Wow. What just happened?!?!
A few days ago I walked into our laundry room and SD had put her laundry hamper next to the washing machine. I am the one that does most of the laundry in our home and it doesn't bother me. But this did. Most of the time if something needs washing DD7 will ask me or tell me "Mommy, I'm out of jeans." Even my DS4 will say "Mommy, my favorite jammies are in the hamper, can you wash them for me please?" I am usually on top of the laundry around here, but somehow SD11 went through a ton of clothes in just a couple of days. Back to the point.. I walk into the laundry room and the hamper is sitting next to the empty washing machine and it just irritated the hell out of me. Not because I don't want to wash it, but because not one freaking word managed to escape SD11's mouth regarding her dirty clothes. DON'T ASSUME! I hate it when people assume that I will or won't do something. Open your damn mouth and ask!!!!
DH called me a few minutes later and I bring it up. I tell him that it's probably petty and dumb, but I wanted his thoughts. He said that SD should have asked me to wash it and she shouldn't have just assumed. I told him that it's not worth bringing up to her, but if she does it again, I will calmly tell her that she needs to say something, to ask, and not assume.
Saturday: SD and DD7 are doing their chores and also cleaning up their room. DH is in the kitchen and he sees SD dragging her hamper into the laundry room again. DH looks at SD and says "Is the washing machine empty?" SD says yeah. DH tells her to load it up and to wash her clothes. He also told her to stop leaving her hamper in there without asking anyone to wash her clothes. He told her it's not okay to assume that anyone is going to do something for her without so much as a peep out of her mouth.
I'm standing at the counter and I look over at DH and he winks at me. Umm..Okay. I tell DH that the conversation we had a few days ago was not my way of making SD do her own laundry. I just want her to learn how to verbally ask for something. DH hugged me and said he understood, but she is old enough to wash her own dirty clothes.
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Does she know how? I was not
Does she know how? I was not allowed to wash my own clothes even after I graduated high school. My mom was paranoid I would damage the washer. College was rough but I learned.
Yes she knows how. She was on
Yes she knows how. She was on this kick of washing her clothes for maybe a week last year.
Your DH is quite the
Your DH is quite the gentleman.
Thank you, Echo. When I saw
Thank you, Echo. When I saw the hamper in there my first thought was Passive Aggressive. I didn't say anything to her directly because I wasn't sure if my thoughts on this were right. I thought maybe I was overreacting. But after speaking with DH, I now know that I was right and it won't happen again.
The laundry blogs make me
The laundry blogs make me laugh my ass off. I do all the laundry at home. DH's, mine and BS16. All they have to do is sort it on the hallway floor for me and I kick it down the stairs and wash the 3 loads. EVERY single week. Blacks, whites, colors.
If BS16 needs something washed and it isn't laundry day (I do it Saturdays or Sundays and that is IT) he washes it himself. Laundry has never been a hill I want to die on. It's not like I'm on my knees in the meadow with a washboard and a bar of Ivory soap.
LMAO - me too - well except
LMAO - me too - well except for dd21 - she will mostly do a load or two of her own each week, everyone else (and I mean EVERYONE - me, OH, SD13, DD11, SS10 and DD8) either put it in the hamper (us - in our room) or down the laundry chute from the upstairs bathroom (all kids)
And I wash the lot. OH will often help out on a Friday night if I sort it before I go out, he'll put on a load or two and hang them out if I leave the piles neatly sorted in our room.
Doesn't bother me to do the lot, in fact I prefer it to everyone trying to wash just a few things at a time - we had huge drought issues here for about 5 years, so running the maching not full was a big NO NO. And this way I control the hanging space LOL - if everyone was doing there own apples to oranges they'd all want to do it the same day and there is just not room to hang it all out etc.
I must be spoiled, SS17 has
I must be spoiled, SS17 has done his own laundry since he moved in & BS 10 has been mostly doing his own for the last 2 years. On the other hand, my DH puts himself on laundry duty during the school year & since I don't work, I try to take over the summer laundry... that & I like to hang it out in the summer.
Wow is right. What an
Wow is right. What an inspiring example of effective parenting and an effective marrital relationship. Thanks for sharing. That gave me a smile.