I told DH. His reaction was underwhelming, to say the least
I really do think SD19 could murder someone and DH would turn the other cheek. SMH
I finally broke down this weekend and told DH about SD19 dating this 26 year old with six kids, on probation for assault. I told him how SD got money out of DH for her weekend trip away under false pretences. She was going in her role as assistant coach for a girls' sports team. There is no reason she couldn't have shared a room with the other coach and/or some of the girls. But she cried to DH about how she HAD to pay for a room and it was going to be SO expensive and it was for her JOB, boo hoo hoo. And DH gave her the money, which she promptly used to drink and have sex with her boyfriend in their private room all weekend.
This came out because DH started talking to me about this girl/woman he works with who is 20 and is dating a 26 year old guy with two kids and how that is just so wrong. So I couldn't help it. I blurted it all out. DH didn't even call SD19. He just texted her (he promptly erased the texts so I couldn't read them). He says he is thinking about telling her the money he fronted her for the hotel room is her birthday present. Whatever.
Funny thing, when I asked if SD19 is on birth control (this guy has one kid who is still an infant), DH said she's a virgin. REALLY?! He's got to know that's not true, and he said she is on BC. I pointed out that BC doesn't protect against STDs and considering how many women this guy has to have slept with...
If it was me, I would have been on the phone with my kid so fast her head would be spinning. Not DH. Live and let live is his motto, I guess. If he wants to be a chump, it is on him. I've done all I could.
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I didn't laugh. I was too
I didn't laugh. I was too busy trying to decide if he really believes that. The man would believe SD19 if she told him she had a galaxy in her anus, so...
I don't know what he will believe or not believe. He says I did the right thing in telling him, and I had too many details for him to be in doubt, in my opinion. It's not that hard to find things on the Internet, and I told him that.
I expect nothing will come of this and life will go on in a state of denial for DH.
Oh, I'm sure it's quite a
Oh, I'm sure it's quite a lovely place, the land of denial in his head. He lives there quite comfortably most of the time.
Yes, there are pictures of SD19 naked, presumably after she and said boyfriend had sex, as well as posts about taking showers together and posts about how he "buttered her up" that morning. It's quite disgusting, really. And pretty undeniable.
Yes, she really IS that
Yes, she really IS that trashy. Who needs/wants to know this stuff? NOBODY! Wish I could stop looking.
I am trying to find the naked picture right now. I would totally print it out and give it to DH.
My DH also has a blind spot
My DH also has a blind spot about his daughter being a whore. She recently told him things just got serious with this 22 yo who is going to be a pyschiatrist. He thinks serious means they are talking about getting married and really expects her to say she is getting married almost every time she calls. She has said that she has no intention of marrying this guy. Serious just means sex. She got pregnant in the high school bathroom, nobody is ever going to marry that. Why does Dh set himself up for disappointment?
OK, pregnant in the high
OK, pregnant in the high school bathroom is pretty bad. SD has not been pregnant yet, that I know of, but in junior high she got herself into a situation through her behavior so that people were calling her a "pass around." It's one of the reasons she decided to move and live with BM, but your behavior follows you wherever you go.
The only problem with BC is
The only problem with BC is when the dumb young female decides that she WANTS to get pregnant!
My DH has to pay medical insurance and half the uninsured medical costs. So we KNOW that SD was getting BC pills bought for her. Didn't stop her from getting preggo and being an unwed teen mom at the ripe old age of 16...just like her momma.
Wow... not to be mean, but
Wow... not to be mean, but your DH is freaking hilarious! He has the ole Rose Colored Glasses syndrome like no other. I mean I think SD could kill puppies, cook them up and serve them to your DH for dinner with a side of shit stew and he would see no wrong with any of it.
I don't know how you do it!!!
If she were my father's
If she were my father's daughter, or the daughter of any man I know, that man would be petrified for her and doing everything he could to try to get her to make better choices. Granted, at 19 it really is up to her and nobody can force her. In his own strange way, he may be acting the way he is because he feels that at 19, she will do what she wants to do.
That being said, though, someday he will complain about some choice she made that he didn't agree with and I feel he should look in the mirror for someone to blame.
When you have a SO like this,
When you have a SO like this, the best way to be is just get used to it. Some men just think their kids are perfect little angels no matter how demented and rude and evil and spoiled and nasty and ugly and dirty and sick- literally. There is....AND I REPEAT- NOTHING YOU CAN SAY TO THEM THAT WILL CONVINCE THEM OTHERWISE.
trust me.