BioHo and the ReHOsal Dinner
What can I say? Couldn't resist. *diablo*
Bananaseedo, I will now have to work late tonight because I didn't want you to have to wait until tomorrow. *kiss2*
After-photo activities: DH and I spent the morning doing a bit of shopping and having brunch with all of the skids, their partners, and the grandskids. It was a fun time! SD25 and fiancé hit the road for FL. SS21 and fiancée had wedding stuff to do. SS18 and SD28 and family headed back to the ‘Ho bungalow. The wedding rehearsal didn’t kick off until 4pm, so DH got to take a nap while I stuck my nose in a book.
The bride’s family is old school, so a traditional type of rehearsal dinner was planned: all members of the wedding party, their partners, and the immediate families of the bride and groom (about 40 people!). After dinner, SS21 and his groomsmen and the bride and her ladies were going out for drinks.
The proverbial poop started hitting the fan when SS18 and Spawn13 (both in the wedding) came running into the church about 4:15pm. No ‘Ho, Pinhead, or ‘Ho’s mother. SS18 came straight over to DH and asked if we could give him, the grandkids, and Spawn a ride back to the ‘Ho bungalow after the dinner (SD28 and hubby were both in the wedding). ‘Ho was waiting outside for an answer. That’s right. She had NO plan to participate in the rehearsal (so much for the roses for the mothers part) and was not about to attend the dinner afterwards. In fact, she was so incensed over SS21 and bride “defecting” to our place, that she still planned to sit in the back of the church at the wedding the next day. Nice.
Since DH was the Best Man and slated to go out for drinks, I said I would give them a ride back, so SS18 and Spawn went to tell ‘Ho. They were gone about 10 minutes. When they returned, SS18’s face was red and his mouth set and Spawn was crying. SS21 asked what was wrong, but Spawn just shook her head and SS18 said, “Later” so rehearsal commenced.
While everyone was “practicing”, the bride’s mother and I sat together and had a very pleasant conversation. After a couple of run-throughs, we all left the church.
And there was the ‘Ho mobile. Engine off, windows down, with a red-faced, sweaty ‘Ho in the driver’s seat, tapping her nails on the steering wheel. As soon as she saw Spawn and SS18, she started honking the horn – long and repeatedly. Spawn, head down and dragging her feet, headed her way. SS18 was walking with SS21, who was shaking his head. They hugged, then SS18 jogged over to the ‘Ho mobile and got in. ‘Ho fired up the engine and, tires squealing, peeled out. And left the grandkids there.
DH asked SS21 what was going on. SS21, teeth clenched, said he didn’t want to say as it was “damn awful”.
DH: Go ahead, son. You won’t hurt our feelings.
SS21: ~scowling~ She told Spawn and SS18 “if that barren b!tch is driving, you can damn well stay with her and that f*cker the rest of the week or come back with me!” I’m really sorry, Aniki, Dad. That’s word-for-word what she told them. I’m sorry.
DH: WTF!
Ani: It’s okay, SS. It’s not your fault, or theirs.
SS21: It’s NOT okay, Aniki. She’s awful!
Ani: They’re just words, SS. She can’t hurt me.
DH: Ani’s right, son. Your mother can’t hurt us. Let’s go have some dinner.
SS21: I'm sorry she's my mother.
DH: Well, then I wouldn't have you and I love you very much.
SS21 gave DH a big hug and said, “I love you, too, Dad”. Then darn near cracked my ribs, he hugged me so hard. “Thanks, Ani. You’re awesome.”
Dinner was delicious and a lot of fun. Limos await! DH headed off with the groom and his men. SD28 headed off with the bride and her maids, and Aniki headed ‘home’ with the grands. I tucked them in, poured a glass of Carnivor (zin) and stuck my nose in my book.
The limo dropped off DH a little after 10pm and we relaxed in recliners to talk about this and that. Shortly after 11pm, my phone rings. SD28. And she’s crying so hard, I can barely understand her.
Ani: SD, slow down. I can’t understand you. Are you okay?
SD28: Ani, can we come stay?
