Ours ended in July. DH was paying for his younger son, who finally graduated high school at 19. Had he decided to go to college, DH would have possibly had four more years.

I have never met this "kid," as he told DH he will not have anything to do with him until I am gone. DH has not seen him in almost 2 years. The kid does not work, and never has. He spends most of his days playing video games. DH has 2 older children (20 and 23). The oldest works 25 hours a week, and the other one has never worked. He also plays video games 20 hours a day. They are all still with BM, living with her aunt, the only one working full-time. BM has never worked.

I do not know how they are living. When CS ended, BM had a fit and told another aunt (a nice woman), who called DH and said that BM thinks CS should last forever. She told us that 2 of the "kids" want to move in here; DH has not seen them in a year. That will never happen for many reasons. It is getting really bad in BM's world, now, but she never expected that DH/aka the wallet would be gone. She told the kids they did not have to work.

I think your SS will probably continue doing what he is doing until BM cannot deal with it anymore. Our BM wants the kids out of the house, because they are no longer a benefit to her, and they won't do anything. Hey, they learned from her.

And no, your DH does not have to pay for education. DH's older 2 have hinted at that, and my response is, "Get a loan." I have a lot of debt from my Masters. They can take out loans, but they will never get off their butts to even attend school.