So BM crazy crazy BM that doesn't even really know her child since she left him when he was two... but this year filed to get full custody and has had forced visitation.

She is leaving to go back across the country for 6 months starting in April. Has she told her child, SS8? NOPE she finally told her mother who told my SO.

As much as I don't like BMs craziness she's how we have gotten breaks from full time parenting. My SO never gets babysitters we have to wait on someone to ask him over for a sleep over.

6 months... I doubt they are actually coming back to this state. Her new husband (#3) is a weed harvester in Cali. YEP

So all the money of SOs that she wasted on a high powered family attorney to make sure the child wasn't sent away with BM - (he has only a temporary full custody order) was all for nothing.

They were renting their home in our state and if they're gone for 6 months I doubt they'll be back.
This shit is so ridiculous. I almost hope that she never comes back for everyone's sake but we need breaks!!! I need breaks from the kid she created.

IDK how the kid is going to take it. It's not like he's known her very well at all until last year when she hopped on scene with two step children of her own that she's "home schooling" even though they are always between states and BM has NO formal education other than HS.

He was really excited about her though this year and she's just gonna run away again. She can't even fake a visit b/c she doesn't have a drivers license b/c she's never paid child support she owes. They can't even have bank accounts b/c she had one once and child support found it and took the money.

I hate this woman and all the drama and heartache and stress she's come in like a storm and caused.

I also hate that we have to raise her kid.

I would NEVER ever tell the child EVER but my SO never even wanted the kid. He and BM were dating for like 3 weeks and she got pregnant. He wanted her to get an abortion and she didn't she cancelled the appointment, wanted her to take morning after pill and she wouldn't do it. A few months later he realized how crazy she was and just married her so that she couldn't disappear with the child that was going to be born regardless if he wanted it or not. They got married she had the child, and she refused to take care of it while he was at work, one of his friends would go over to make sure it was changed and fed. She sat around and watched tv all day and went shopping. She went shopping so much that my SO had to file for bankruptcy b/c she drained him dry.

OH AND the child had a feeding tube in his stomach the first two years. He was still extremely sick when they got divorced and she fled to California with SO's neighbor. (another man to take care of her sorry ass)

I look at the child and know this all the time and sometimes I feel like I love him and then othertimes I just wish she'd done what she was supposed to and taken the morning after pill. SO is completely miserable. HE was even more so before we met. He has a great job but the child is crazy like her has some sort of something that's off. I look at him wondering if he's gonna try and kill us one day while we are asleep that's awful. He's sweet sometimes but I never trust him. He's devious. Now she's going to leave us AGAIN to take care of the egg she dropped.

She sent an email recently of "oh tell him I LOVE HIM!!!!! sorry we haven't answered his calls we've been on vacation!! " WTF pay your damn child support or his legal fees how do you have money to go on vacation and not answer the phone for the son you said you wanted.