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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 2:33pm

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Trial still going on, when BM attacked him and he got arrested.   The 911 tapes were played in court.  BM called the police on BF, saying that he attacked her at the school. She sounded irate and began telling the police about me.  She said he attacked her because of me, that I am stealing drugs from patients and she was concerned, and he attacked her when she tried to “warn him.”. 

 

She gave the police a play-by-play description of where I live. How does she know this information if she never met me, went to my house or spoke to me?  She also told them the hospital I work at and what floor (ER) I am on.  Once again, how does she know this information if she never met me or spoke to me?  

 

When police asked if I was there when he attacked her, she hesitated for about 5 seconds before saying no.  It would have been great if she said yes, since I was working a double shift that day and was tending to allot of patients.  The parking garage is on camera and no way would there be any doubt I was not there.  If you remember she “forgot” about me stealing drugs from patients. 

 

BF has discussed with his legal team about us suing her.  We were told that since I have no damages to her accusations, I really have nothing to go on.  BF, however, can sue for defamation of character, duress, and pay of his accrued lawyers’ fees.  I’ve about had it with this lying SOB….

 

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 2:47pm

this is the trial, I had no idea she knew where I lived (play-by-play of where I live) and what floor I work on at the hospital.  I knew about the drugs thing, but I had NO IDEA she told police.  They never contacted me.  

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 2:47pm

Okay, so he didn't just get arrested?

She is obsessed with you. I hope your BF does sue her, something needs to be done.  I fail to see how her accusing you of stealing drugs doesn't cause you any damage, though.

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 2:50pm

He got arrested a long time ago. Cops never called me.  My supervisor wasn't concerned when I told her.  I never got investigated, never got a visit from the cops, nothing.

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 3:07pm

I will subpeana her boyfreind's wife and my BF's XGF!!!!  I am so sick of this!!!!

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 4:49pm

Well, if she had access to his phone, she might have gotten your address that way. Or SS snooped.

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 4:56pm

SS was never at my place.  If she got the address on BF's phone, she could have said "45 smith st" instead of a play-by-play description of how to get there.  I am not sure if police were watching/investigating me without me ever knowing.  Like I stated before, cops never came to my home or work and they never reached out to me.

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 5:12pm

I meant SS snooping on your SO's phone, as you thought he might have to get the text between the two of you.  I doubt they were investigating, it's more likely BM found your address and went by there, so that's how she knows the way.

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 6:54pm

Thanks for the replies.  It just s*cks that people at the court now know my name and exactly where I live, work and that I sext my man!!!  

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Submitted by tog redux on Sun, 10/24/2021 - 6:09am

Yep. I hated that about court. Not to mention in my line of work, I sometimes work with those same people on behalf of clients. Now they all think I'm married to an abuser, thanks to BM's bullshit. 

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sun, 10/24/2021 - 8:32am

that s*cks...How do you deal with that?  Any advice?

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Submitted by tog redux on Sun, 10/24/2021 - 8:41am

I don't know, I just - muddled through.  I reminded myself that many of the professionals probably didn't believe BM entirely, and even if they did, I knew the truth.  I hated going to court with DH. I set a boundary on not going in the courtroom, and wore my work badge in the waiting area so if I saw anyone I knew, it appeared I was there with a client, lol, or to testify.

UGH, the whole thing sucked.  I feel for you, Family Court is such a mess. All of this crap about you should not even be admissible - you don't live with him and rarely see the kid.

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sun, 10/24/2021 - 8:59am

I have not and will not go to court unless I have to.  I like the idea of your badge, maybe I should wear my nurse ID if I ever have to go!

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Submitted by Winterglow on Sun, 10/24/2021 - 6:26am

If she ever mentions you again in court, can you get your lawyer to ask her when she last saw you, followed by whether she had even met you at all? 

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sun, 10/24/2021 - 8:20am

Been there done that.  She already told the custody attorney in a deposition that she never met me, spoke to me or received any correspondence from me.  She claimed I was stealing drugs from patients and was court ordered to bring the evidence at the next deposition. She showed up at next deposition with the sexting thread that she somehow got off of BF’s Icloud account and never mentioned me stealing drugs again.  (The 911 tape is from a long time ago, we didn’t know about it until it was put into evidence last week). 

She was also court ordered to bring any correspondence between us, and she never did.  

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Submitted by tog redux on Sun, 10/24/2021 - 8:22am

I hope all of this put together will make her look like a stalker to the court, even if they can't legally do anything about it.  I don't see how any of this helps her case. Stalking his GF, making weird allegations about her, breaking into his iCloud account to get personal texts - all seems like it would make her seem very jealous and unstable.

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sun, 10/24/2021 - 8:29am

There is a method to their madness.  They know all of this is not going to look good for the court.  GAL is now involved, so this should be interesting, esp. if all she does is talk about me to the GAL, which is HIGHLY possible....