baby names
sd21 told me that along with her fil being a total and utter douchebag about his sons having to name their unborn babies after themselves if they are boys or he will exit their lives (see ya, dick!), bm told sd that she "would appreciate it if you gave the baby my middle name for her middle name if it's a girl." sd told me she loves her mom, but she doesn't respect her, and surely not enough to name a child after her. my bff seriously expected to be able to name both of my sons. any name I said I was thinking about, she didn't like. of course. because she didn't pick it out. needless to say, she did not get to name my kids, and we named them what we wanted to, whether she liked it or not.
I cannot imagine telling dd, if she were pregnant, that I pretty much expect her to name her child after me. when the hell did it become acceptable for anyone other than the mom and dad to decide that they have any place in choosing a name? I'm not sure how I made through my pregnancies without breaking bff's nose, because she was SO obnoxious about it. with my youngest, I just didn't tell her what we were naming him. I told her I'm sick and tired of hearing how awful the names I pick out are, so she doesn't need to know.
I'm just dumbfounded. I would never, EVER try to name someone else's child. I sure as hell wouldn't act like it was my right. if my daughter chose to name her child after me, I would be honored and appreciative, but I wouldn't be angry if she didn't, because it would never even cross my mind that she should do that. best friends, fathers in law, mothers. who the hell else thinks they should get to name your kid, the mailman? neighbor kid? your boss? unfuckingbelievable. she's not even out of her first trimester and already people are trying to name her kid. I told bff that she had 2 kids of her own that she got to name, she doesn't get to name mine. crap like this is all the more reason why I don't feel a damn bit guilty for hiding my pregnancy right up to the birth from most people.
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both are wrong. just because
both are wrong. just because you don't threaten to not have anything to do with the kid or your own kid if the baby is not named after you does not make it any less tacky to ask that the baby be named after you. to me, not only is that in bad taste, but it also takes away from the honor of having a baby named after you.
I used my mothers 2 names for
I used my mothers 2 names for my 2nd daughters middle names. She, in turn, gave those 2 middle names to her daughter. Did I expect it? No. Did I ask her to do it? No. Am I flattered she decided to do that? Absolutely! (not to mention my mother is tickled pink).
But to just expect to name someones child? I suppose it works if you are the witchdoctor/ oracle of the tribe. }:) But some people seriously have to take a chill pill. My niece nearly named her son Onyx though. I think my sister 're-negotiated' that option out of the picture.
exactly. just be pleased and
exactly. just be pleased and feel loved and respected if someone names their child after you. but to push it, if they do it, it was out of pressure, not because they truly wanted to. sd said her bil and sil don't want to name their child after bil (who is named after fil) but because fil said he won't have anything to do with them otherwise, they will. total bullshit. I wouldn't want someone so ignorant and shallow in mine or my child's life in the first place.
I always say "I get to name
I always say "I get to name the children I give birth to".
ExMIL is German (I am not) and she had a lot of German names she wanted us to name BS, not one that I found even remotely acceptable.
Ex picked out BS's name and I picked out the middle name. We ended up tacking on a second middle name(Ex's real first name which is very German) to appease his mother.
I'm not a fan of 2 middle names. We obviously never use the 2nd middle name. Sometimes I even forget about it. LOL Legally it's on his birth certificate, but really its pointless.