SO's sister and her friends, along with SO's friends, seem to like reminiscing and like to tell stories that involve SO and BM. I don't think they're being malicious, but it's starting to get old.

Next time say this.......so lets talk about your exbfs or DHs now, I'm sure you have lots of wonderful stories about that.

Oh my SIL would always do that and I would say something to my DH, he said something to his brother to tell his wife to STFU about BM. When my SIL finally decided she was done being a bitch to me and talked to me (only took 3 years) and i told her how that bugged me she said she knew that's why she did it. I told her how that wasn't cool and how she wouldn't like it if someone were to bring up her DH's exes. She agreed and apologized. What makes me laugh is the fact that everyone seems to talk about how BM#1 is controling and how she's this and that but they still include her in family stuff. I guess its history the family has with her but you would think after 15 years of being divorced from my DH they would let it go and they don't. They bring her up every effen time. its ANNOYING!

That would drive me bonkers..when i hear that from others it makes me think they r not over that person..its prolly not true but what else rvwe supposed to think? i would tell ur significant other that you dont want to hear about that person wether its good or bad..and then say cuz i know if it were the other way around they wouldnt like hearing stories over n over n over...blah blag blah lol..also its not that ur being insecure about it either we just dont want to hear bout it..all that time talking about that person could be spent talking about other things..good luck:)

DH used to bring her up all the time. He wasn't saying good things but who wants to hear about her. So everytime he would mention her, I would bring up my exh and start talking about him. He caught on pretty quickly and stopped.

MIL loves to bring up BM at every holiday. DH would engage in the conversation and keep it going until I finally said to him that it aggravates me. Now I notice he changes the subject.

Now when we used to see BM's mother she loves to bring up their wedding and rehearsal dinner and all that crap. They were married for less than two years and have been divorced for 14 years!! Get over it already!! She should be embarrassed that her daughter was out whoring around with a new baby at home!!

Ugh, MIL called me BM's name... Twice... While I was pregnant. I started crying the second time, since everything makes me cry when I am hormonal. She was so horrified and guilt ridden, it never happened again!

I don't know if the in-laws don't get it or just don't understand, like with mine, they have pushed DH away from them with the constant talk of BM & SD and needing to be uber-involved in all things to do with them. DH has withdrawn from his family and now he tells me he likes the peace & quiet of not having to deal with them on a daily basis, he's enjoying it. I have tried to talk with them and tell'em, ya'll need to back off and mind ya business, but they wouldn't listen, now their on the outside looking in with DH.

Not that I mind really, cause when his family gets together it's like hanging out with a bunch of sore-tail cats in a room full of rocking chairs, not much fun.

Ladies I am so relieved to have found this forum! I am going through the same thing. I would love to think I'm not the problem, but nobody is ever completely fault-free.... right???. Every one of your comments struck a chord with me. I understand about the reminiscing thing, but hell.... EVERY visit? Its actually really hurtful since I've been around a few years now and we are only in our first year of marriage. I could get into back story, but for my first post I'll keep it short-ish... SIL is local and MIL is half way across country, but they talk to BM, which i totally understand... but then small truths leak out about drunken phone conversations and how a surprise lawyer attack is in the works... though it never happens... instead the month long visit we only get once a year is completely cancelled. MIL gets a freaking week with her in CA though..... UGH!! almost seems to be conspiring against her own son without even noticing it. Atleast I hope its not intentional. SIL does the same it seems. one of the quickest ways to cut a man down is to keep him from his daughter. the drama is a huge factor which never really affected me until well.... it was directed at me... super convenient that the MIL made an excuse for the SIL's behavior due to her finding out she was preg a few weeks later. oh ladies!!!!! I have typed and deleted so much... this was supposed to be short and i still have a novel for you.