SS11 has a night light and TV on all night
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I don't have kids myself so no idea when kids should grow out of needing a night light but when SS who is 11 1/2 comes to stop every other weekend he has a night light and the tv on all night, am I wrong to think he should have grown out of this by now? I could maybe understand the light on but not the tv aswell. I have said to my OH don't you think he's a bit old for this now but he just carries on doing it rather than tackle trying to wean him off it.
He doesn't have a light or tv on at his moms house.
I dunno, I get that some kids
I dunno, I get that some kids legit have a fear of the dark, even I get a little scared when DH goes out of town, but I am OBSSESSED with paranormal and scary movies. So I get the night light. And the TV thing is just difference in parenting... I grew up with a TV in my room from a very young child. I would watch Nick at Night EVERY single night... I remember when the TV would go to static after a certain time... lol my parents would come and turn the TV off after we were asleep... BUT my kids didn't get a TV in their room until they were MUCH older (within the past 2 years, and one of them are 18 now) soooo... I dunno, as long as it isn't interfering with you, I say, don't worry about it, they aren't your kid, so it's not a reflection on YOUR parenting
He's a kid who does get
He's a kid who does get frightened easily so I can kind of understand the light but when he's here he's on his iPad and PlayStation all day long (bf is a lazy parent) so to have a tv on all night as well means the only break from a screen he gets is when he eats.
Right, and I wouldn't raise
Right, and I wouldn't raise my kids this way. I made my kids earn screen time. Do something constructive or creative or outside for 1 hr for 1hr screen time... those were my rules...
But that being said, they aren't your kid, so try not to think about it too much. This child has 2 parents, and you aren't one of them.
I hope you don't think I'm being mean, or taking a dig at you... I'm honestly trying to help. That was the BEST piece of advice that I've taken here.
your right I try not to get
your right I try not to get involved too much as they are not my kids but sometimes I feel if things are left to my OH nothing will ever get done.
And that's on him. You can't
And that's on him. You can't care more about something than the children's own parents. It's not up to you. I totally get where you are coming from, trust me.
Needing a nightlight isn't
Needing a nightlight isn't neccesarily a bad thing, I have them all through out my house and BD15 has one in her room. While I don't sleep with a t.v on we do have a white noise maker, I find I sleep better if I have some noise. Maybe have your OH turn off the t.v.and get a white noise maker for SS11 to rry instead.
We've got a spare smart plug
We've got a spare smart plug so I might put it on his tv and turn it off when we go to bed and see if it bothers him having it off.
Dad should do an internet
Dad should do an internet search on having b the tv on all night. He'll find lots of detriments. Maybe he can, but I didn't find a positive.
He doesn't have a light or tv
He doesn't have a light or tv on at his moms house.
Then, he doesn't need them at your house, either.
The night light, well, I might let that go but he seems a little old for it and if he doesn't use one at BM's, what's up with that? The TV would be a NO for me.
It's really not healthy to sleep with the TV on, physically or emotionally.
From https://www.healthcorps.org/why-you-should-never-sleep-with-the-tv-on/
More specifically, artificial light, including the illumination from your television, has been linked to weight gain, depression, anxiety, dementia, cancer, acne, and diabetes.
Personally, I also believe it creates a type of co-dependency.
Good article, will definitely
Good article, will definitely show this to OH.
In my opinion the amount of time he spends watching tv/iPad or on his PlayStation is excessive as it is so to let him have a tv on all night as well is wrong, he barely has a break from some form of screen all day.
Different space different anxiety
Maybe needing these things in your space is because of feelings the child has. I know when I was younger I was ok in some spaces, but at others I would have nerves so high that I had spasms fits even if I was in a place that I knew people in--and that only happened at night (so think sleep overs) during the day I was fine. Not sure why at night it would kick in.
IF they have the TV going I don't see why a night light would be needed as TV give off quite a bit of light, so that maybe really just a noise thing. I needed to have background music on when I slept and even to this day I have a fan or something for slight noise--but I know part of that is due to having ringing in my ears which when I was younger I didn't know others didn't have.
Talk to the kid maybe they can shed some light on the situation. A
I know before I got with my
I know before I got with my OH he used to share a bed with SS when he used to stop every other weekend and he was about 7 at the time, it was very hard trying to get him to sleep in his own room and he was constantly coming into our room at night waking us up. I think this is where the night light and tv being on came from and it's just stuck.
That kid isn't sleeping well.
That kid isn't sleeping well. Take the TV out of his room. The night light is no big deal.
There's no way his dad would
There's no way his dad would take the tv out of his room, as I've said he's a lazy parent and it's convenient for him that his son sits in front of a tv all day because it means he hasn't got to put any effort in to doing anything with him. but he has agreed that his son doesn't need it on at night and will switch it off next time he stops.
Personally, I think the night
Personally, I think the night light is fine - he could be more anxious in your house for some reason. Maybe you have an old creaky house, maybe his dog sleeps with him at BM's, maybe his bedroom is closer to BM's - whatever. He sounds like an anxious kid, so it might help to ask why he finds it harder to sleep at your house.
If he needs noise, turn off the TV and get a white noise machine or play relaxing CDs. It's really not a big deal, lots of adults need night lights and white noise/music to sleep.
we live In a modern house so
we live In a modern house so nothing obvious that would creep him out, I can understand the light as that could be down to a fear of the dark which a lot of kids have but to have a tv on at night when you've been infront of a screen for approx 12hrs a day can't be healthy for him.
He's an incredibly shy and sensitive kid, I've been with his dad for over 4 years and he still barely speaks to me, we've never had any falling out or anything that's just the way he is he.