Thanks BM you usless good for nothing POS!
My SS10 Has high functioning autism. We live in the suburbs with a HOA, nice neighborhood in FL. She lives in Massachusetts. She sees SS twice a year. We have had him since he was 5 and to me he is more MY son than hers.
This year for his birthday she sent him... a f****** compound bow and arrow set with extra arrows. Are you kidding me!!!!! Didn't ask, no warning it just showed up in the mail. We have 4 children in this house including a baby!!! For the last year we went through problems of Ss forgetting to wipe his b*** And you think a compound bow and arrow is appropriate?
Does she want him to kill himself?!? He's f****** autistic you b****! WTH!!! So essentially she bought him nothing because I'm not allowing him to have those. I won't even let my husband get a gun. Weapons are not allowed in my house and she knows it.
This caused a fight between DH and I. I said its not to come out of the box and he said well maybe we can take him somewhere that he can use it. Ummmm NOOOOOO are you daft as well?!? SS is not upset at all he understands actually. He knows my feelings on weapons. He calmed me down and said it's okay I don't have to use it. He is very sensitive to people's emotions even though he forgets the most basic life skills. I told my husband over my dead body will this be in my house and it is something that I will walk out with my kids over.
In my opinion, while most decisions in marriage are joint, it only takes one veto with weapons. What the hell was she thinking?!? I asked my step son and he said no he did not ask her to buy them.
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I think we were typing at
I think we were typing at same time....yes, I totally agree with this.
So sell it and get the kiddo
So sell it and get the kiddo something else that he can enjoy.
IMO being that the child may not be able to accept some of the gifts his BM sends (no clue what she was thinking here :? ), I don't think it would be out of line to pre-open (screen) the presents when they arrive. BM has proved it's anybody's guess what might be in an arriving box and that she can't be trusted to use appropriate judgment. The next time a box arrives Dad can open it and decide if it is something suitable for the child to actual receive. Why receive a gift a child should not have or only use so very seldom? Gifts are meant to be enjoyed. If this BM was known to use better judgment normally I'd not suggest screening gifts, but hey, certain times it is what it is. You can't trust BM and there's no need to excite the child then disappoint him due to inappropriate gift.
In the event that DH decides the gift stays, be sure it is at all times safely locked in a case or trunk in a locked closet with the arrows locked in a different secure place. There are indoor shooting ranges where Dh could take the child and supervise under strict conditions, but seriously, at 10yr olds, I'd think there would be something the child would enjoy and be able to use more often (JMO).
I'm sorry the child BM put your household and SS in this situation, it was thoughtless but don't be too hard on your DH. He didn't do this. Suggest the selling thing and see if he can't find a good home for the 'present' to somebody that will get use and enjoyment out of it.
^^^^This
^^^^This
Agreed. It's getting sold!
Agreed.
It's getting sold!