Lost my Temper SOOO BAD

I want to start off I feel terrible! But I totally lost my temper with my SO's 12 year old son tonight. First of all we had court today that was postponed till tomorrow SO didn't even show up the lawyer said he was on standby so he went to work instead as normal. Something about since Friday is a holiday it's messed up the docket. Anyway's so BM is in town first time since Christmas. We just bought a new car about 1mth ago. Haven't even got our plates in yet. BM who lives out of state shouldn't know about the new car, and since all phone calls are monitered I know the kids haven't told her. Well the first thing BM says to her son tonight is WOW Daddy sure has a nice new car, named the model and make and named the color saying it was always his favorite! The boy was like wow mom your such a good guesser that's daddy's car!

I called the police and I will be going to file a PO tomorrow. I wrote several blogs ago about her knowing the type of dog we got, and she's having us watched. So after the phone call was over SO approached the boy about his mom knowing about he car, and about some other things that were said during the phone converstation. SO caught the boy lying, and he was trying to get him to see how it should be impossible for BM to know what he drives. I lost it. I couldn't stand there and listen to the lies spill out of the mouth. I yelled! I was so frustrated that he couldn't see any reason. Yes I know now that my rage has expelled, and I've spoken to the police, and filed a report, and made an appt with their specail unit for stalking, I know I shouldn't of lost it, and I feel terrible. I wouldn't be surprised if I was no longer engaged after tonight. I was scared and fed up with the lies, and BM's Bull! I tried calling my best friend who is my mother, but she wasn't answering so I had to spill my guts to you guys instead.

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Oh don't worry about it. I

Oh don't worry about it. I think more women here ought to go off on their digusting skid spawn of satan.

sounds like there is some

sounds like there is some history with BM that we might not know ladies, be easy!

What about her knowing the car made you so afraid/ upset? Maybe she just drove by the house out of curiosity???

Yeah she SAID there were

Yeah she SAID there were other things said and that this isn't the first time she has been either having them watched, or stocking them herself.

Okay guys above me^^, she

Okay guys above me^^, she said the woman is stalking them and has been listing descriptive details about their life. Stocking IS a crime.

THIS During BM and DF's last

THIS

During BM and DF's last court battle,(DF refused to pay day care fees for YSD) I went to the school BM was attending to find which program she was enrolled in.

I walked into the main office and asked about their various nursing programs. I then asked which program Jane Doe was enrolled in

My "stalking" and the fact that BM always takes the easy way out, saved DF $4000.

Maybe just say something to

Maybe just say something to SS like, "I'm sorry I lost it on you and I know this is a difficult situation for you too."

In an ideal world, he'd be able to tell BM what his dad drives and talk about how it is such a cool car. Preteen boys seem to be into that stuff. But sadly for him and his siblings, it seems like BM has some real issues.

Good luck with the PO and I hope you are able to press charges on BM.

Is BM saying this while you

Is BM saying this while you are within earshot? Regardless, she's acting really creepy giving such a detailed description. Dog thing is creepy too. What a crazy woman. She's what my SO would call a "bunny dipper."

I don't think all the facts are clear in your post, which is why some of the ladies maybe confused as to why you think it's stalking. Maybe they are in your previous blogs.

If she is saying this while you are within earshot then sounds like she's doing this to antagonize you, with words like "that's the color your dad always like." She's rubbing it in her previous relationship with your DH, because she knows his favorite color, etc.

Yes it sounds like she WANTS

Yes it sounds like she WANTS you guys to know she snuck and found out things about your lives.. I know if I were going to dig up info on B"M", she would sure as heck not find out I went through the effort for her nasty self! Shes clearly not doing the same thing as "checking just because". The fact she said what she said, the timing, her descriptive way of speaking of things-to send a message to them that they "won't do anything without bm knowing." Its creepy, really....

Sometimes a person does

Sometimes a person does seemingly normal things but when it all adds up it is stalking.

My ex from decades ago did this to me. A phone call, etc. But after 40 years of this man knowing my new phone number within an hour of it being installed when I moved across country I realized that HE WAS STALKING ME.

He's shown up in cities where I was visiting. He recently tried to buy a condo in the building that I live in. Yes he is a stalker.

You called the police because

:jawdrop:
You called the police because BM knows what kind of car you drive? WTF??
OP, I know you're stressed out and you don't like BM "knowing" things, but this is just ridiculous. I can't imagine a PO will be granted. This is just...dumb.
SMH.

