"HCGG" aka High Conflict Girl Gang

I’ll start with I’m not really close with this SIL. We are “friendlier” now but not close by any means. No one in my family really cared her from the beginning. She was just very controlling and my brother did/does whatever she wanted. They have been together since they were 20 and they are currently 32. She broke up with him in 2019 and broke the kids heart… then they got back together. I was outcasted because there was a family group text and I kind of called him out on it… clearly she got mad etc. So I didn’t see them basically for two years. I saw them for the 1st time after they got back to together a few days before their wedding in 2021. 

Since then they have nephew almost 2.5 years and niece 7 months. 

Every time there is an event and  I see these particular friends… yesterday being one of them.. They are always incredibly rude and completely standoffish. Like their sh*t don’t stink attitude.. and just think that they’re better than everybody else. My brother can’t stand them as they were equally rude to him. One is just extremely loud obnoxious that type the other one is quiet and just gives you dirty looks and won’t even acknowledge your presence or anything. Loud one has a bf who moved out of state and the other has never had a SO. 

So what tends to happens is it becomes a competition with who’s going get the most attention from my niece or nephew. Obviously, my niece is still a baby so she can only do so much …but now that my nephew is 2.5 years old and running around you see the struggle even more... they almost fight for his attention. Every time he’s walking by “nephew name nephew name!!” The loud one will talk in conversation like she IS the parent. Commenting on what he does, his personality just all aspects of the kids life.. 

They will take over holding, feeding just everything with the kids when they are around. They basically horde them from other people. 

I’ve never seen anything like it. It’s bizarre… A lot of my friends have small children and I’ve helped raise 3 myself (they were 8,11,12) so not little but I’ve never seen friends do the stuff they do.. 

Also… my SIL is in too all the matchy themed shirts for events. At both of my nephews bday parities they had “aunt crew” t shirts on. SO and I just laugh. 

I get it’s nice having close friends and it “takes a village”

But this stuff is just wayyyy over the top IMO. It’s not like these girls are even nice people. Not to sound “mean girl” I sense jealousy too. 

They just live vicariously through her it seems and it worship the ground she walks on.