I'm really not sure if i'm being out of order here however at the moment my stepdaughter shares a room with my daughter. We have her for 2 nights a fortnight, and have recently been mentioning us maybe moving house for more bedrooms and possibly another child between us (both our kids are with other people). So we have the discussion tonight about our budget and my partner mentions that we'd need a 4 bedroom, and we couldn't afford that. I said well we only need a 3 bedroom as both our kids are girls and can share and then the baby would have their own room while it awakes and if it's a girl then they can share with whoever and we'd sort it out at a later date. He comes out with well no we'd need a 4 bed so my daughter has her own room, or we need a 3 bedroom and we don't have another baby. Don't get me wrong I completely understand why he would want his daughter to have her own room and space HOWEVER i do think it's pretty unreasonable to have a permanent room for a child who we only have 2 nights a fortnight and would sit empty the rest of the time? His argument is that the situation could change at any point and he has her more - but my problem is I don't want to plan around something which may or may not happen or make a whole room for a child who lives somewhere else when she could easily just share with my daughter like she does now (and loves sharing with her aswell). I get as they get older they may want their own space HOWEVER her primary residence is with her mum no matter how my partner tries to say this is her home (and it is when she's with us, but her primary residence is with her mum whether he likes it or not). I just feel like our life is permanently on hold for him to decide whether he wants her 50/50 or not, he always talks about it but never seems to actually do it which personally as a mum if i could, you can bet i'd have done it already. But then I feel mean for saying the facts of she doesnt live her, and isnt a permanent fixture in our HOUSEHOLD (not family - as she is obviously but living arrangements she isn't). I dont want it to come across the wrong way when I tell him i'm not arranging my life for something which may never happen.