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can someone tell BM that DH is my husband now

WWSMD's picture

Submitted by WWSMD on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 9:38am

Just got back from our honeymoon. We went to hershey ville. It was amazing. Our wedding went as planned after DH called and threatened to get the cops in the mix BM coughed up the kids. I am so happy to be Mrs.DH now. We had a beautiful wedding and a magical honeymoon. But of course BM has to scratch my record.

Its like she doesn't get it that he married me and cut her loose years ago. As soon as we get home we check our missed calls and messages. BM wants DH to come over for dinner every now and then. She asked if he can come fix her closet door and help her stack a few things on high shelves that she can't reach. This is going to sound ridiculous but I swear to you cross my heart she called yesterday when the step kids told her we were home. Because DH called them. She called and asked DH to come help her open a pickle jar.

She never asked these ridiculous things of DH before but now that we are married she took a long fall and bumped her head. DH says he will set her straight when he gets the steps this weekend. BM is a funny. She loves to act like susie homemaker when she is just an weird crazy little woman.

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Shook's picture

Submitted by Shook on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 11:44am

Me too. I'm still laughing.
Pickle Jar---that wins the Most Pathetic award. Bravo BM, bravo.

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Submitted by oldone on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 10:02am

He need to enforce STRICT boundaries immediately. He should not so much as cross her doorstep.

Efforts to have him over for dinner, etc must be squashed not just declined.

She's needs to be told not just "no" but "HELL no - what are you thinking you stupid POS".

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Submitted by GameOn on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 10:11am

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Agree with this and he can't just say no or tactfully decline doing those things. He needs to set the boundary by telling her he is married now and has not interest in doing those things for her. She needs to move on and find someone else.

I speak from experience here. My DH tried the tactful approach for almost a year when we first got together and BM was trying to break us up so that they could get back together again. She wouldn't stop. Infact her behavior just got worse. It took him finally telling her over the phone to stop and that it wasn't going to happen.

You need to be blunt with these types of women. BM even made a comment in SD's counceling sessions that DH had led her on. That's BS. He always told her no. He just never said why until that phone call. That's how nuts these women are. Yes means yes. No means yes. DH's mother telling her to move on means yes. I'm so glad that were through that part.

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Submitted by sandy1234 on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 10:48am

Or that he's been with THIS WOMAN for long before their wedding so she ought to hide her moronic, crazed mind a little better.

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 2:28pm

I would completely ignore any and all of her stupid requests. Unless he is hungry and wants a pickle.

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Submitted by luchay on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 9:15pm

I thought the stack things on a high shelf was ridiculous - then I got to the pickle jar....

And just about wet myself laughing.

Does she not realise how pathetic she sounds.

Tell him to recommend she takes up some strength training as he is not her go-to handyman anymore.

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Submitted by oldone on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 9:28pm

It's not "if he wants a pickle" it's "if he want to provide a pickle to her".