preparing for Friday afternoon DERAILMENT
I have just been blessed to have a weekend off from my SKIDS, and NO THANKSGIVING WITH THEM EITHER HOORAY!!!! So, I am kind of anticipating with a heavy heart and extreme sadness the reality that they will be coming Friday afterschool for the weekend. My question is....how can I start dealing with their snotty little punk assess better? I live in the home their mother used to live in, so when they walk in the door they still act like they own the place. Throw shoes and bags on the floor immediately and run downstairs to the XBOX. They never say hello to me. They make huge messes in the kitchen and never clean up after them selves....run up and down the stairs screaming day and night and from what I can tell it is to be annoying....they complain about every meal being wrong, give me dirty looks, just basicly are obnoxious and rude and mean and make me feel uncomfortable in MY OWN HOME for the three days they are here. Usually I skip meals and hide in my room. I just really want to start dealing with this better. I know....I should leave more often. And I have been telling my SO they need chores which they occasionally clear off the dinner table....but I am just wondering if anyone out there has had a similar experience of just being treated like CRAP and what they did to feel better. I am sick of being depressed every weekend because of them and their presence, its not fair. Ideas?
I've tried talking to DISNEY DAD....and let's just say that getting him to change their behavior is not really happening at lightening speed...so that's out.
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I don't have a lot of
I don't have a lot of solutions but my dad (and now me as a parent) will take what's dumped when we/my kids cone in and toss them outside right in front of us never saying why if we went and got them and dumped them again same thing and bot a word. We( okay my siblings and my kids) got the hint me I was stubborn and would just let my stuff sit outside course my parents shortly got on me about not doing homework and refusing to replace things that were ruined by my stubbornness. Just a thought something you could try. It's your space run them off not go hide, it's what I've done and it is my house. I'm just very clear my house I'm an adult what I say goes and SO is the same it may of been my and my kids home but now it's his too, but I let him have that power to control our space.
Why are you making meals for
Why are you making meals for them?
If they leave stuff in the floor piss on it. (maybe not literally)
If we break the XBOX.....we
If we break the XBOX.....we have to interact with them! :?
Yep, time to take back the
Yep, time to take back the ownership or power back in your house. Agree with the death of the X Box! And stop the cooking and cleaning, where is your DH when all this goes on ?? Is he there or at work ?? I would not allow that behaviour for too long. I had to open my DH's eyes about the filth and stench sd22 was living in, her bedroom and bathroom were grim, she was ( and still is ) a pig , once DH actually got up close to that he finally started putting down some rules !! I was and still am SHOCKED that he had to do this with someone who was 18 plus years of age !!
Other ideas, have you redecorated the place since moving in ?? Do the skids just feel tooo comfy in their old home and think they can rule it ??
Hehe, no YOU don't
Hehe, no YOU don't interact.... DH HAS TO !!! That should open his eyes up, eh ??
I really do want to stand my
I really do want to stand my ground and be out in the open....but every time I do go in the same room they are in, I just end up so FREAKING annoyed. I cannot stand the sight of them. Yuck. It sounds so immature....I am supposed to be an adult! My god, they bring out the worst in me. Their little smirks on their faces and dirty looks I want to smack them. And no I would not actually do it, I am not violent. It's just the nerve they have! And I really don't get how STUPID THEY ARE.....they don't get that by being rude to me....they aren't getting invited to our house for extra days. And they ask every time school let's out early too. And its like DUH! YOU ARE COMPLETELY RUDE WHY WOULD I WANT YOU AT MY HOUSE EXTRA DAYS. they don't even try to act nice to me. What idiots.
A "look" can go a long way.
A "look" can go a long way. When you walk into a room, do you walk in with your head held up, looking around, or do you quietly enter while staring at the floor in order to avoid eye contact?
I have started mastering the art of hard eye contact. Not enough to be termed a dirty look, but when I walk into a room and get dirty looks/smirks from them I just hold their gaze.
I've noticed the more I do it, the more freaked out my SK's get because I'm actually walking INTO a room they occupy (the family room where my DH is sitting) and I'm not looking like I'm cowering by staring at the floor.