I haven't been on here in quite a while because, thankfully, I've been free from step parent drama for 6 months and counting. I leaned on this community a lot through my dark times, so thought I owed everyone an update. DH currently has no contact with anyone in his family other than his mother, and he's very low contact with her (dinner out for her birthday and Mother's day). SD sold her house and moved to another city over a 4 hour drive from us. She didn't bother to tell DH she was moving, and no one else in the family thought to tell him either. He can now see how toxic his family is and knows that they're punishing him for not tossing me aside when his kids turned on me. It's upsetting for him, but our lives are much more peaceful. My ex-husband passed away in February, and none of my inlaws reached out to me or my kids. SS texted DS, but not DD, which was just worse than not reaching out at all. SD didn't reach out at all - she lived with us for a number of years and was (we thought) a "big sister". DH was very upset about it and told both of my kids that he doesn't see how either of them could ever forgive his kids. One outlaw cousin reached out to me, and when her husband (DH's cousin) found out, he said she was "playing with fire". Toxic. Despite it all, I've encouraged DH to attempt to repair things with his kids (with boundaries) and he doesn't want to (at least for now). He says he devoted most of his life to them (he definitely did) and they repaid him by putting him in a terrible position and expecting him to give up a happy marriage to appease them. I do hope there's a peaceful resolution in the future but, for now, (other than my kids' grief over the loss of their dad) our lives are beautifully stress free and we feel like we've made it through the storm. Thank you to eveyone here for their insights and support.