Hello everyone! It's been a while once again that I have posted... Living a busy life lately between the stresses of work, family emergencies & issues, and still trying to find time to just take care of myself. So these are the events that have happened since the last time I posted:

SD12 is still being a little snot, after I thought things were finally going to get better. Yeaaaah... that lasted about a day. So pretty much every weekend for the past 3 months, BM has been tossing SD12 on us. I get upset because BM never takes in account that we or I have something going on that weekend. DBF has no problem taking SD12 because he says, "She's my daughter and I will never turn down extra time with her." Yeah, that's great and all, but some of these weekends falls on the weekends DBF has to work, and I am stuck at home with her. She usually keeps to herself but also makes it quite awkward. She will disappear for a while, and then come back and lay on top of the dogs, continously calling them her "sons," lays under the blankets with them, squeals at them or just will randomly squeal for no reason? Jumps on the furniture after I have told her several times not to, leaves her clothes on the bathroom floor, dirty socks behind the couch, blankets, books, etc on the couches.... So that drives me nuts when I am trying to enjoy a day off, because to be quite honest, work has been really stressful lately and I am constantly slammed with paperwork, meetings, phone calls, spreadsheets, deadlines. So the very last thing that I want to do, is spend my weekend with teenagers... SD12 also has stopped doing both her and DD's main chore, which is the dishes 3 times a week, now she just leaves it to DD13... I have not said anything recently about that because DD13 is grounded right now. But I was telling SD12 that she needed to pick up the carpet that our puppy chewed up because she forgot to put him back in the kennel, and she looks at me and goes, "Why am I being punished?! DD13 should do it, not ME!" I turned around, looked at her and said, "Do NOT argue with me, you left the dog out after we have told you several times that if you're not going to watch him, he needs to go back in the kennel, now he's torn up our floors! Just because DD13 is grounded right now, doesn't mean that your usual chores are erased. I am the adult, you're the child, now get to it!" 

The most recent thing/situation is, everytime SD12 is sick, I make her home made chicken noodle soup, give her the proper meds that she needs to feel better, and overall take care of her. She was sick this past week, and I took care of her, and I do A LOT of other things for her that I do for my own daughter. Well, DBF and I decided to take a trip for Mother's Day weekend, so my mom said she would watch both the kids and our dogs while we were gone. She takes the kids to the store to find some crafts to make for me and SD's mom. They come back to the house and SD said she was making me this rainbow keychain, and making her mom a painting, cool right? We get home Sunday evening, and SD was already picked up by her grandma to go back to her moms, so DBF calls her to see what else SD12 needs to be dropped off at her moms, (her medicine & school back pack), well SD goes, "Oh and the kitkats that are in the freezer, the painting and rainbow that I made for mom for Mother's Day, and that's it. Mind you, when we came home SD's sh!t was laying all over the living room and in the guest bathroom.... So I was already irritated. Anyway... So I did not get acknowledged by her for mother's day. She had my mom buy the chocolate and the rainbow craft to give to me, even said it was for me, and then turns around and gives all of it to BM.... 

Now am I wrong for feeling a little butthurt about all this? I do A LOT for her, even when she treats me like absolute garbage. I am thinking it's time to go back to completely disengaging.... I just don't know what else to do at this point and we get her back this coming weekend because no surprise.... BM is taking off again for the weekend.....