Love Twitter....Reminds me everyday why she is not welcome here....
I check Twitter at least every other day. I stopped a year ago and then DH said she was changing and suicidal and we needed to bring her back into the family. SD18 to remind you all sued us at 14 to live with BM. We stopped fighting and DH didn't see her for over a year. Now he sees her periodically for lunch. That is it. Last Christmas we started having her over for dinners and ultimately I was convinced the day before we left to take her on our family vacation to NY and Boston.
Disaster when she tried to hit me and threatened to kill me in NY because she was tired of walking. Put her ass on a plane home. Turned out this is what she wanted to be home in time for a party NYE.
Long icky story. Lets just say she is public on Twitter. I have her blocked on Facebook. THis is what I see this morning....T needs to wake up so I can bake up....Seriously?
She has always had reference to drugs and her partying by the re-tweets, but this is crazy. Right before that one, her Stepsister she quotes as saying My sister "do I look like a damn walking marijuana plant?"
Next time someone asks why I monitor her public page once in awhile, this is why. I do not ever want to be so naïve that she gets back in to our family. DH tried telling me last week that she seems to have calmed down since she is babysitting her Stepsisters illegitimate baby after the boyfriend dumped her. What the hell is going on in BM's house?
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When he tried to tell me last
When he tried to tell me last week she was maturing and she may do okay in college, I laughed. It was amazing to me. Sure, if you don't follow what she is doing, it all looks good on the outside. But, I do not want her near the boys and will not fall for it again. He was hurt by my reaction, but I was clear, you need to follow her on Twitter.
Last time it cost me money and ruined a vacation. I put my heart out there again and she just stomped all over it. Not again.
She posted this at 10AM. She is clearly doing drugs and if you are doing that at that time of the day, you have a problem. We know she has done lots of drugs even posting about E and mushrooms and admitting that she has tried everything so far except heroine and coke while at a restaurant with the boys. Clearly, we are headed downhill, I just do not want anyone I love exposed to it. DH can live in la la land, but I won't reside with him there.
I truly am waiting for the day for BM to call and ask for help and for her to say she didn't see it coming...Yeah, well I did, and I have been told to butt out, when I suggested re-hab and teen camp last year for her.
I am friends with SD20 on
I am friends with SD20 on Facebook (I resisted for a long time because I didn't want to see all her pics of her running around almost naked at all the raves she goes to, but she sent me a request and I didn't want to reject it) and DH is FB and Twitter friends with her. I still don't really care to see or know what stupid stuff she is doing, but I will say it is kind of nice to know because even DH finally agrees that when she hits him up for money, he can justifiably say no because he sees how she blows her money on partying and trips and all kinds of stupid shit, when she should be working harder and saving up for her living expenses during the school year instead of trying to weasel everyone else into paying them. Any girl who is capable of working but works part time at a burger joint with no ambition to get a better job, and who blows $500 on a weekend at the Electric Daisy Carnival and rents a luxury house on a golf course in Havasu with her friends for 4th of July weekend does not get to have any of the money that DH and I bust our butts for.
I agree. But, I found when
I agree. But, I found when he stopped mentioning her for over a year, is when she fell apart completely and he talked me into letting her come back into our lives. Now I mention what I see and let him deal with it as best he can. I want to be in the loop now. I don't let her be a daily topic and honestly we do go about a week now when she and BM are not mentioned by any of us.
I haven't seen her since we put her on a plane home from vacation and it needs to stay that way. Last time DH sounded so frustrated with her and was crying about being worried, I said fine, let me go to lunch with you. You say she doesn't listen to anyone, she listens to me. Exactly, because I am the one person that always saw through her. He knows that and said "Hell no, she would freak out". Of course, because she knows, I don't buy the BS.
I wanted an apology for months after the trip, but it won't happen. It is easier for her to avoid me than recognize she did something wrong and actually do a mea culpa.
I Told him, fine, but don't keep sitting there that you don't know what to do, I am telling you what to do, you just don't want the drama.
She needs re-hab. Unfortunately neither parent wants to see it until she OD's.
I should mention, she is
I should mention, she is bi-polar and not medicated or seeing a therapist with any continuity because BM won't make her go. DH's mom is bi-polar and has had the same outburst on me. I think I am becoming more tolerant of these breakdowns. But, SD did play us and when she had hers, knew I would send her home and that is what she wanted was to attend that party.
I stalk SD16 Twitter as well,
I stalk SD16 Twitter as well, 1/2 the time it's the only way I have to know what is going on because my DH likes to leave information out or "forget" to tell me things etc. These kids are so dumb about posting everything stupid thing they are doing at every moment of the day, it's not difficult to find shit out.
I still stalked her when she moved out last year and by golly, that is how I found out she was planning on hitting DH up for a horse that she wanted to keep at MY house for ME to take care of when she hadn't evens spoken to DH in over 6 months. I remember DH was like "wow, SD16 just texted me and apologized for acting like a jerk when she moved out" I IMMEDIATELY knew something was up, so I went and checked her twitter. Her last post said "Here I go to ask my dad if he'll buy me this horse and let me keep it at his house" WTF you little twit? I blew her in and put the kibosh on that.
^^^^^^LOL, Sometimes when my
^^^^^^LOL, Sometimes when my DH gets those apology texts he asks me to check SD's twitter to see what's really going on. BRAhAhAhA. For real!
I remember that and thought
I remember that and thought "good for you". Exactly why I do this. BM will cut her off one of these days. She already totaled her car. At some point the beyotch will say enough and she will toss her back to DH. I have to know what is going on to pre-empt that.
Last week I made him call about the tattoo she was getting. Told him if she did, I do not want her here anymore. Already the nose piercing and belly button piercing. I do not want that around the boys. He did call her and told her the usual respect your body speech and the what you want at 18, you wont want at 28 speech.
Doubt it worked. She probably figured out that he looked at her twitter. She knew that before and did nothing different. She will stop posting a little bit. Then figure DH and BM aren't monitoring again and go back to it.
I rarely say anything. There is so much to say, it is exhausting.
If it is your culture, fine.
If it is your culture, fine. It is not ours. If that was the only thing I could deal with it. Add a belly button piercing, slutty clothes, too much make up and such BS that comes out of her mouth.
It is on her face and I will not spend my time looking at it. To me it is disgusting and a lack of respect for such a beautiful face. God gave you one body, you should respect it. She did this because she likes attention and knows it will upset her father.
Amen Sister. Sometimes I tell
Amen Sister. Sometimes I tell DH what SD17 writes on twitter, just to remind him why we disengaged. She splits, curses, brags about her drugs, drinking smoking, disparages people, brags about all the tattoos she gets. (mostly about suicide) One recent was a semicolon for the Semicolon Project, suicide prevention campaign. She posts Vines of herself getting high and drunk with friend. She's so stupid. We were told SD17 is BiPolar too, diagnosed with a Mood Disorder, with traits of BPD.(but we never saw the final paperwork). We think it's definitely BPD. BM is un-diagnosed BPD. Sounds like we have the same SD. She's suppose to be going to therapy, but who knows. I would love to get to a point where DH and I aren't discussing SD or BM for over a week. Someday...