Confronted BM with SS9's Paternity Test Results
And you know what? She didn't bat an eye. She had NO reaction whatsoever other than a smirk. No sooner had DH finished telling her about the test and saying it didn't change the fact that he loves him and he'll always be his "son" than she came out with,
"Do you want SF to adopt him?"
We really didn't know what to expect going in to this, but we didn't think she'd immediately jump to that. DH said no, that's not what he's here to discuss, that he just wanted her to know that he had a test done, and that SS9 deserves to know who his biological father is if only for health reasons. I don't think she heard any of that. She just sat there smirking and talking about how her husband will adopt SS9.
Know what this tells me? She's known all along that SS9 isn't DH's kid, and has been lying to him for nine years. Also, that she and SF have discussed adoption. DH isn't sure where he stands on that. He'll be giving it some thought. If SS9 really will be happier without us in his life, if he continues to not want a relationship with us, then that may be an option.
Then, after BM stood up to leave but before she walked out, she said, "Oh, and by the way, we've already been through DNA testing. I know how it works." Then she smirked and walked out. Really, BM? Sounds to me like she's already had SS tested, and I'm guessing SF IS his father, as we suspected.
This pathetic waste of humanity has effed her son up. You can't just replace one father with another. She doesn't seem to realize (or care) about the damage she's caused. She doesn't care that she lied to DH and made him think all this time that this child was his. I have never wanted anyone to die a slow, excruciating death more than I have this waste of flesh.
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It sounds like SF and BM have
It sounds like SF and BM have been living a lie. If SF is so open to adopt, I too would guess he is the father.
Wow... The smirking would
Wow... The smirking would have made me smack her right then and there.
Oh, believe me, if she hadn't
Oh, believe me, if she hadn't walked out, I don't know if I could've controlled myself. And I'm a VERY levelheaded person!
I don't know. I think I'd
I don't know. I think I'd rather have the skid than be dealing with this shit.
WOW! What a terrible
WOW! What a terrible terrible person.
Refresh my memory...have yall talked to SS? And is there another SS? Has DH thought about getting him tested?
DH wants to meet with SS9 and
DH wants to meet with SS9 and talk to him. But We're pretty sure BM has been telling him all along that DH isn't his father. Still, he deserves to hear it from DH.
There is also SS14, but he's definitely DH's. They look exactly alike, so no doubt there.
I have been following your
I have been following your blogs biting my nails. DH would have had to yank me back before I slapped the sense of taste out of her smirking ass mouth. How dare she! The nerve. I cannot even beileve. Wow man what a b*tch! I am so sorry for your DH and your SS that her dumbasss did this to them and to you and had the freaking nerve to smirk in your faces. Ghost let me at her ! Let me at her! I'm seizing for you. I'm sure alot of us want to take a swing at her for you. I am pissed for you. I'm sorry I'm invested in this. What a nasty whore cunt faced b*tch! excuse the language. How dare she!
Thank you for putting my rage
Thank you for putting my rage into words! Shall we form a posse and surround her house at night? We'll all carry torches , drag her ass off the porch and beat her! Geez, if I don't make light of it I'll cry. It's so devastating to SS, DH, and his whole family.
But no, I really, truly did want to beat the shit out of her. I really, really did.
I'm so sorry ghost you are
I'm so sorry ghost you are about to make me shed a few tears but I'm at work and people are nosey. If I could pull her into an ally and beat the crap out of her I would. Wow I read about alot of crazy BM's on here but this one pisses me off the most. How could you look your child in the eye knowing you have been lying to him for years and most likey she will feed him more lies because people like that never take responsibility. Jush uggggh!
Does SS14 know yet that his
Does SS14 know yet that his mom is a skanky whore and that his brother is actually a half brother...?
IMO his brother is still his
IMO his brother is still his brother regardless and depending on his maturity level I see no reason they should bring him into this. His BM would probably twist it and try to make her DH look bad. JMO.
I agree, and she has already
I agree, and she has already twisted it. I can hear her talking to SS9 IF DH decides it would be in his best interest to give up his rights: "see? He's not your father. He's nothing to you. He never loved you or we wouldn't have thrown you away." Yes, she would say that to him.
Don't know. I'm sure she's
Don't know. I'm sure she's been hearing BM and SF talk openly about it, since the kids are included in every adult conversation.