No need to be saying what she

No need to be saying what she did was "dumb". That's an opinion-and a rudely outspoken, uncalled for one at that.

Besides, pretty sure at least

Besides, pretty sure at least 3 people said that before you above...which brings us back to the ganging up on users thing we were all talking about earlier.

Everyone ought to just chill with that crap..no one needs to have others opinions drilled into their brains..we get enough of that just being a SM in real life

Aren't you trying to drill

Aren't you trying to drill YOUR opinion into ME?

How's about YOU chill with YOUR crap, mmmkay?

I do not do what you do SAF,

I do not do what you do SAF, and everyone here who doesN'T participate in your bullying antics would agree. And what opinion am I "drilling" in you? You mean how I stuck up for someone you were trying to bully because I finally got tired of yalls crap? Grow up SAF. You can dish it every chance you get, yet you(and your partners in drama)refuse to accept the fact you are being rude when youre called out on it, you still go ON and ON about your opinions, that happen to be %100 right %100 of the time(ha!) about how this is the only right way and if they deal with a situation another way then that makes that person DUMB, or whatever insult of the day you've chosen to circle around ST with.

My point: Grow up. Quit the bullying crap. Act...well Idk your age but let's just shoot for "act older than your shoe size".

Here comes SAF to throw every

Here comes SAF to throw every one under the bus to show her vast intelligence and superiority.

~~~eyeroll~~

You are nothing more than a bully.

Ikr. I couldn't NOT say

Ikr. I couldn't NOT say anything... too much of that bull crap going on here.

OMG, I LOOOOOOVE it when

OMG, I LOOOOOOVE it when bullies cry about bullies.
Pot, meet kettle.

I don't read every response on blogs.

Your sarcasm doesn't fool

Your sarcasm doesn't fool anyone lol We know who the bullies are.

And maybe if you did, you would have more information, which could lead to less of those assumptions that some of you and the other few come up with. Who knows though..

wow! given all of that

wow! given all of that history I would say that calling the police was EXACTLY what should have been done. Stalking is not only a crime but people have been killed by their stalkers, it's dangerous. Everyone has a right to feel safe.

I think that the way that some women responded to this thread was disgusting. Why so mean and judgmental??? Seriously to be nasty to her because she considers her mother her best friend??? She's afraid and feels unsafe and wanted to speak to her mother, what's the problem with that?

If the facts are unclear, people need to ask for clarification rather than getting all nasty based on their assumptions.

A few bad apples can really spoil the whole bunch, now instead of feeling supported the OP likely feels defensive and unsafe because of the few nasty comments.

Well put! My Mom was my best

Well put! My Mom was my best friend and I'll admit it to anyone-including my DH who loves me even though (*gasp*) my Mom and I were very close.

Yeah man people KILL over ex's. I wouldn't have thought twice to get her little stunts on record down at The Station.

^^^^^^^ Totally

^^^^^^^ Totally Agree^^^^^^^^

Why is everyone bashing without taking time to read??? If you have questions or need clarification of a poster ---- ASK!!! Holy crap!!! Wtf is going on here tonight?!?

This woman/her DH ARE being STALKED!!! She had EVERY damn right to call the cops!!! Holy crap!!!

I apologize for all of the rude & non-helpful responses you got here tonite! Im sorry, its NOT normally like this!!! Too many ppl ready to judge without info & too many here who think they are superior & post nasty rude vile comments "just because". Smdh!!

Wow! I know stalking is no

Wow!
I know stalking is no laughing matter. If you have been a victim of it, I certainly wouldn't blame you for calling the police.

The part that concerns me is why would your step-son lie about divulging information to BM? Is he under orders to not say anything to the other parent? I know you are mad at him for lying but kids at that age only lie because they are fearful of getting into trouble. I'm not taking the kid's side here. I am just wondering if there is something constructive you and your SO can tell him so that he is NOT fearful about expressing himself.

The notion of free speech has

The notion of free speech has been thrown around a bit here.

One poster calling out another poster because they think they are rude is not a violation of anyone's freedom of speech. And in fact the people who run this site have authority to remove posts for any reason per the user agreement:

"Step Talk shall have the right in its sole discretion to edit, refuse to post or remove any material submitted to or posted on this

So calling another poster a bully is not a violation of anyone's freedom of speech.

I think the arguments will probably continue, and if you think someone's being ganged up on, just show your disagreement and support for the OP. now if someone is being really abusive, then you can always complain to the site admin. But I would be careful about doing this, you don't want people getting shut down solely because we don't agree with their opinions.

And that's my OPINION.