Skids got up Christmas Morning opened gifts without us!!!
:jawdrop:
Just like my title states. Got up Christmas Morning around 8am. The skids (10,12 & 15) evidentally got up real early Christmas Morning-- did NOT wake us-- & opened their gifts WITHOUT us!!!
My heart is really really hurt. When I asked them 'why' they didnt wake us-- I was told by skids that "Our Mom doesnt make us wait to wake her up". But yet- this is my 4th Christmas with my DH & skids and they Never did this before!!! Ugh
DH acts like it didnt bother him. For fear of a fight- I havent really discussed it yet with DH. But Id like to get your thoughts on this STalk. Are you ok with skids or even your kids doing this? I had spent some good money getting all the kids Android Tablets (got a huge deal) & was excited to watch them open them (my DD9 was at her Dads this Christmas morning).
It kinda just ruined my Christmas!! Ugh!!
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WOW! I dont even have words
WOW! I dont even have words for this. I can't believe they would even do that. They are old enough to know better. And even if they do it with their mom, they know not to do it with you guys, since this isn't your first Xmas together.
And I know I have seen some bad BMs on here, but what parent lets their kids open Xmas presents without them?
These kids just sound awful. I cant believe they would even do that.
And I would be pretty pissed if my DH responded the way yours did.
(((HUGS)))
Holy crap my skids didn't
Holy crap my skids didn't even look at the tree or presents till I said it was time. Wow just wow. That was the rudest ting I have ever heard about Christmas and kids. I have no words. I'm sorry I would be so very hurt beyond words or anything else.
Well, there is no excuse for
Well, there is no excuse for them, they knew exactly what they were doing.
Your story reminds me, last week, SD22 decided to take a shower when no one was home to watch her kids, ages 3 & 4. She lives with BM and BM's BF, so she could have waited until they were home or taken one later when the kids were in bed. There was no urgent reason she had to take a shower just then (no job to go to or anything).
Anyway, by the time she got out of the bathroom, her kids had opened every single present under the tree. BM was pissed! She told SD she needed to get her shit together and get her own place. Yeah, that will happen.
But 10, 12, & 15? That's a bit different.
Wow. I don't think I have any
Wow. I don't think I have any words for that. Those kids are definately old enough to know better. I would take away those gifts for a period of time.
I thought having SD open hers
I thought having SD open hers and announce to everyone that she didn't like the designer boots DH had bought her because was bad. If any of my kids bio or step had done that every last present would be returned. Total lack of respect
Every kid involved in my
Every kid involved in my house would of lost every gift for awhile screw that entitled shit. Remember this next year and don't put the gifts out they have to sit and wait till you feel like they earned it. Ugh I'd over rule SO if he ignored that type of stuff because being afrid of hurting the fee fees of children is great for respect
What a pack of shits! Well
What a pack of shits! Well maybe next Christmas they should get empty boxes to open early???
Shame on the kids and shame
Shame on the kids and shame on the parents even more for letting them behave like that.
What bunch of selfish asses.
Okay, it's done now. Is it
Okay, it's done now. Is it really worth the fight. I agree with you, it's not on. But your dh doesn't think it's a big deal, he's not going to support you, I'd suggest you don't fight over it but make it absolutely clear it doesn't happen again, in your house you like to be woken up, so no one opens presents till you and dh are there. You want to be woken up.
wow! how awful! I'm sorry.
wow! how awful! I'm sorry. Not sure what you can do now... except tell them how you feel and what you expect for next time...
Oh yes! There was definitely
Oh yes! There was definitely some talk of it all the night before! And when I said goodnight to them on Christmas Eve I hugged them all and told each of them to wake me & their dad up when they got up.
Its nothing new to them. They routinely wake DH up when they are here EOWE to no fail. They Knew they were to wake us up. But they didnt. Im hurt & upset about it all. I wasnt able to get pics of them opening said gifts, their Stockings etc. it truly ruined Christmas for me.
They could easily tell I was hurt by it. But they just didnt care. No remorse whatsoever. DH just did what he always does- sweep it under the rug. But they were only at our house till 10 am then DH left to take them back to their Mom at the half way point. Which is 2 1/2 hours one way. So not only was Christmas Morning ruined- but then I was left alone most of Christmas Day. In all fairnes--I chose Not to go on the drive to take them back. Oh no!! I was way too hurt.