I second that we should start
I second that we should start a petition! Justice needs to be served. It is not ok no way no how that she can do a thing like this destroy lives and get away with it and smirk in your face. She gets to go on living her life like nothing happened while she destroyed 3 people. Her own son especially. Yes testing should be done at birth! It took me three years to conceive and I thought I would never give birth and now I have my miracle DD6. I had a hysterectomy a few months ago so I can't have anymore kids. But this peice of filth gets to pop out babies and destroy ther lifes? I am so sorry ghost.
Thank you. My DH really is an
Thank you. My DH really is an honorable person. He's always taken the high road, as hard as it's been. We can only hope that Karma serves up a cold, congealed plate of reality soon and stuffs it down BM's throat.
I wish there were some kind
I wish there were some kind of legal recourse, but I don't think there is.
She's never asked for
She's never asked for support. Now we know why.
yep,i'm jealous
yep,i'm jealous too...damn.....
He's kind of leaning That
He's kind of leaning That way, honestly. We don't know for sure if SF is the biological father though, or if BM is just suggesting that he adopt him because that's what SHE wants. (She doesn't give a crap about what's best for her kids, and doesn't care who she hurts to get her way, meaning DH). If SF is his father, so be it. That's one of the sad things: the kid may never know who his actual father is.
I agree that IF SF is really
I agree that IF SF is really the bio Dad, then perhaps it would be best for the kid to make things official and let him adopt so they can start building a real father son r/s and so that SF can step up and take full responsibility of his child (also, given the PAS etc it might be the easiest path).
However, this BM is a lying whore of a c***! (excuse my language) I don't think your DH should do anything because it's what SHE wants and what makes HER life blissfully perfect. Perhaps go to a lawyer and do everything legally. If she can provide a DNA test proving SF is the bio Dad, then proceed with the adoption (if that's what your DH wants). IF SF isn't the bio Dad, I think it's a ridiculous idea for SF to adopt, BM can't play "whose your Daddy" with SS's life forever! If SF isn't the bio, then that slutty whore needs to point out the right man! Her son DESERVES to know his true heritage!
I agree with all of this.
I agree with all of this. What if SF isn't the bio dad, and they get divorced? Is she going to ask him to give up his rights so the next hubby can be "the real dad." Probably.
Holy shit! That bitch has
Holy shit! That bitch has balls! To sit there smirking the whole time knowing that she deceived your dh and her own son in the most malicious way for over nine years is astounding.
***And the winner for best dramatic performance by a duplicitous, gold-digging, black souled, hag is.... This Cunt!***
You have my sympathy...
And yet she's able to look
And yet she's able to look in the mirror every day and like what she sees. Unreal. I can't even fathom treating anyone that way. It just boggles the mind.
DH has never paid support.
DH has never paid support. But he could get his legal obligations terminated. That way, when BM and "Daddy" can't deal with the monster they've created, he can't be dropped on our doorstep. You wanted him, you got him!
Where's Fight Club when you need it? I could SO take this nasty heifer! }:)
My BIL is going through this
My BIL is going through this same thing right now. His ex has been on a major PAS campaign against him and my sister. She stopped letting him see her and proceeds to tell him that "she's been wanting to tell him for a while but DD11 might not be his"!!! DNA test confirmed....11 year old daughter is not his!!! These women should be shot for what they are doing to not only the dads who have been tricked into caring for and about a child that is no theirs (because she knew from the get-go the baby was not his), but to the children who don't understand what is going on.
And think of all the people
And think of all the people who are being hurt by this:
-SS9 most of all
-DH
-SS14, who will have to deal with having a whore for a mother
-My BS17,who was very excited to have a little stepbrother
-Me. Believe it or not, I grieve this loss as well. SS9 and I used to to be close
-DH's entire family, as BM has alienated them
-My entire family, who accepted both SSS as their own and treated them the same as the other grandchildren/nephews. This includes my nephew8, who became good friends with SS9 and doesn't understand why he's not around anymore
BM has no family that will speak to her. She's estranged from them all because she a psycho bitch. So now it's just her, SF, and SS9, just the way she wants it.
>No sooner had DH finished
>No sooner had DH finished telling her about the test and saying it didn't change the fact that he loves him and he'll always be his "son" <
This - right there - is probably a true defining moment of your DH. All fathers, biological or not, should aspire to such unwavering commitment despite being confronted with an ugly truth such as this. My hat's off to him.
ETA: Solely based on what you wrote of BM's reaction, she's the mother-fraking flagship of Sociopaths.
Thank you for your compliment
Thank you for your compliment to DH. He really is one of the best men I've ever met. I'll share your compliment with him.
And amen to the Flagship of Sociopaths comment! I work with Cluster B PDs all the lifelong day, and they've got nothing on this bitch.