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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 4:46pm

Well, I guess I am leaving Sad Whether I can afford to or not. DSO and I discussed it last nite and NBBM has called DCS again because of the Icecream Store incident which wasnt even and incident.
She says she has recorded conversations of DSO telling his friend on the phone that he is afraid to leave skids with me, Yes he said that, but not because of me, Because of what they do to me. ANd she said way way more but I dont feel like writing it all. She sent over 30 text. And posted lies and horrible things on her fb and made it public. DSOs sister called him to tell him that she was on tilt again......
We decided not to break up but that I have to leave Sad That is what she is telling him and that is what the skids are telling her.
I am not gonna make him choose, She is saying he is choosing me over his 5girls.
Whatever.
I predict a break up when she sees she has won. And when the sgirls see they have won. Sad
We just couldnt come up with any other solutions to get SD13 to get with the program ANd BM is relentless. She promised to make my life a living hell and she has succeeded. and BM wont keep them with her and if one comes they all have too. And she will just have SD18 drop them off if he doesnt get them.
I surrender waving my white flag sgirls can have Daddy all to themselves and soon enough BM will be in control once again.

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 4:49pm

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry. I was pulling for you. But in reality, if he's going to allow BM to control him that way, you're better off without having to deal with the bullshit.

I wish I could make you some jello shots!

Love you! Hang in there. If one door closes, another opens. This may be a blessing in disguise!

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Submitted by fedup13 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 5:01pm

I am sorry as well. What you posted is pretty much my worst fear realized, that I will eventually have to concede to defeat with all of this madness, and let them have the satisfaction of knowing they won. I do agree with Redwingsfan on this though, really, if he is going to let you leave you are better off without him. He should be fighting tooth and nail for you to stay. I also agree with her on the one door closing/opening/blessing in disguise. No one deserves this bullshit. Sad

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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 5:06pm

Ya know, Fedup Thats what MY EX said too. I had to email him because I have to give 30 days notice to change residence. Myex knows from BD8 just a smidge of what goes on here, He even went on to say that he understands if the notice is less than 30 days, that he will not hold me to it.

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Submitted by fedup13 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 5:10pm

If your EX is telling you this is bullshit, then you know it is, Ex's don't typically sympathize...lol. I really am sorry. I could totally see my DH pulling this on me if BM called CPS on us again. He would choose skid over me in a NY minute even when the CPS stuff is a load of dung. I truly sympathize.

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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 5:03pm

And thank you BLM for the good luck. Ya know that is the only complaint I have about DSO is that he allows his ex and 5girls to control him. He is great to me. He understands my issues with the sgirls, He has even said as recently as last nite he doesnt want them here because of their behavior and thieving and such.....
But again. I am NOT gonna be the reason he doesnt get to see his girls. BM can, DSO can, Sgirls can. But not me.

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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 4:55pm

Thankyou RWF, I know you were pulling for me. It really was a mutual decided by him decision :? I dont disagree with him is why I say that, but I cant live this way and neither can BD8 and neither can DSO. I love this guy. I feel that my presence just makes his girls more difficult and wierd and evil because thier mom wont let up. EVER!
I way way want jello shots Sad

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Submitted by hereiam on Fri, 03/15/2013 - 1:31pm

Don't know where you live, but I went to a wine tasting last night and came home with 6 bottles of wine and 1 bottle of flavored vodka that you would be welcome to!

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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 5:31pm

Thanks RN, I guess we are just trying to keep from having to do that (make him choose) Better I guess to agree on it and let them all have that victory.

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Submitted by whatwasithinkin on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 5:48pm

Im with redwings, let's drink? I am so sorry. It seems like were dropping like flies around her. It has me alittle nervous. I just told DH I cant mentally recommit to him until SD is gone next June. If her mother denies her and she has no place to live is he gonna leave? Cant change it if he does and im not willing to put my foot back in the love you so much my DH game until I know.

Last year he told me in the middle of packing his shit that i was stopping him from having a relationship with his daughter. More like I was prohibiting him from having a besties friendship with his minor daughter. It was like they were roommates with him in the shower and her doing her hair in the same bathroom. But anyway during that arguement he said he know longer loved me.........now he will have to wait to love me again. When im ready.

Im sorry honey but im betting u will feel 100% lighter living some where else

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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 7:49pm

WWIT, I am sure I will be fine eventually. We are not breaking up at this point. Hope we dont at all. I am hoping this will keep us from getting to the point you are in your relationship. I dont want to lose respect for him, I fear I will not get it back if it came to that. Our hope is that this will save our relationship, I just never understood though, how being apart can do that.....

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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 7:54pm

Formy, Yes We have to let her win, because she already doesnt want them there. She insist they come here. And she tells them to do and say the things they do and say to me DSO and BD8
He was going to call her on it and His parents and Sis told him he was abandoning his girls. I couldnt/cant stand to see him so torn and hurt. BM is not going to stop EVER. Makes me sad too, but hey, This isnt the first time Ive lost my home because of some Stupid Woman Wink I am kidding there, I know its the guys fault they let that happen but hell, my DSO isnt getting literally screwed this time, just figurativly }:)

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Submitted by princessmofo on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 7:08pm

So sorry. :jawdrop:

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Submitted by Ashalala on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 7:59pm

So sorry onebright. Your SO isn't strong enough in this situation. You should keep your options well and truly open moving forward. You deserve so much better than this. Hugs to you.

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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 03/14/2013 - 8:11pm

Thanks Ash, Everyone keeps saying that, even my ex, that I deserve better, but I dont feel that way, I dont deserve any more than anyone else. Just BM Wink made myself grin for a moment with that thought.

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Fri, 03/15/2013 - 1:24pm

So sorry it went this way, great big hugs. I hate when family members who don't have to deal directly decide what is and isn't best, he's not abandoning his kids, just abandoning the drama. SO's ex likes to pull the "you abandoned our kids" crap he reminds her she left and he decided he'd never left his kids only left her there's a difference.

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Submitted by onebright1 on Fri, 03/15/2013 - 9:43pm

Lalena, he is correct, there is a difference, SO doesnt think this will change the skids behavior or BMs, I actually hope it does. If nothing else the skids stop being so hateful to him just to prove it was me and not them. I'd be ok with that, I can't stand watching what they all do to him. I think BM will pour on the seduction and coersion and manipulation when I'm gone.
SO and I talked today and decided when we tell the skids we will sit them all down and tell them that we still care deeply for one another and are not breaking up , but that I am moving because of their bad behavior towards me and BD8.

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Submitted by hereiam on Fri, 03/15/2013 - 9:57pm

I am hoping that he will realize, once your are gone, that this is not the solution to the problem. Oh, and I also hope he is absolutely miserable. Hope those girls can fulfill all of his emotional needs.

I know you said you are not breaking up, but he needs to feel as if you are. I'm afraid I would have to be not as available to him once I moved out. You do deserve better.

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Submitted by onebright1 on Fri, 03/15/2013 - 10:03pm

I think that is what he is trying to show them all (bm, mil, fil, sil) is that the sgirls will continue to be butts and bm will still be nuts.
He will feel it, I will not be his beck and callgirl. NO way. They are gonna hate not having cable, internet and clean towels. They are gonna hate babysitting Stwins9, They are gonna have to live in their filth or clean it up themselves. It should be interesting.....
Oh and BM is STILL texting crap about me and to me on DSOs phone.......