Ani: Of course you can. But are you okay??
SD28: We’re not hurt, but I’m not okay. It’s my mother.
Ani: Oh. Well, come on over. We have plenty of room. The boys are asleep.
Just after midnight, SD28 and her hubby (Baby Daddy from here on) arrive. I show them were the boys are sleeping and head downstairs. DH hands BD a beer and a glass of zin to SD.
DH: What’s going on, kids?
BD: I’m done with her. I’m f*cking done.
SD: BioHo Pinhead can f*ck right off.
BD: Mr Pinhead can f*ck right off, too. That a$$hole supports her and her BS!
DH: WTH happened??
SD: I got back to the house and she started yelling at me. Saying I’m a crap mother because…
DH: Because?
SD: Because I let Aniki take the boys.
DH: That’s just silly. Aniki would never hurt those boys.
SD: I know that. She called you, she said…
Ani: She called me the Barren B!tch.
SD: ~beet red~ I’m so sorry, Aniki.
Ani: It’s okay, SD.
DH: Then what happened?
BD: I walked in in time to hear BioHo yelling that sh!t at my wife and said “Why you gotta be like this?”
SD: And then she screamed at him that he’s…
BD: She called me a d!ckless piece of sh!t, which is rich, coming from her…
SD: And he said that to her…
BD: She threw her wine glass at me and I told her no loss because the wine was as cheap as she is... (I love this guy)
SD: Then she called me a cheap wh0re…
DH: That lousy c*nt!
BD: C*nt is too nice…
SD: And I told her cheap is better than being a wh0re who pays her customers… (I love this girl)
BD: She threw the damn bottle at SD’s head…
SD: Well, she f*cking missed, she’s so drunk…
BD: And I told SD we’re getting our stuff and leaving.
SD: We were planning to get a hotel tomorrow anyway and were already packed…
DH: JFC, she’s inf*ckingsane.
SD: I’m sorry, Dad. I'm so sorry, Aniki.
Ani: I’m sorry you two had to deal with that, SD.
DH: No need to apologize, SD.
Ani: We’re glad you came here.
So we housed four more “defectors” for the night.
The Wedding is gonna be looooooooong…
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Jerry Springer
Wouldnt even want HO on his show.
Dang Aniki Ho is certfiably a nutty abusive HO. Thank gawd your skids have you and DH.
Great read though, unfortunately you lived it.
'Ho would be one of those
'Ho would be one of those whackadoos who goes after Jerry's bouncers because they tried to hold her back. And we know she'd be drunk!
Darlin'. after what I lived with my psycho exh, this is TAME.
Dear lord - those poor
Dear lord - those poor newlyweds!
And they weren't even wed yet
And they weren't even wed yet!
Wow
This just gets better and better...in an upside-down stepworld kind of way!
I sure hope they broke the BioHo mold when she was made.
'Ho probably broke the mold
'Ho probably broke the mold herself with her lethal flatulence...
https://www.steptalk.org/blog/aniki/bioho-and-big-escape-258932
LOL LOL LOL
I gotta read some more of your old blogs. Good stinkin gawd
Over the years, the skids
Over the years, the skids have told stories of her epic farts. About 3 years ago, she farted in the kitchen. Per SDnow25, you could still smell it 2 hours later. *shok*
Maybe something crawled up there and died and THAT is the cause of her vile behavior??
I feel so sorry for Spawn.
I feel so sorry for Spawn. Last week I saw a...well let's call her a lady... in flip flops, packets of cigarettes shoved up the sleeves of her arm (packet didn't fall out because the shirt looked three sizes too small so it was a tight fit) pushing a trolley. She had two boys under 10 running beside her but they weren't sitting in the trolley because the trolley was full of booze. The trolley heads for the carpark and the boys race ahead. At the top of her lungs she screams "COME BACK HERE YOU FKING LITTLE CNTS!!!". And I thought to myself what hope have these kids got? Reminded me of Ho. Spawn was doomed the moment she dropped out of that crotch.
Holey old socks! She could be
Holey old socks! She could be 'Ho's bestie.
