MSD read my message I sent her and she responded.....

If you recall the issue with MSD and me not letting her and GB stay at the house. (A few blogs back)

I ended up sending her a message to "clear the air" and try to possibly get past some of the drama. I know that DH is going to be stepping up to help MSD and GB out more, so I wanted to try to resolve some of the drama so that I can support him.

Well her response was:

"I'm sorry" but I'm not gonna read this its too long.
(((w/e)))

I think the w/e means whatever.

So like I said before I didnt care if she responded back with I love you or I hate you. It didnt matter either way. Writing her the message was more therapeutic for me and allowed me to get some things off my chest. I needed to do that in order to support DH in helping her during this time. While I dont like the current situation... it is what it is... She's just showed me that she doesn't want or need my help and support and she has no interest in trying to "work things out" and that is fine. I really didn't want to because I am fine being disengaged and not having to deal with her.

I havent responded back. I want to say "something" but I'm inclined to probably say something bitchy. Any ideas???? My lack of response can be taken as I am hurt by what she said and wouldnt dare saying anything else (because I know that is what she thinks). Kind of like she had the last word.....

The message wasn't that long that couldn't be bothered to read it. I'm pretty sure that she did read it.....I mean who sees a message and not reads it and just responds back with I'm not reading this??? LOL

I did tell DH she responded and what she said and left it at that. You could tell he was a little shocked by what she responded back with. I am sure in his head everything was going to be a-okay after I sent the message. Or that he wouldnt dare to think his precious princess would be so rude when I was trying to help out.

So moving on......

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^^yep^^^

The easiest way to drive a

The easiest way to drive a crazy person even CRAZIER is to ignore them.

When BM use to go all crazy & DH would ignore her, he would put his phone on mute & we would go on about our day. That night he would have like 10,000 texts/missed calls going from "YOU AREN'T A GOOD FATHER SD DESERVES BETTER" to "I'M SORRY LETS JUST DISCUSS THIS LIKE ADULTS IT'S WHATS BEST FOR SD" to "FINE THEN IF YOU DON'T WANT TO DISCUSS IT, IT JUST SHOWS THAT SD ISN'T IMPORTANT TO YOU!"

lmao, we loved to watch her ague with herself.

Oh she is bitchy enough to

Oh she is bitchy enough to maybe not of read it... that is for sure. LOL

She totally read it but

She totally read it but acting all "tough" about it. Childish, in my opinion.

I wouldn't respond. I would want to respond and put her in her place so she didn't think she hurt me, but then once that passed, I would ignore it and re-disengage again. It's not worth it.

I would want to respond and

I would want to respond and put her in her place so she didn't think she hurt me

^^^^^ This is the only reason why I want to respond... but I am not going to.

I'm not going to respond. I

I'm not going to respond. I am just going to keep doing what I have been doing and that is acting like the skids dont exist and not engaging with them.

YES! This is the most

YES! This is the most sensible thing.

That's all she wrote? That

That's all she wrote? That she was not going to read it?

I think not responding is the best thing. That's what actually says, "I don't care."

Yep that is all she wrote! I

Yep that is all she wrote! I guess she is too busy to read a message on FB????

Agreed. She has once again

Agreed. She has once again showed me who she really is. And each time its gets easier when she shows me, just backs up that I am doing the right thing.

Of course I always hold out hope that one day we can all just get along. Is that too much to ask? Because having conflict with my DH's kids (there is 4 and 3/4 hate me) causes an unspoken conflict in our marriage. (we will be going to counseling to discuss). But then again I think about how hateful his daughters are and know I dont have time for that in my life. I would rather deal with the "drama" of being disengaged from them then the day to day drama they would bring into my life if they were a part of it, even minimumally.

No response. She doesn't

No response. She doesn't deserve it

"Clearing the air" with her

"Clearing the air" with her was more for me and to be able to support my DH in him helping her. Of course I would have liked for that to be face to face but it was easier to put it all in a message.

I'm sure she is mad that I wouldnt let her stay and she probably could care less what I have to say. That is fine. I wasn't expecting her to come to me and beg me for foregiveness for all the wrong she has done to me and then we become one big happy family.

I dont really care if she snubbed me. Or if I gave her the opportunity to. I'm not suprised by her behavior. I dont feel she really snubbed me anyways. I think her response just proves she hasn't changed. I tried for the sake if the situation (because at the end of the day I consider being homeless with a baby and no adult support- a situation I can change my stance on when it comes to the skids and be more open and helpful)

I feel saddness for her in that I extended an olive branch in her time of need (after all that she has done to me) and she blew off that help for herself and her baby.

This is why I have no desire

This is why I have no desire to "clear the air" with my SD. I thought about it, but really there is no change with her or me for that matter so why play games.

Yeah... I guess at the time I

Yeah... I guess at the time I felt I needed to with all that she was going through at the time. I dont regret it. Im not hurt by her response. All it did was re-inforce why I dont have a relationship with her. And I know now, even when she is at a "low" I dont have to feel obligated to offer her some support.