I've recently married (1 yr) a wonderful man who has two adult children 25,27. The older one is a teacher and lives in another city. However, his younger son has been in and out of trouble (nothing major), drop out of high school, doesn't work because his license was suspended for a year,lost his social security (his excuse), had one but due to his license suspension he doesn't-car is parked--father bought the car), he recently moved in (months ago)...he has no job (so, free everything rent,food,partying money,red bulls,cell phone etc) you get the picture. My husband is a wonderful man..loving and kind to a fault. Good provider and makes very good money..His son knows this. I'm left where I am unable to tell his son anything..He wakes up everyday at 3pm or if I'm lucky to see his face..sometimes as early as 2ish....does nothing all day but smoke cigarette and play guitar (he is extremely good--absolutely outstanding on the guitar but hasn't done anything about his talent). Before you bring it up..I've tried encouraging him (more his father than I) to use this talent to his advantage to no avail. He claims he can't work without a car. His room is super messy like a roach that lives there..I clean it every time he leaves to stay or visit friends for a few days...but always comes back after partying (to mess it up again). He helped me out once...but don't see him helping out again (or in the near future)..I can't stand it anymore..I'm consumed and fueled with anger (my husband knows this) but his son does not..My husband chooses to manage all affairs with his son..so I don't tell his son anything. I say hi! and chat about all other things except the big elephant in the room...I want to tell him that I know your down on your luck but you must HELP out AROUND THE HOUSE..!!make up for the lack of a job!!...make this home your job..SOMETHING..ugh!!! My husband has lost his mind...I told him that I came home with lots of groceries and text his son twice to help take the groceries out of the car..with no answer..when I got home I knocked on his son's door...I told him if he could help..he said "yes, I'll be out there"..He NEVER came out...he fell right back to sleep..I did it all by myself..I was so angry..(as a matter of fact he is still asleep as he wakes up till 3p)..anyways, told my husband in hopes he would comfort me or understand me...his response was....."why did you go shopping in the morning if you needed help from my son...You know he wakes up at 3pm--You should have gone late in the afternoon, I'm sure he would have help you then???!!!!! OH MY GOSH!!! I THINK I AM IN BIG TROUBLE AIN'T I???? My husband has lost his mind!