Lazy Dad Saga continues
Hello! Back again, just needing to vent or just get some laughs perhaps. For a split second I thought, wow maybe DH will actually care and parent for once! Nope! Why am I not surprised? Lol.
Yesterday DH informed me that SS11 has an F in 1 class a C in another and several assignments missing and just overall not doing work. DH has grounded him from all electronics for a few weeks or until those grades improve. He did say he would allow some TV time but no Xbox, tablet, YouTube, computer, etc. with some flexibility on weekends he wasnt sure yet. Okay fine, for the most part I have completely stopped managing SS11 screentime as DH truly doesn't care and let's him pretty much have unlimited. Not my problem anymore. However, I thought hmmmm maybe this time he will actually stick to what he says. LOL this kid literally just watched TV for 4 hours straight yesterday after school (Grade convo occured yesterday) and for an 1 and 1/2 this morning. DH couldn't have cared less! Plus he's watching a Youtubers "episodes" on the Video Prime channel so it pretty much is like just watching YouTube (I've seen enough of the videos he watches to know) even though it it technically a "show". Honestly it is just comical at this point. I am trying not to let it bother me, and I will not interject. It's his kid and it has been made pretty clear that my opinion isn't valued so let him be a couch potato and flunk 5th grade. Not my problem. Anyway... is my DH just a special kind of lazy parent or are there other lazy DH Dads like mine?
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he wants to let his kid fail,
he wants to let his kid fail, who are you to go against such stellar parenting?
Yes, I went through this with
Yes, I went through this with DH since SS32 was in elementary school. SS would get grounded by getting banned from the computer for the rest of the night and minutes later, SS would ask to go on the computer and DH would say yes. If I asked if the ban was over, DH would say, "oh, SS, it's a good thing I forgot," while SS had his smarmy grin on his face. And no, DH never kicked SS off. He'd let him stay on the computer because it's not SS' fault that DH forgot. I can't tell you how many times that happened.
My SKs were never ever ever consequenced. They weren't even told anything in the first place. Not even so much as chew with your mouth closed. Nothing. Can't get in trouble if you're not told anything. Lying about having homework was OK too based on DH always "forgetting" that he had banned SS from the computer for one evening.
Ugh how frustrating.
Ugh how frustrating. Definitely set those kids up for failure!!
Why do these idiot men thing
Why do these idiot men thing that their parenting responsibility ends at ejaculation? Tell your DH his attitude is the reason good teachers are quitting in droves. Tell him do the school a favor and just homeschool his kid since he thinks he’s better qualified! I guarantee you the school and staff would celebrate having one less dead weight in their classroom with an ignorant parent blaming teachers for their lack of being able to parent.
Seriously!!
I completely agree. I feel like I am writing to my bio D11 teachers all the time and staying on track with her learning. It's going to be interesting to see how middle school goes next year... I definitely feel bad for the teacher. She can only do so much she can't do the parenting too. Insane.
EGADS
Ever since SD17 started high school there have been issues with grades and husband does nothing (read my past blogs on school gate)
THIS year its attendance and Im a bit worried.
Lots of medical absences, excused and unexcused.
You can’t do more then
The bio parents. In your case you must made sure this kid is out of your home` a`f`ter he finished high school. Or what ever grade he makes it too. You don't want a 25 yo sitting around all day playing video games. It's takes planing to get these kids out. It requires him to get a job. And actually show up for work, OR go live with BM/
Sadly, your DH is not unique.
Sadly, your DH is not unique. He is a POS parent, but not unique.
Update! Since the "grounding"
Update! Since the "grounding" barely 2 weeks ago SS11 has played XBOX daily with the exception of last Wednesday. He is allowed his weekend Xbox time and pretty much unlimited TV. He has allegedly been doing his homework and missing assignments (yes still has an F and now a D instead of a C) and currently at this exact moment playing Xbox with DH. It's truly comical at this point and I have only made a few passive comments "like isn't he grounded?" When I see him playing Xbox. DH always responds yes and I chuckle like okay. I am definitely not surprised but it is very unsettling to see such blatant disregard for actual parenting. Anyways! Trying my best to stay in my own lane. Work in progress!