Upgrade, I also feel sorry for Spawn. The only chance that girl has is to Get Out. Word has it, she's worse than BioHo when 'Ho was her age. She's spoiled rotten, usually gets her way, and is second in command at the 'Ho House. 13 and looks 30. And cheap. Tons of makeup. Dyed hair. Gel nails with those dagger points. She showed up to the rehearsal dinner in flip flops, a cropped spaghetti-strap tank, and shorts so short, they were digging into her crotch. THIRTEEN. This girl has no female friends because she's so hateful. She IS pretty, so the boys are interested, but she is not at all nice. Her siblings have tried, but she is, hands dow, BioHo's mini me.
Thinking the only hope these kids have is a very ugly wakeup call.
OMG!!! First of all, thank
OMG!!! First of all, thank you so much for the earlier than expected installment, kissed back gal, I love ya!
I don't know what to say, I mean I felt so angry and upset for her kids reading this. I don't know how they could have lived w/this c*nt so long and not have lasting PTSD and damage.
I'm surprised they didn't call the cops and have her arrested, maybe that's the ONLY way she will finally get thrown into rehab. Her children will have to do this one day. Flat out just call the cops. They need restraining orders at the minimum, her grandchildren should never be around this kind of behavior. I wish every single one will just completely cut her off.
I believe they DO have PTSD,
I believe they DO have PTSD, courtesy of 'Ho. If my DH does, how could the kids NOT have it?? As for rehab, DH managed to get her in once, years ago, but she didn't stay. After all was said and done, she ended up meaner and nastier.
I did not relay all that SD28 and BD told us that night. Or what has been told to me the last few years. But from what has been said, a big concern is how 'Ho will retaliate. SS18 just graduated from high school and the older kids were very worried about what would happen with him because 'Ho would cut them off from contact. Thankfully, he's now out of that house and Spawn is the last one left. I'm not going to pry, but there does not seem to be a lot of love lost between Spawn and her older half-siblings. While Spawn may be sullen, she sticks up for 'Ho because 'Ho spoils her - she gets everything the others did not: expensive clothes, mani/pedis, hair treatments, $$$ makeup... It's likely there is some resentment because of that. Another source of resentment is that Spawn grew up fatherless and she resents that the skids had DH. She's told them she hates them on many occasions. SD28 hasn't heard Spawn say I Love You to anyone other than 'Ho for years. It's very sad.
DH and I were talking about that just yesterday - the kids cutting off 'Ho. She's horribly TOXIC. We've all seen folks here with toxic family members whom they've cut off or allow only minor contact. That is what these kids need to do with 'Ho. BTW, BD is adamant that 'Ho has no part in his sons' future. Fingers crossed.
Refresh my memory - who is
Refresh my memory - who is Spawn's father? I was thinking Mr. Pinhead, but I guess he's more recent than that.
Spawn's father was the last
Spawn's father was the last in a long line of men with whom 'Ho cheated on DH. DH gave her the boot. 'Ho figured the father would marry her. BUT, she cheated on him, too. He found out when he called DH asking where 'Ho was as she wasn't answering her cell. She'd claimed she had to "monitor" DH with the skids, but she was actually out ho-ing around. DH flat out told him 'Ho was cheating and where to look for her. He found her, went home, packed, and left. He passed away when Spawn was 4yo, leaving behind a wife and 1yo son.
I just couldn't handle all
I just couldn't handle all that drama... like regularly from a relative, let alone my own mother!!!
Anxious to hear more!
She's a walking, talking,
She's a walking, talking, drinking clusterf*ck. Freddie Krueger probably has nightmares about 'Ho!
I can't even imagine what Mrs
I can't even imagine what Mrs. SS21's parents must be thinking. They've got to be worrying about what kind of shit show their daughter is marrying into. I mean, most crazy MOGs can hold it together for the wedding festivities, at least. 'Ho is her own frightening kind of special, I guess.
Funny you mention that. DH
Funny you mention that. DH said to me that 'Ho likely made it obvious why he divorced her!
