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Missing the Man you thought he was...

noidea1010's picture

Ok, so I know I'm no longer a SM, but I just had to vent to a group a ladies that would understand.

In my last post, I left my boyfriend and his 13 year old daughter, because he's a fucking idiot.

It's been over a month and everytime I try to move past this anger and resentment, he's got to call me and bring it all back up. He thinks he's still got a chance at getting me back. And while I can't say Never, his chances of getting me back are as close to it as it can be, without actually saying the words. I've been realizing how much I gave up for him and his daughter.

I texted his daughter a couple weeks ago and she never responded back. Which is fine. I just wanted to let her know she could reach out to me if SHE wanted. She obviously doesn't. However, he must have found out, she's started texting me or talking to me, but only when he's around. Who uses their kid like that? We used to play softball together and since he's been bothering, I decided to move to a different night. He must have found out, because he joined a team that plays on the same night. His daughter called me before I headed to the park to tell me how much she was looking forward to seeing me.

Yay. Just can't give me one fucking night to myself. I'm pretty sure that she saw me before he came up to talk to me, but wasn't all excited to come talk to me, until he was talking to me, then she came over to say hi. He wanted to know why I wasn't returning his phone calls, how hard this was for him, he'd lost his best friend, blah blah, blah.

Sadly, watching him play ball sucked. It reminded me of some of the really great times we had together. And now I'm back to being pissed off. I know, I should stop playing ball for awhile. I just don't think it's right that I should have to give up something I enjoy, because he was a fucking jackass who lost me and now is trying so hard to prove to me he's changed.

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ctnmom's picture

He can't find a woman who will put up with his daughter and their relationship, - except you. Don't fall for it. And it's sick that he's pulling his child into this.

misSTEP's picture

That's pretty much my advice, too. See if you can find a hobby that doesn't remind you of him. You know, ceramics is a fun hobby. You get to pound your frustrations out on clay and then bring a beautiful item you crafted home when it is all finished. Smile