Last year was a complete and utter nightmare and I'm surprised we made it to this point. After all the arguing and crying and god knows what. After all the child worshiping and friends being assholes, after worthless absent BM who filed to try to get full custody March of last year and made life hell for a year and then has disappeared again.
After SO and SS fighting me on making room for me in their lives and routines.

We are finally in a decent place.

Summary of what I'm happy about lately:
SS has stopped waking up at night lying and being obnoxious to get attention after bedtime
SO has grown some balls and but a stop to SS's interruptions
SO has stopped his need to worship his child / feel guilty and tend to his every little vocal concern

SO has finally in previous weeks acted like I'm an adult that lives in the house with him and that his child is a child who needs to be a kid and respect adults.

SO has kept date night now FINALLY without being prompted and reminded
SO has stopped getting as defensive at every word that I speak

SS has toned down his territorial issues and passive agressive behavior
SO's wife of friend has shut the fuck up for a little while and can't make eye contact with me haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

SO is more affectionate and attentive
and what's really nice is SO talks about his work when he gets home to me. He ignores whatever SS is doing and we have an adult relationship like normal people instead of catering to every whim of the child until the child is asleep
SS has had to learn that he's not the center of the earth's rotation and that he has to shut up and let dad talk to bluehighlighter, b/c SS can't give dad advice about work b/c he's a CHILD not an adult.

Happy friday to me. I'm sure they'll be doing something shortly that drives me nuts but for now I'm happy that I feel like i can breathe and exist with my SO