Would this be vindictive of me?
So, unbeknownst to me, SD17 had tweeted about things being okay, okay (she used the okay symbol) when Dad kicks out his girlfriend. I should clarify with her that her dad never kicked me out. And the day that she tweeted that her dad was with me! Anyways, the weekend after her tweeting that, I fell for her bs and took her and her girlfriend to the mall. I spent $75 on make-up for her and bought her a few outfits NOT knowing that she had tweeted that about dads girlfriend....If I would have seen that tweet I would have NEVER taken her ungrateful ass shopping and spent that much money on makeup or wasted my Saturday afternoon with her. $75 spent on foundation, concealer and a powder...
Now, she is in deep shit and as far as I know, SO is going to have a long and serious talk with them. Would it be vindictive of me to take back the make up that I bought for her? I really want to do that. And I also want to take back the outfits that I bought for her. But I figure she can keep those because no one will be taking her back to school shopping any time soon.
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I bought her make up from a
I bought her make up from a department store. I can return it. I don't even need the boxes. I think I will be doing that.
She came back from being with her POS BM for a full year saying how she missed me and she realized the ways she acted was wrong. Swore up and down she was a changed person. Totally USED ME!!!
I wouldn't say vindictive,
I wouldn't say vindictive, I'd find that rude, bad manners. I understand that you want to take it back because she doesn't deserve it and you didn't know it when you bought it, but it's a gift and it's already given. I don't think you're supposed to demand a gift be given back, no matter how much someone deserves to have it taken away.
Sorry. But you made a mistake by trusting that girl. It's over now, don't do it again, but taking it would just seem... you know.
Good luck! I hope that you manage to go through everything this girl starts and put an end to it.
Wow! I would be the rude one
Wow! I would be the rude one and I would be the one with bad manners?!? Sure, onebanana...Tell me how do you deal with your disrespectful teen SDs?
Plus, once you give something
Plus, once you give something to someone, it's theirs. You don't get to ask for it back even if you think they don't deserve it anymore.
It wasn't a gift. She was
It wasn't a gift. She was supposed to be working it off. Which to my knowledge she hasn't finished working off that make up. Especially when she has been given more money in between.
Accidentally dropping them on
Accidentally dropping them on the floor and they all shatter never to be used again sounds like more fun than returning the items. }:)
Thats a good one too! But
Thats a good one too! But dammit I can get my money back! And then go treat myself to a mani and pedi!
SS16 just asked me what he should eat for lunch, I said "Go out to the back yard and the first piece of shit you find is what you will have for lunch" BUT I didn't...
SD17 didn't get makeup from
SD17 didn't get makeup from Wal-Mart or Target were you can't return it. I bought it for her from a deparment store were they take back items months after they have been purchased.
Yes, cutting her off would be the best thing to do. And accidentally dropping her makeup and causing it to break sounds like an even better thing to do.
Compared to what her BM did to her, returning her make up is petty.
The make up was not a gift...
The make up was not a gift...
SO did tell SD17 that she
SO did tell SD17 that she lost the best thing that ever happened to her. Best thing for her would be ME. Let's see what excuse she comes up with.
That is exactly what I was
That is exactly what I was thinking! So if you give your child a cellphone and they abuse cell phone privileges, it would be RUDE OF US TO TAKE THEM AWAY?!?!?
I would take it back. But do
I would take it back. But do it right in front of her with your DH there.
Stand there and say something like "So, you think telling lies to your friends is funny when you suck up to me and I buy makeup and outfits for you? Well this is what happens when you are deceitful and dishonest. I am taking back this and this and this and this. The outfits will be returned/ given to Goodwill (if she has already worn them). And now you will hand me your cell phone. (She hands it over) And now I am tweeting ALL your friends and telling them that "Oops! I lied. My DH is still with his gf. I bite the hand that feeds me."
Then take away her cell phone for 48 hrs. Keep the makeup and tell her she will get it back after the first semester of school with excellent grades and no more nastiness.
If she didn't open it, I'd be
If she didn't open it, I'd be taking it back.
If she did open it, then I'd be throwing it away. There would be no way in hell I would accept that behavior. My DH would accept bullshit from SD. She would treat him like fucking dirt and then say "daddy can I have...." I'd be like you're not going to reward her behavior are you? Of course he would.
Take it all back. It would be
Take it all back. It would be the best thing, since I'm sure she's struggling with her conscience in using things bought by someone she feels this strongly against.
You're simply keeping her honest.