Teen girls are terrible. Teen skids are worse.

My DD was an angel from birth to 13. Then she turned into some-she devil type of crazy!! It took about a year or so until she started to act semi normal again. And another year or so to get back to normal.

She is now 24 and we are BFF’s. She is an outstanding adult, collage graduate, and is in her first year of teaching.

I would have felt very sorry for any SM if she would have had one from the age of 13-16. UGH. She would have been a terrible skid. lol

I know for a fact Stepdevil14 has been severely and thoroughly influenced by her mother. Why do I know this? DH says SD is an exact replica in voice, mannerisms, looks, everything. She's truly a mini BM in training and DH said "Unfortunately, she's turning into just as much of a lying, manipulative and horrible person as her mother".

Sad, but true.

My SD21 is not good at the games, but the tactics she tries, she learned from her mother.

BM has not been able to manipulate my husband in a very long time, but I suppose SD has seen it work in her mother's favor with others, so she does try.

What is ironic, is SD's husband is now playing head games with SD, and treating her like BM treated my husband when they were married.

I think this idolation of little girls it what causes it. From the moment they are born they are pampered, dressed up and coddled as it they were princesses. Everything they do it cute and adorable....so no one ever corrects them on anything when they are little. They learn how to manipulate their dads by playing the cute little girl card and it snow balls from there.

My SD always got away with WAY more than SS when they are little. They literally could be doing the exact same thing and SS would get reprimanted and he would coo over how cute SD was being. By the time he finally caught on, it was too late. She would mouth off to adults as a two yr old and everyone thought it was the most adorable thing ever. She would bully other kids and it was " she's so self confident and sassy, she's going to take this world by storm", she would lie right to peoples faces and they'd just smile at her and let her get away with it.

From my experience, it really is on the parents to parent their kids. We get angry at these kids. We blame them. But I think just as much blame lies with the parents. Often more of it lies with them. My SDs were horrible but dh and bm allowed it. They were 7 and 9. They had other stuff going on in their lives too that goes way beyond divorce.

It was and is very hard for me to have any sympathy for any parent who doesn't parent their kids for awhile and then decides to start years later, and is frustrated and hurt by their child's behavior. Including my own dh. He didn't like his kids behaviors but you reap what you sow. That's how I feel about many of these "parents"...they're reaping what they've sown. I even told my dh years ago that he should have thought about all of this as a possibility when he wasn't parenting his kids. He should have thought about the possibility of them having so many issues because they were not parented. Things are much better with his kids now. They're doing much better. But he really did them a huge disservice by not parenting them. For every action, there's a reaction. His "action" was not parenting. The reaction was that he had to deal with angry kids. While I felt sorry for him, I also knew he should have to face consequences for not parenting those kids.