How does a father let his teen daughter he is moving away!?!? Advice plz!!
Hey everyone! Haven't been here in awhile...but I know this is where I will get solid advice so thank you in advance 
Ok here is the thing; my husband just got an amazing job he applied for last summer....he didn't initially get it but was put on eligibility list...so few days ago they called him with a job offer! He has been wanting to find a better job anyways so this came at the perfect time!
The only issue is his teen daughter lives here w her mom...so we'd be moving away from her too...
I knew this was a burden for him but today he broke down and cried..and said "How am I gonna tell her???"
Of course we plan to have her visit other...it will be only 1hr flight...
But just wanted to ask if anyone has been through this...How do u word it so it doesn't seem like abhorible thing...
Yes it is a change for everyone and not an easy decision but change is inevitable...
Just How do you explain that to a teen??
He did over time mention to her that we might move cuz of work but this time is for real...
Thank you for any advice u might have...
Sorry for any typos....writing this from cell phone
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We are going through this as
We are going through this as well. My DH is in the oil and gas industry and has taken a new job in Texas. We hinted at it for a while so it wasn't a huge surprise when we officially told him. He took it pretty well - but - at times you can tell he is very sad. I feel bad for him sometimes. The thing is he is 17. The other SS is 20 and in college.
One part of me is beyond thrilled to move and have some alone time that I haven't had in a little more than 10 years. I'm also getting the house of my dreams. So I'm major excited about that. The other part is sad because my almost my entire family lives here and I do feel bad for SS17. His dad is his rock. My DH also cries at the thought of leaving him, but we have to. He couldn't find a job this great here.
I can see BM getting greedy with full time CS because that is how she is and time is running out for her free ride. I can also make an educated guess and expect a call from BM or SS in about 3 months begging for us to take him. I don't know what I will do because I feel bad for the kid.
Your DH should take her to dinner and just tell her. That is what we did. It has taken us several months to move because we have to sell our house here and buy one there. We are also being relocated by his new company, which is great, but takes time. But the time we have had seems to have soften the blow. Of course we reassured them that they can always come visit and that we will come here for visits.
How old is she?
Oh so good to read your post!
Oh so good to read your post! She is 13 and her dad hinted few times that we might have to move because there is no jobs where we are..so not like its gonna be out ta the blue. I think he is mostly worried of what BM might fill her head with ...u know "Oh they are moving? Well they must not care about you" and crap like that..I think it will help to compare it to her older sisters situation (different dad)too..
Her dadoved away for job, and she always went to visit and then chose to live with him and his family.
I want us to somehow assure her that its not like we are abandoning her...cuz we are not...but this job will enable us to have more money. Hence we can do more fun stuff when she visits...not just sit at home and not be able to go anywhere...
Also being 13...she will soon be ALL about friends....boys etc..
Her dad moved from his home town so he can be near her on a regular basis And has been since she was...but life changes and is not always easy
...so just one of those life lessons I guests