking time to spend a few mins alone with SD here and there since she has been home and just reassuring her she can talk to us and stuff. When she went for a walk with DH the night she got here she talked to DH about what BM said to her when she was dropping her off and made DH promise he wouldn't tell BM she told him. SD is becoming afraid of BMs reactions no matter how much she sweetsy baby talks when she says shit to her. It drives us crazy there doesn't seem to be much we can do about it. BM doesn't realize that what she is doing is only driving SD further into our arms. She has been clinging to me like crazy. Tells me constantly how much she loves me. While I love that part I know its coming from the unhealthy things BM is doing. When BM mentioned CPS we were both like bring it on, we will have them looking into your home too. We are thinking about looking into bringing a GAL into the pic. In her state whenever theres a custody hearing of any kind they almost always bring a GAL into the pic and im sure its only a matter of time before shes going after more custody as well based off made up claims. And trust me if ANYONE has ANY ideas on how we might go about this stuff better or help SD through this better PLEASE share your thoughts! This has been a huge realization for me in particular and instead of just being pissed at BM for her bullshit I am seriously concerned about SD.
It is a very sneaky form of
It is a very sneaky form of PAS. Make the child believe that she isn't "safe" with her other parent and that her mom is the only one who can properly take care of her.
And if nothing else, she is hoping it will fire you up and possibly DH as well.