My OH went to the solicitors today as he's had enough of BM pulling her crap. OH and I got together two years ago and were together almost a year. BM hated me at the time and couldn't stand the fact her son liked me. We split up for a while and have recently gotten back together. OH didn't tell BM as he didn't feel like it was any of her business. The other day their son, as he was getting in the car was excitedly telling BM what he'd been doing that weekend and said "VaticanCameos is there too". Uh oh, cue BM's b*tch fit. She was fine that evening but the next day she totally flipped her lid. Started saying OH couldn't see his son and that he was to leave her and her family alone and started saying she was going to get an injunction against him and quoted some Domestic Violence law against him - he's never ever threatened her or been violent in any way. Next day she calmed down and just text "you can have him on wednesday", no mention of what had happened the day before.

Today he went to see his solicitor as he's fed up of her doing this. Every time she dislikes something she throws her toys out of the pram and stops him seeing his son. He told the solicitor he wanted to get a court order but they refused to help him. They said because she's now talking to him again, he just has to suck it up and deal with it. They can send her a letter telling her to behave and stop being silly but it'll cost him £200 - what's the point?! She'll just ignore it and withdraw contact again! Apparently if he were to take it to court, he'd have to convince the court that he needs a court order and they'll probably say no because she does eventually change her mind.

None of this is fair on their little boy or my OH! How can they courts be so messed up and so in favour of mum's?! I knew things were bad in this country (we live in the UK) with regards to father's rights but I didn't quite realise it was this bad. The solicitor is basically saying BM can do whatever the heck she wants as long as at some point further down the line she changes her mind and lets him see their son! AARRGGGHHH!!! very annoyed!