More drama yesterday when SD15 was found out to be binging and purging, then screaming when her stomach was in pain. Here is my situation....I am not married to their Father, we live together and are engaged. My own daughter 17 lives with us. In a relationship with him now for four years, living together for 2 when all hell broke loose with BM over her jealousy of our nicer and bigger home. SD15 and SS11 continue to disrespect me, my life has become one of a great weekend and then a miserable one which I dread. Now BM is dumping SD15 off with us more because she cannot handle the issues (SD 15 having sex with numerous partners, all underage boys, bulemia, hatred and generally obnoxious). DH wont acknowledge her bulemia. BM and him continue to text constantly so much I am definitely the third wheel. The texts from BM start at 8am on Sunday mornings. Yesterday at Sam's Club I finally got him to agree to adding me to the membership card so I can shop there when he is out of town for work. I was told his ex is still on the card and I would have to pay 45 bucks. DH got all angry with ME in front of the poor Sams Club woman and insisted I was making a fuss over nothing. Seems BM has had a membership card paid for by him for the eight years since divorced. DH insists all the drama with her is because they have children together but he still has her name on everything (mortgage, car registration, clubs etc). The kicker is....I am financially independent, earn more than DH, and the reason we have such a nice home is because I have a good wage. He does too but both together we do well. I love DH but have to face reality now. My home is not my home anymore and his toxic kids, toxic ex wife and sick relationship with her is making me mentally ill. I am getting out after the Holidays. For my daughter's sake and mine. Can I ask your advice although I am pretty sure I know the answer. :?