A miracle has happend and both Skids appear to be set to graduate from HS this week. BM filed some (incomplete) legal paperwork to continue CS payments and force DH to pay for undisclosed college costs, but she has not responded to DH's lawyer's requests for all of her financial documents (and information on what actual colleges Skids plan to go to). 

One Skid had no interest in college and DH was setting him up for a trade apprenticeship, but now, according to him, may be going to community college at BM's urging. This kid has never liked school and managed to get generous Cs and Ds. His favorite class this year was "library aide" because he "didn't have to do anything". Second Skid is going to college (we think, but we have been given minimal info), even though he is not academically prepared. In the only two classes with any academic leanings this year (Business Communications and Math in the Modern World), he is finishing with Cs. His math grade should be a D, but for some reason, his final exam (on which he received a whopping 25%) is not counting toward his grade. He did not take any classes that required reading this year and only one class required creating written documents, although they were not in the form of papers, just "presentations" for a "business idea" in Business Communications, which counted as his English class. DH regularly received emails from the Business Communications teacher about how participation was lacking, even though he ended the year with a B. He did not submit a final assignment for his "economics" class, which seems more like personal finance (since the final exercise was to create a budget), but still ended up with a C. He has told some people that he is going to become a pilot and others that he plans to be an accountant. The golf scholarship that both BM and Skid insisted he would get has seemed to fizzle away. He made it to one of the state golf tournaments, but finished 21 strokes below the kid who won and MIL (who played college golf) said to DH, "he doesn't have the temperment for college golf." 

Second Skid's school fines (of over $600, dating bath to 8th grade), seem to have been forgiven without any record of payment, but he still owes just over $450 for lunch that he has eaten, but not paid for. You'd think he would not be able to participate in graduation due to that, but he supposedly has tickets to the ceremony (which were not supposed to be distributed if you had any outstanding fines). His lunch debt will likely be forgiven, too, even though BM makes well into the multi-six figures. 

If we do end up having to pay anything for college (which based on DH's new salary, which is the best he can get right now, shouldn't be too much), we want an agreement that requires a full course load and good academic standing or payments stop. I don't even think Skid 2 will survive in the dorms because he's antisocial and a bit of a jerk / pest to other kids. His one "friend" disappeared this year for some unknown reason (DH asked what happened and Skid wouldn't say). When he used to come to our house he would go to work and that was it. Otherwise, he just sat in his room. 

Also, BM supposedly has a new boyfriend, this is either her fourth or fifth serious boyfriend, since she divorced ex husband #2 three years ago. Each time, the new boyfriend is treated as part of the family immediately. Fortunately, DH will be able to avoid BM (and maybe her new boyfriend, who can only be a boyfriend of a month or so, because in early May she still had the last boyfriend) at the graduation ceremony this week. DH is taking DD, so I told him that under no circumstances was BM allowed to interact with DD. I'm staying home with DS because small children who like to run around are strictly prohibited from the graduation (and I had no intention of going anyway because thanks to BM's PA'ing, I have no real relationship with Skids).