Recently I posted in General Discussion about skids being too young to listen according to DH? We told SS10 for four days straight to bring one of his three bikes up by the house because we have a neighborhood thief. This is an ongoing issue with SS. He had his bike sitting inside the gate by the road. One the fourth day of telling him to get it and put it up by the house, he moved it outside the gate next to the road and put a for sale sign on it. I came home and saw this and decided to take it across the road and throw it in the ditch (it is too deep to see from the yard and our kids aren't allowed to leave our yard. I told DH when I came in that the next day I was taking the bike to Catholic Social Services and donating it and that I was going to let SS think it was stolen to teach him a lesson about listening. DH told me I couldn't do that and that I "am getting a little carried away with this listening thing". Yesterday SS noticed his bike was missing and told DH that he was looking for it because he knows that we hid it (because of how many times we have hidden it and let him think it was stolen and then give it back). At this point it was still across the road in the ditch and SS's comment made DH realize that it would be a good lesson for him to learn if he thought it were actually stolen so he told me to go ahead and take it to CSS. I did, and DH called me right after I did it and I TOLD HIM I did it. That was yesterday. Today, we are all in the car leaving and DH pulls all the way across the road so you can see down in the ditch, looks down there, and asks right in front of SS "Did you do something with that?" I have asked him repeatedly that when he wants to talk to me about something that he doesn't want the kids involved in to quit talking in code right in front of them because that only makes them curious and then they sit there and try to figure out what we are talking about. Many times they figure it out, and a lot of times they think they figure it out and go around saying we were talking about something that we were not even talking about in the first place. Well, back to today. DH has been pretty much compliant with my wish for him to quit talking to me in front of the kids, unless it is something that has to do with the kids and normally it is something I did that I don't want the kids knowing about. It seems as though he does this on purpose, especially today. He could not have been any more obvious on this one. A monkey or my four year old nephew could figure out what he was talking about and I am dead set in believing that is exactly what he wants. I told him I am getting a job and moving out. Of course, he thinks I won't because I have been saying this for the last couple months. What he doesn't realize is that the only reason I am still here is because I can't find a job. I wish I had never left my government job for him and his invalid children.