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Submitted by flipflops on Mon, 02/04/2013 - 11:23pm

If anybody has advice for dealing with a jealous,vindictive,sociopath BM please let me know. I can't get a restraining order against her because she hasn't done anything violent for me to base it on. She's the charming,manipulative, con artist type that pretends she likes me to other people. A lot of people see through her excessive raging jealousy and agree with me that she is capable of something really bad. Anybody know if I can file a report with police so it's on record that I'm afraid of her in case something ever did happen to me? She has had 2 counselors tell her that DH is remarried and to get over it. She filed for full custody of sd 10 the day we got married. We're currently waiting on a ruling.

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Submitted by sandy1234 on Mon, 02/04/2013 - 11:25pm

Wait for her to be on your property(maybe for an exchange)/for her to say something cross and then fuck her up.

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Submitted by StickAFork on Mon, 02/04/2013 - 11:26pm

The best advice I can give you is to ignore her. Don't interact with her. Don't go to dropoffs so you see her. Pretend she doesn't exist to you. Don't ask your DH for every little detail of every little thing.
It's tough. I know. But it will go SO FAR in saving YOUR sanity. Promise. Wink

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Submitted by dragonfly5 on Tue, 02/05/2013 - 7:47am

I've been dealing/not dealing with Crazo for almost 4 years now. This is so true. Don't interact with her at all.

I have blocked her number from my phone. She cannot contact me. I have spoken maybe 4 works to her total. My goal is for it to be less than 10 by the time fsd12 and fss15 are 18.

Unfortunately, the skids go to a small private school that I know several of the teacher because they worked a the private school my bd graduated from. She has tried and tried to trash me and my fdh.

Luckily I have had people defend me and tell her they didn't want to hear it. But is still hard when we go to a basketball game or a cheerleading event. We walk in and some parents wont speak to us.

Last year I did a spa birthday party for fsd12. She actually took credit for it and told some of the mothers she planned it with me.

These women are master con artist. They feel entitled to everything and they can spin things in their favor.

I have been called everything from a f***ing golden vagina, f***ing slut, f***ing whore, f***ing cun*. This was from one text...that went on for 30 updates. She has been remarried for 5yrs I don't understand why she just can't live her live and leave us alone.

Oh, by the way, my FDH found out yesterday she claimed fsd12 on her taxes, when the DC states she can only claim fss15. Her drama will never end.

Protect yourself, have as little involvement as you can with this person.

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Submitted by tinky winky on Tue, 02/05/2013 - 2:54am

Sad
I made a mistake of believing that she was good and even extended an olive branch to her. Big mistake. she sent emails to my hubby tellinghim she hates me and wishes my DH and her still had a relationship. ( bearing mind thsi email was very raunchy) its a six month old email but still, no step mom should have that kind of conversations with her married ex. i let my rage get to me coz i sent her an email and cursed at her skanky ass. she then got me into trouble at work since i used my company email. i am now facing posible dismisal. If I had ignored her, i wouldn't be in the position i'm in now. it seems to everyone as though i'm the one with the problem. Worst thing is she made SD12 to read that email aswell. she's bad. very bad and I hope to God our paths don't cross again coz i know for sure i'm gonna go Kung Fu on her ass. I have been good to her daughter and this is the thanks I get. she doesn't flinch when deciding to mess with my livelyhood. she doesn't deserve me. I told her her daughter is no longer welcome in my home. if DH wants to see her. they can go to McDonalds. No more comfy sleep overs and home cooked meals for her. She'll grow up. we were also born out of wedlock never even seen my dad. she'll be ok. its not the end of the world. i'm just not gonna let her bring her prostitution in my home and use her kid to do it.

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Submitted by notagain2012 on Tue, 02/05/2013 - 4:36am

I have a BM like that. I did stay away from her, but she continued her crap. Document document document. If she threarens you, get a police report made. Once you have enough, you can get a protective order or something to that effect. She has been told by me, SO and her mother to stay away from me, and do not contact me.

It also took SO many Many times not to email him or talk crap, or contact him unless it was kid related..or he would also file harassment charges.

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Submitted by red flags on Tue, 02/05/2013 - 11:34am

I feel your pain. Our BM makes me want to hurl every time I hear her name (which is a lot since my DH has a ping pong plan and we have his brat, I mean daughter literally every other day!). Worst part, his daughter is growing up to be JUST LIKE BM! My advice...Xanax and wine. It's the next best thing to homicide. Lol

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Submitted by flipflops on Tue, 02/05/2013 - 10:57pm

Thanks step friends for your advice! A lot of your descriptions sound just like her. I wish I could post some of her crazy emails to DH referring to me for you to read. She obviously has bumped her head...really hard...against a brick wall. I know we're better off ignoring her but its really hard at times not to want to tell her what a crazy sick pathetic pos she is. Oh well, the silence pisses her off even more. Been waiting on custody ruling for a month now. Hopefully we'll get it soon and move on with our lives.