She's 14. She's manipulative, bossy, bitchy, condescending, and most of all, a know-it-all. I'll make a meal and she will ruin the evening by making it all about how I should have asked her what she would or wouldn't eat before making dinner. She will be snarky about my "cluelessness." When her father asks her to do her chores, she will try to micro manage and have authority over what gets done and how. She will fight hard to have the final word. She will scream and have a tantrum when you give any consequence. When I take her shopping, she has an entitled attitude and never says thank you. When she apologizes for rudeness hours later (that's if we get an apology), it always comes off as inauthentic. She tries to soften her voice and talk like a baby as she kind of says sorry. Next day - she goes back to trying to defend her actions.

I tried to be the mother she needed, but her bio mom did enough damage and no one - not even I can help this kid. She doesn't want to be a nice person. She loves to judge people. She lives for it. We were all at her uncle's house one day for a baby bday, and when the adults were chatting, I brought up my opinion about something. She cuts in and tells me I'm wrong. I didn't ask for her opinion. Instead of me letting her win, I told her "this is my opinion. This is what I think." She looked at me like I'm the dumbest person in the world. She always does that when you mention something she doesn't agree with. 

I hate introducing her to people. She acts cold and better than thou. I'm so over it. Nowadays I don't blow up anymore because it breaks me apart, not her. She doesn't care how upset I get. There's a part of her that loves creating drama between her father and I. It feels like home to her, and im sorry about that, but im not interested in playing in that dynamic.

only her grandma defends her because they're both exactly the same judgmental person. Everyone else is tired of her awful energy.

she always makes depression an excuse, meanwhile, she's a spoiled entitled brat.

I can't wait to be as far away from her as possible. 
I just needed to say that out loud