BM has been telling some of my good friends who I attend church with that I had sexual contact with DH while they were still married. She also said that we started a serious relationship that tore apart her marriage. :jawdrop: None of this is true. Yes I knew DH while they were still married I met him in scripture study so I knew his face but we never even as much as sat next to each other. It wasn't until after he divorced her that we even began talking and even then it was just a refreshing friendship that led to talks over brunch once a week. There was an exchange of compliments as we were walking through the park one day that led to us holding hands that's it. I drove him and his kids around sometimes when he had arthritis flare ups in his hand. We just gradually found our self's in a committed wonderful relationship. No sexual contact whatsoever until our wedding night. yes we did move in together and buy a house a month before we got married but we had been planning to buy a house for a while. We slept apart every night other than the weekends we had the steps.

I did se him naked a few times and of course we had lustful feelings which I am ashamed of but I am only human. I have repented of my sins. BM spreading these lies throughout my church is a very big thing for me. It could frown on my worthiness of certain things and cause all types of problems. This troubles me deeply and it hurts because I have tried so hard to be a virtuous woman carrying myself with grace and self respect. And I don't want that to be tainted . I am a role model to young girls in my church. I have made numerous mistakes in my lifetime and I take responsibility and will own up to each and every one of them. I have my flaws I am no where near perfection. I know some of you may not understand why I am so upset or why this bother's me so much. I could lie and say I don't care what people think of me. But I do care I care that I am thought of as a good woman. That when people talk about me they talk about me in a good way. when people see me I want them to smile my way not frown. When someone tells outrages lies about you and damages your character it makes you feel rotten. You feel guilty even when you know you have done nothing wrong. I should not have to go around and explain myself to everyone who questions me and I should not have to revive my good name.

All I can say is that those who truly know me will believe in my character and know the truth through her lies .