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Submitted by livizzle on Wed, 03/27/2013 - 3:26pm

Since March 18 (the court date over the RO), DH has been "allowed" to have phone contact with skids ONE time for about three minutes on the 19th. The RO does state that DH is able to talk to them on the phone, and BM agreed to this. All emails, Facebook contact, etc. is prohibited.

DH attempted to call skids Friday, Sunday, Monday and Tuesday with no answer or call backs. Am I incorrect in thinking that BM ALSO has to abide by the terms of the RO? After all, she is the one who made up lies and cried hysterically in court in front of the (obviously) pro-BM judge, and now, she is refusing to follow the terms.

DH was stripped of his right to have unsupervised visitation, and now, he can't even reach them on the phone. I know that it's hurting him. Would we be able to fight this? Or are we SOL seeing as DH is the one who is being "punished" by the RO?

I am afraid that BM is working on making up some huge lie that DH is calling and harassing her, ect. to try to have him thrown in jail. It makes no sense to me how you can prohibit DH from having email, etc. contact, but then tell him that he can call skids on BM's phone, even though he's not supposed to be trying to call BM. THIS is what I'm worried about -- her saying that DH has been trying to call HER.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Wed, 03/27/2013 - 3:36pm

He calls once a day. He lets the phone ring 10x and then leaves VERY polite message. "This is DH, just calling to talk to x,y & z. I will try again tomorrow evening between 7pm and 7:15pm as this is the only phone number I have to contact them. Thank you." And make sure you record him making the call.

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Submitted by stepmomto3bioto1 on Wed, 03/27/2013 - 11:49pm

^^^ totally agree^^^^

If theres anything I have learned this far: Document document document!!! & COs need to have things detailed out. For instance DHs CO states that he is to have telephonic parenting time at 8 pm with SSs while the kids are in BMs care. Same goes for her when they are with DH. 8 pm.

My advice: since things are obviously hostile between BM & DH- record his Once Daily phone call to BMs phone for proof!!! If she lies @ says hes calling her constantly or anything-- print out your cell phone records to take to court with you to prove that one taped phone call a day was all that was made!! Itll be mud on her face when she lies about it. What the 1st responder to your post said was spot on to what he should say. Simple, polite & to the point. Id have DH call at the same time every time as well. Shows consistency on his part.

Hang in there. I know its frustrating!!! Be there to support your DH thru this awful ordeal!!! I truly feel for these Dads who truly Want to be a very active parent in their childs lives but the BM is blocking his every move/attempt. Damn women are hurting their kids more then their exes!!!!

Ive said it a million times:: you have to love your kids MORE then you hate your Ex!! (Sadly these vindictive BMs dont!!!)

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Submitted by whatwasithinkin on Thu, 03/28/2013 - 11:55am

"I am afraid that BM is working on making up some huge lie"

She is probably just ignoring him and eventually hope that he stops calling and she can act like he never exsisted.

if he keeps track of the calls dates and times, keeps his cell phone history he very well could refile for contempt of court...