Ive decided on a coarse of action

Ss's clothes will be dumped in his room as soon as I grt home from work. If he questions me, this will be my response...

Well, your fathers next day off is Sunday, and I am not smelling and stepping over you dirty clothes for three days. You czn work out with your father how this clothes will get clean..... But it will not be by me and it will not sit in my bedroom.

What do you think?

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I think it's great. It's the

I think it's great. It's the only way SS and DH will learn

Thanks

sounds like a good plan, now

sounds like a good plan,

now I sit back and impatiently await your blog on what your jackass DH says/does when you do this

Good for you!!!

Good plan! I just wish it

Good plan!

I just wish it was geared more toward DH.

Just cause I don't like him! lol

Perfect!!! Can't wait to read

Perfect!!! Can't wait to read what they do/say to That! Nothing if they are Smart enough!

LOL I'm going camping soon,

LOL

I'm going camping soon, I could set up a bon fire }:)

Maybe this is just me, but I

Maybe this is just me, but I do laundry on days when I work... why does laundry have to be done on DH's day off. I mean it is not like you have to go to the damned river and beat the clothes on a freaking rock. You open the lid, throw in some soap and magic...clean clothes. Throw in dryer and an hour later on the hanger. I do this after a 9 hrs day, an hour woth of traffic fighting both ways, between making dinner & homework, letting dogs out AND I feel like crap because of my MS.

Ha ha! @beating clothes on a

Ha ha! @beating clothes on a rock

I do laundry whenever DH/BS3/MY joint laundry hamper is full. I take it down to the basement before I leave for work in the morning, put it in the washer. Then at some point when I get home that night put it in the dryer and then either that night or the next night I fold it and put it away. We had some friends living in our basement for a couple of months (while they were looking for a house) and she used to wait until her "day off" to do laundry and then bitch about how she had to do laundry alllll day. Well, duh!

I guess theoretically he

I guess theoretically he could do laundry any day. I choose not to do laundry after working 10 hours.....dinner, dishes, baths, book time are plenty for me.

And experiance tell,me he wont lift a finger zfter work......so why leave the pile there when I know the earliest he will dk it is Sunday?

But it would be logistically difficult for him after work... The laundry room is attached to our bedroom, where bs1 sleeps. Dh gets home at 8 and the baby is already in there sleeping.

Thanks for the laugh. The

Thanks for the laugh. The river image made me chuckle hard.

Also, pardon my overreach but have you heard about the Wahl's Diet for MS? Fascinating stuff.

I have not. I was just

I have not. I was just diagnosed last week and released from the hospital. I have not started any official treatment until next week. I will have to read up

Just looked. It's "Wahls", no

Just looked. It's "Wahls", no apostrophe. She is a doctor who ended up in a wheelchair with MS then changed her own diet and basically reversed it. Definitely check her out. Hopefully her experience can help you as it has others. Sorry to hear you are going through that.

how old is your SS? is he

how old is your SS? is he old enough to do his own laundry? i was 11 when i started doing all mine. my parents were bad alcoholics and if i didn't do them i had to wear dirty clothes

I wanted to ask the same.

I wanted to ask the same. That's where I would focus at this point unless he's under 10. As I wrote below, I waited far too long to do this with my own son and I would never make that mistake again. I don't believe children should have a ton of chores. But after 10, I think keeping room clean, picking up after oneself, helping with dishes, setting table and doing one's own laundry is not too much to ask.

He is 11....soon to be 12

^^this

I think that's great. SD12

I think that's great. SD12 knows how to do her laundry...so should SS12.

Again I feel that it is the

Again I feel that it is the man that the issue lies with. When I look at my own story and many of the ladies on here I feel like we settled for a bunch of fing big babies. Men who are not really men and expect that we take care of them. What happened to putting on your big boy panties and being a real freaking man verse a waste of space who uses wife #2! What value do they bring to our lives???

No offense peanuts, my husband is a big lazy baby and if I could be done with him and never deal again I would.

I feel that it is the man

I feel that it is the man that the issue lies with
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That is true for 99% of all of our issues on this site.

Peanut, I haven't commented

Peanut,

I haven't commented on these but I have to tell you I've been thoroughly enjoying reading this saga and have been silently supporting you.

First, it's funny to me because I had a very similar issue with my own BS a few years ago. I raised him alone and was sometimes way too easy on him because I just didn't have it in me to fight after working hard all day, etc... But then when he hit about 16, I started losing it over the laundry. I taught him how to use the machines and told him he needed to start doing his own laundry. This was especially spurred on by the fact that I was sick and tired of doing his clothes only to realize that half of them belonged to his friends who were always camped at my house.

So I drew the line finally and said "That's it. I am fed up. DO YOUR OWN LAUNDRY. I won't do it one more time!!" And then the pile grew and grew and grew until it almost took over the entire house. And I didn't touch it. Neither did he. One night, I was exhausted after work and he was being a compete ungrateful lazy ass and then decided to invite like 20 people over. I completely lost it, kicked everyone out, we had a HUGE fight, to the point where he moved into his friend's house for a couple days. It was awful as we'd always been so close but I was at my end and he was being a jerk ass teenager.

Well, it worked. He eventually moved back and we never had a laundry issue again.

Now what's the difference between my story and yours? 1- My son is my son and I could say what I wanted to him without all these weird step shit rules. 2- He didn't have some adult male (father) there expecting ME to do it. I would be pissed as hell if I were you.

Reading your stories on this actually reminds me that my FDH does have some really positive things sometimes and this is one of them. He doesn't expect me to do anything like laundry for his kids and is grateful if I ever do. So, thanks for the reminder that I do have some blessings to count in this situation.

KEEP IT UP! I won the Great Laundry War of 2008 and you can win this one too!

I have loved reading about

I have loved reading about the laundry saga as well, and I think your response is perfect.

WTF is it about laundry? I have a slightly different situation here, as FDH does the laundry way more often than I do. However, his idea of doing the laundry is to to wash, dry, put in baskets and leave it there until he gets around to putting it away. He used to ask me to help fold/hang the skids' stuff. Ummm, no. They are 12.5 and 9 - they can AT THE VERY LEAST do that part themselves. I certainly am not the maid to their lazy asses.

He balked at making them help with THEIR OWN CLOTHES until he realized that it gets done waaaayyy faster when they're involved. Lol. It's like training dogs, I tell ya.

not necessarily you teach him but DH

"give a man a fish and you

"give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime"

Same thing applies to laundry. give a kid clean laundry and he has clean clothes for a few days. Teach a kid to do laundry and he has clean clothes for a lifetime..... }:)

not necessarily you teach him but DH