Let me explain. The bar SO and I go to when we go out is having their Christmas party in a couple of weeks. We go every year, its fun we get to see friends we don’t see often, free buffet and the food is amazing. Well this year the party falls on a skid weekend. SO is determined to go. I on the other hand rather just call it a night. Here are our options to go; I don’t like any of them. 1) We can ask SO’s Mom to watch them, I really rather not for the following reasons. A) BM burdens SO’s Mom every Friday night that we don’t have the skids so she can have her Friday night fuck fest with her married boyfriend. I shit you not it is EVERY Friday night that the skids are not with us. Keep in mind SO’s Mom hurt herself back in August and has been out of work and she is not healing well. She just had her hard cast removed and is in an air cast. If she watches them we are going to have to leave early, I know myself it is going to piss me off and I am going to be miserable. C) SO’s Mom puts the boys to bed MUCH earlier then we do, so if we stay later she is not going to let SO take them if they are sleeping. She will tell him to just come in the morning which is fine BUT SO will feel obligated to sleep there and while my kids are old enough to be home alone I will not leave them over night and stay there with SO, but coming home alone after a Xmas party will piss me off. 2) Our other option is to ask BM to switch weekends with us IF she agrees and I am sure she won’t it will mean for one favor we will owe her 10 and SO’ Mom will still get stuck watching the boys because BM can only see her married boyfriend on Friday nights.

Now onto why I am feeling to bitter. My kids are 15 and 11 they are more then capable to stay home alone. My 15 year old son is responsible enough to watch his 11 year old sister who really does not need watching she will either be in her room doing her thing or there is a good chance she will not be home, my son as well he may be out for a spell while we are gone. This pisses me off I have older children and I have to sacrifice my adult time. I did that already I am to a point in my life where I am getting more and more freedom. Even when my kids were small I hired babysitters for times like these. We can not do this for SO’s kids because their behavior is obnoxious and BM would flip a shit. I am just angry it is not fair I have to miss things because of his little brats!!!! On top of that his solutions to this matter will not make me happy they will just piss me off more I rather just not go!!!!