I feel really bad and presumably may be referred to as, “The Evil Wicked Step Mom”:
But I don’t want any of SO’s 2 kids moving in with us…they were down in December
for more than half the month and it really wasn’t that bad- a few minor issues but nothing that led me to where I am now.
After Saturdays incident ie.BM drove down to our town unannounced and the Skids whined that SO pick them up(they knew we were going to a party) and BM stalked the town we live in looking for our address, found it- whereby then the skids were knocking on the door for an hour(we had to pretend we were not home)-to date the skids did not mention that to SO(this demonstrates loyalty to BM & their inability to lie for religious reasons doesn’t exist when it
comes to their father).
I have lost A LOT of respect to the fact that BOTH skids SD 15 & SS STB 14 have not been at school for reasons that are really BS, they haven’t been to school in almost 4 months.

Anyways, my daughter was unfortunately diagnosed last week after a VERY BAD UTI with HSP PURPURA-
it’s a form of childhood vasculitis that attacks her blood vessels so she gets weird bruises and stomach issues
long term damage could be renal failure-so I am a mess emotionally already…because there is no cure,
its self-limiting.

SD in November took a half a bottle of Tylenol because she had low self-esteem because the girls in her
school are thinner and prettier than her and other teen issues(most of us feel when we were in HS)…..I
sympathize with that, but to be off school because of that is ridiculous…unfortunately BM did the same
thing as a teen(took a bottle of tylenol) and I made a comment to SO(perhaps shouldn’t have that SD is like BM they both have something
wrong upstairs-but I said it in a nicer way-but sometimes there is no nice way of saying “your kids messed up”).

I don’t know whats wrong with SD because she is in perfect biological health, so are her parents, brother, she has a roof over her head, will inherit money from BMs parents, she is pretty, not fat…..I don’t understand the issue’s and the “can you come get me daddy because my brother is home and I want peace”—you have been home since October-you’ve had enough peace already. Ironically shes okay to go "shopping"....she also has bulimia-exercises and watches what she eats like crazy, shes been like this since she was 9-shes 15 now.

I have zero tolerance now when it comes to the skids issues because my daughter has a real medical issue, its “knock on wood”-a mild case…but still devastating none the less after this happening- I have developed impatience for his kids…I feel bad, but things could be A LOT worse for them…I went thru way more stuff than those kids hopefully will ever have to-

1)when I was 6 my mom used alcohol to cope with the loss of her mother and I was her main target
2)sexually assaulted as a 5 year old by an older girl, assaulted again at 11 by a kid(male) around my age, again at 15 by a male classmate
3)mother drank whenever my dad and her would argue, get loaded and vomit- dad took off weekends at a time
4) when I was 13 my mom had a deep vein thrombosis in her leg- nurse had to come in and administer coumadin and heparin-mom almost dies
5)when I was 16 my father was diagnosed with CLL(from of a chronic leukemia)
6)17-I am diagnosed with PCOS and they thought I had a tumour on my pituitary gland
7)Severely made fun of in High School being called brutiful and fugly.

Until they have something traumatic happen to them in any way like that- I do not have patience for them.
SO is really adamant on having them live with us and I keep saying “No”-right now SO wants SD down this weekend.I have been dealing with A LOT that I don’t want her down(even though we haven’t seen her since the end of December)-
still I want a break of not dealing with someone elses problem.
I feel like if she does live with us-Ill end up resenting her or worse, SO will resent me…because I said "No".
My whole life will change and Ill have to change the washroom around again, no privacy in my home, when I go to the mall ill feel compelled to ask her to come to….if they do move in-im afraid I’ll have to move out, I don’t want to position it like that-but I think that might have to be what it comes down to.
I don’t want unstable dramatic people in my life-I realize they are his kids-Im a mother too but I don’t want them here(at this time).
SO says lets take it one step at a time, and we will have to compromise so everyone wins- I get it.
He thinks BM is the problem-shes part of the problem but I still think his kids are fucked because of genetics.