COVID
My husband and I both have COVID. Symptoms have been very mild. SD is at our house and she is supposed to go back to BMs tomorrow. BM has demanded that my husband take SD to get tested and if it's negative she will pick SD up. If it's positive she wants SD to stay here. I think just like all other places, it is very hard to get tested in our area right now. Neither our DD or SD has had any symptoms. When I tested positive I asked the dr if I should get the kids tested and he said to just treat it like everyone in the house has COVID.
I've been looking online for places to schedule a test, everything is booked out til after the first of the year. My husband has been calling places and can't get through anywhere. He did take SD to one place but they didn't have any appointments available today.
Then BM messages him that she has an at home test he can come pick up. He said he's not going out again today, but BM can drop it off since she is the one that is so concerned about getting SD tested. She obviously refuses to do so and can't believe he is willing to put SD at risk like this. This woman is so lazy and miserable. It makes much more sense to me that SD would just stay here. My husband already told BM she can have makeup days for whatever time she misses.
How would you all handle this situation? Does it even make sense to try to get SD tested? I feel like it's a waste of resources especially since she has no symptoms.
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If BM is too lazy to drop it
If BM is too lazy to drop it off then she can test her when DH drops her off. The at home tests are very accurate, we tested BD15 twice and they both came out positive, later we had her tested at a facility that came back positive as well. If you can fine any at home tests I recommend having them on hand.
I just found out that our
I just found out that our public library has them and brings them to your car! Wild!
I really wish I had thought
I really wish I had thought to have a few of these at home COVID tests on hand before all of this. No where has them now and when you look on amazon it looks like they are out until mid-January.
It's so funny that BM is so worried about SD getting tested and demand that it happen today, but can't drop the test off.
I suggest that you just tell
I suggest that you just tell BM what you were told. SD is presumed positive. If she wants to assume the risk and get her- go for it. If not, SD will quarantine with the rest of you for the 10 days.
Yes, he told her that but she
Yes, he told her that but she is still demanding a test.
Sounds like a her problem to
Sounds like a her problem to me! If your house is tested positive you aren't supposed to be out shopping!
Exactly!
Exactly!
BM is being stupid. If she
BM is being stupid. If she wants to put her household at risk like that...more power to the dumb B. Unfortunately, I can only assume if she takes SD she will not quarantine her (or herself).
This kind of crap is why this virus is so hard to stop.
That being said... if she wants to rely on an at home test...she can drop the dang thing off.
I mean... what is she going to do? Call the cops? Try and take your dh to court?
I for sure see a court threat
I for sure see a court threat in our future lol. Whenever she doesn't get her way that's her go to threat.
Not wasted at all.......
It is totally not a waste of resources and while BM might have her issues on all other fronts, she is in no way wrong to be concerned about SD having contracted and spreading Covid. If your doctor said to treat all members of the household like they have it then that means SD needs to quarantine with you. The concern is stop the spread and testing SD with a home test now and in 2-3 days makes total sense and is the responsible thing to do.
While I will give you BM should drop off the test if she has one not only because DH doesn't want to go back out but to stop unnecessary contact. Are you saying BM wants her home if it is negative and to stay only if it is positive?
Yes, that's correct. If the
Yes, that's correct. If the test is negative she wants SD to come back. Which doesn't really make sense to me because you can be negative one day and then positive the next.
I had to wait at an urgent
I had to wait at an urgent care for 3 hours the other week to get my daughter tested. It's really not worth it right now unless someone needs a negative test to travel or work. Tests are scarce now and even more scarce after the holidays.
BTW it can take up to 2 days to get a result. It used to be that places would do a rapid test and then a PCR test to confirm but now most places are only letting you do one or the other. People who need a negative test in order to travel or work are getting the priority for the rapid tests in many places. And it depends on where you get it done whether or not you even have a choice.
I would assume SD has it. Quarantine her with you and if she has no symptoms after 5 days then send her back to BM.
If BM really wants her back she can drop off that rapid test you guys can do it in the house and if it's negative then SD can go with BM.
Yes, that is what makes the
Yes, that is what makes the most sense to me! I just feel like BM is always overcomplicating things. She's acting like we've been negligent and called us ignorant. I work from home and my husband works outside of the home but masking is required at his job. We likely got it from one of the kids going to school, it's totally possible it's SD who brought it here in the first place.
"BM, I'll happily test SD
"BM, I'll happily test SD once you drop off the test kit. I have been unable to find any other way to get her tested. In the meantime, she will stay with me, or you can pick her up at your usual time untested."
If BM wants the test done, BM can drop it off.
I'm glad you guys have a mild case.
Perfect! That is the gist of
Perfect! That is the gist of the last message that was sent to BM.
My husband and I both have
BM, I have Covid. It is confirmed. I cannot go out searching for a Covid test. I am in quarantine. I should not be leaving the house. If you want to come and home rapid test daughter, that is fine. If she is negative, you can immediately take her home. If she is positive, she should stay here.
All I know is that DH is so
All I know is that DH is so obsessed with not losing a second of his visitation and BM is obsessed with not having SD one second longer than she has too that in the heart of the initial covid scare it didn't matter who had covid. I had it last year and SD still came over. Then DH got it and SD still came over (and back to BM's the second DH's time was up) If SD had goten it - YUP she would have been allowed to still come over!
Your husband is odd.
Your husband is odd.
What did BM wind up doing??
What did BM wind up doing??
She ended up telling my
She ended up telling my husband to F off, called him a horrible father for not picking up the test from her, and did not drop off the at home test. She sent him another message this morning that if he can get SD tested today she will pick SD up after work if the test is negative. So she's going out today but is still not willing to drop the test off for SD.
I would just ignore it. If
I would just ignore it. If she wants her tested she can bring the test. The you and your DH should just relax and work on recovery. Even if it doesn't seem bad, Covid takes weird tolls on your body.
That's the plan! I've still
That's the plan! I've still been working since I just work from home anyway, and by the end of the day I'm just exhausted.
Yep, ignore. He should not be
Yep, ignore. He should not be driving around town with COVID because BM is a lazy POS.