The bride's parents mentioned several times how much SS21 is like DH. I think they get it...
They're probably lighting
They're probably lighting candles and praying that SS21 is like DH!!
They luuuuuuuuuuuuuv SS21!
They luuuuuuuuuuuuuv SS21! And he is very much like DH. *biggrin*
OMG! Ani! I swear there
OMG! Ani! I swear there should be a tv show based on Ho, Pinhead and their antics - they are bloody lunatics!! Those 'kids' are so lucky to have you and your DH there for them ! I honestly don't know how Ho lives with herself - sounds like its way too late for counselling/therpy to deal with her..ugh! She is just horrible!
Islandgal, the sHOw would
Islandgal, the sHOw would definitely have to be on cable!
I knew there had to be another flying wine glass,
I knew there had to be another flying wine glass, and there was a flying bottle as well! She is really going to hurt someone one of these days. When it happens, I hope they call the police...
If it's Mr. Pinhead, I doubt
If it's Mr. Pinhead, I doubt it will happen. Had that bottle hit SD28, it's likely her DH would have called them. Too bad 'Ho doesn't drop the bottle on her own freakin' head.
I had the same thought as ndc
I had the same thought as ndc about what Mrs SS21's parents must be making of Ho. Not only drunk and incredibly embarrassing, but abusive as well. I mean it is funny, but it also makes really shocking reading, how she behaved. I feel sorry for Spawn really - what chance in hell does she have of a decent life with this awful woman for a mother? My SDs 24 and 26 are currently both on anti depressants and SD26 is currently living with NPD BM. I can't really see her ever becoming truly independent as she is so effed up by their mother.
Kes, she is quite simply,
Kes, she is quite simply, bloody awful. I don't know if Spawn will ever lead a normal life.
How embarrassing for those
How embarrassing for those kids. It's a miracle they turned out as good as they did considering BioHis toxicity.
Spawn sounds just like my OSD. I have little hope for OSD. She has said numerous times she plans in being a stripper or porn star. I feel those a very realistic goals for her.
BMs oldest daughter was so afraid of how BM would behave she actually recently got married in secret and told BM about it after the fact.
A stripper or porn star?! OMG
A stripper or porn star?! OMG. 'Ho would probably consider those to be wonderful career choices. *dash1*
'Ho gives white trash
'Ho gives white trash everywhere a bad name.
Spot on, sister!
Spot on, sister!
I'm so thankful
Aniki, I'm so thankful for my life and the fact that it has never included a person this disfunctional. Next time I'm feeling sorry for myself about any of my odd relatives, I'll think of 'Ho and give thanks.
I feel so bad for DH's kids but still want to hear the rest of the wedding story. *guilty pleasure*
TASM, you should have met my
TASM, you should have met my psycho exh. He and BioHo would be a match made in hell.
'Ho has 'deteriorated' over the years. She is a bitter, mean, unhappy person. Instead of taking steps to be happy, she makes those around her miserable. And boozing does not help.
I really have no words, that
I really have no words, that and the picture debacle...it's amazing that any of these kids still interact or engage with that woman.
She has gone downhill over
She has gone downhill over the years. Per DH, 'Ho was shrewish and drank too much, but she was not THIS bad. When we talked about her possibly having Syph, we said it jokingly, but were actually serious. Maybe she has a mental illness that needs to be treated? No way to know.
Why do they continue to interact? Because she's their mother? Because they feel obligated? Maybe they hope she will change. No way to know as I would never ask them and can only speculate.
First of all excellent
First of all excellent writing as always you paint a very vivid picture of the dysfunction. In the foreshadowing to her sitting in the back row of at the ceremony boy do you know how to keep us hooked with some foreshadowing. Usually I'm laughing along with you but this installment just made me so sad for those kids.
How is just the embodiment of every ugly emotion. I would think that you're exaggerating but I have a friend who's husband has a very similar mother he has completely cut her out of his life so I don't get any stories!. She neglected and ignored him in favor of drugs, played favorites with him and his brothers and abused all of them. When his father remarried she had a vendetta against the Stepmom. She was not invited to his wedding.