I talked with DH a bit tonite about it. He has a very laid back who cares kinda attitude about it. Cant say thats new. Him being so very passive with the boys has caused a ton of (& 90% of our Arguments)fights between us. They simply (DH included) only seem to care about themselves. Its rediculous!!!! Plus- BM does play games alot too. Ugh. Im seriously wonderimg 'why' i stay in this crapshoot. Ugh
Very rude . . . No excuse.!!
Very rude . . . No excuse.!! Sorry hon, I would take back the gifts if you can, really!!!
I would also ask, whose idea was it for you to do that???? Wondering if any adult put them up to this, or said it would be ok???
Why is that so horrible?
Why is that so horrible? Maybe it's a cultural difference, but I just can't figure out why is that such a big deal.
Sorry, I missed the part
Sorry, I missed the part about them being told to wake them up. I thought they had no instructions about that.
I would let this be a lesson
I would let this be a lesson in taking care of other people's kids. So next year tell DH he is responsible for his kids gifts and you will take care of your daughter. Hurt feelings are controllable. Don't let them get to you this way. Back off the co-parenting and don't get sucked into the care-vortex. When my DH questions my lack of feelings for his sons on occaision I just tell him our kids had different upbringings.
Or I saw this neat idea. Every gift has a number on it and the holder of the master list calls out the name of the giftee and the number. But that would be neat if you gave a f**k.
When my DH was little his younger brother (about 3 yrs old) woke up VERY early and opened EVERYONE'S gifts.
^^^ Thats a great idea!! Im
^^^ Thats a great idea!! Im just really hurt right now. I wrapped EVERY gift those kids unwrapped. DH never lifted a finger this year to help. He has a strenuous job (first responder type) and was working alot of overtime (not by choice) so I just did them all, even staying up to 3am the night before skids came for the Holiday!!! Ugh
Its NOT a cultural difference either. DHs family was appauled by it too. Ugh
Whats done is done. It just really sucks--- but DHs bullcrap response hurt me more. He truly acted like he could care less. My DD9 would Never Ever think to do what the skids did. I am very sure of that!! I taught her better!!! She was at her Dads house. So it really feels like i lost out on that Christmas Morning thing.
I'll Not be emotionally or financially invested with the skids next year. DH can do it all for his spoiled brats!!! From buying it himself to wrapping it Himself!!!! Ugh !!!
Cultural difference between
Cultural difference between you and I. Not your skids and you.
I really don't understand why is this so bad. Unless you specifically told them not to open them without you, then I can't figure out what are you so worked up about. And if you told them, then it's a disobedience thing, not a gift opening thing.
Or I'm missing something.
But I really don't get it.
Yep, what's done is done. Dh
Yep, what's done is done. Dh couldn't care less, the steps sure showed you, you don't tell them what to do, and they're probably rstill laughing about it. Probably getting a kick out of telling their mother, and your dh, well, the only time he'd be thinking about it is when you bring it up. The only person upset here is you.
Don't give them dh included the satisfaction. Given you did speak to them the night before I agree, they were just being rude selfish brats. But all you can do now is learn the lesson and move on. Next year give your husband a heads up that working or not he does all the buying, wrapping etc., for his kids. I say give him a heads up not because he deserves it or to make it easy for him. I say it to make it easier for you. You don't wNt to be fighting with him on Christmas. So give him ample notice then enjoy your Christmas.
DH knows it was wrong what
DH knows it was wrong what they did. I can tell by the way he & I talked about it. DH wouldve gotten super defensive if he thought it was 'ok' and wouldve used his bs line of 'you just dont like my kids' crap- but- instead DH is being super sweet to me & all. Lol. Thats DHs way of saying hes sorry-without saying the words 'im sorry'. Thru the years Ive come to recognize his ways. Lol
Ohhh... Forgot to add... Last night I went thru pictures of years past. Guess what I found? Pictures of all our kids- opening presents with both DH & I right there with them!!! I left those pics up on the laptop so DH would see them this morning when he got on it. Haha. I know he saw them but he hadnt said a word. Lol
Its just not worth a fight between DH & I at this point. But I guarantee next Christmas things will be different.
They are little brats and did
They are little brats and did that to hurt you. Anyone who pretends to think any different is not being honest!! I would never buy them anything again.
Little spoiled brats-!! will backfire on whoever thinks this is cute ha ha ha ha ha, now that will be funny! }:)
What a bunch of entitled
What a bunch of entitled asshats. SOME of whom are old enough to DEFINITELY know better!
I hope that your DH has some good punishment in store for them. And the next time you guys have them, I'd be tempted to hide the REAL presents and wrap up some empty BOXES for them to open up if they can't wait!