Which brings me back around your story. I really don't understand how her kids and grandkids even still give her the time of day. She has managed to ruin every special occasion and make every celebration all about her drama. I feel bad for her kids, bad for the new wife, bad for the future grandchildren...
I love your stories but the fact that you have all these stories means that they keep inviting her into their lives to make drama.
Once you're an adult you don't have to be beholden to Mommy anymore.
Blame the vivid picture on
Blame the vivid picture on Shakespeare, SYN. And I honestly never thought of foreshadowing. It was a long week with a lot happening and I figured it would easiest to break it up into installments ala caninelover.
As I mentioned above, 'Ho has gotten progressively worse over the years. She used to babysit the oldest grandkid a lot!
We have never found out what went on (nor will we ask), but trouble began brewing for the girls when they hit their teens. We only know that 'Ho began coaching the girls to "get a man" (when SD28 was 15 and SD25 was 13). When DH divorced 'Ho, the youngest was 4 and the oldest was 13. Conflict between SDnow28 and 'Ho started about a year later. SD took a page out of 'Ho's book and got pregnant at 16. In 'Ho's case, the biofather refused to marry her and refused to have anything to do with SD, so 'Ho did not "get the dream life". SD, on the other hand, moved in with BabyDaddy and never lived under 'Ho's roof again.
When SD25 was 16, she and 'Ho clashed something fierce. It was so bad that DH and I fixed up a room for her because both SD and 'Ho were adamant that SD would be living with us. NO idea what happened, but SD did a complete 180, did not move in, and became 'Ho's little minion for the next 2 years. SD learned a big 'Ho secret just before she left for college. She and DH reconciled, but she is the one who has always been closest to 'Ho and cannot seem to stay away. Proverbial moth to a flame.
Per the boys, once DH was a EOWe father, they became 'Ho's little servants. DH was their sanctuary. When 'Ho didn't get her way, she withheld the boys from DH, so they were afraid to tell him anything until they "escaped". SS21 joined the military at 17. We were clued in that things were not as good as they seemed when he asked to move in with us a few months before that. Obviously, that didn't happen - no way 'Ho was going to give up CS and SS was afraid to make matters worse if he told DH the truth other than "it's kinda crazy". Since SS18 "got out of there" (he moved out shortly after he turned 18, but worked hard to graduate HS - thankfully!), we've been hearing sooooooo much crap.
While we knew 'Ho was telling a ton of lies about both DH and me, we still don't know everything. It was the boys who told SD25 when she was 18 that 'Ho was lying to her when 'Ho claimed that DH was trying to poison the boys against her and constantly badmouthed her. In front of us, no less! SS21 (then 14) jumped up and said, "That's a LIE! Dad has NEVER said one bad thing about Mom. NEVER!"
So, while it's true they keep inviting her into their lives, it's less and less. Part of it is that they feel obligated because she's their mother. I imagine there is hope that 'Ho will change. For certain, she will need to lay off the sauce.
Well that was quite an ordeal!
That is just horrible how she treats her own children and their families! Correct me if I am wrong, but it sounds like SS would of liked to just not of included or invited BioHo to any of this, but sucked it up and included her and then this is the thanks he gets? Luckily it sounds like SS's wife is a strong woman. Most people after all this probably would of run for the hills!
It is crazy how insecure BioHo is after all this time you have been with your DH. All she does is make herself look bad. The amount of times she refers to you as a barren bitch is absurd and only embarrassing herself. You may not have bio kids, but her bio kids clearly prefer you and DH. Very obvious why, you are secure, stable, sane, sweet, etc. where BioHo is not. Pinhead is insane for being with this woman too, especially when she is his husband now, but she can't stop being blatantly insecure about you.
Typically I would probably feel bad for someone that is that insecure, but she is such a horrendous person I can't even feel any empathy for her.
Anxiously awaiting for the story about the wedding! Good thing you got a large place, deep down you must of known this was a possibility!
We believe that SS21 a) felt
We believe that SS21 a) felt obligated to invite her, and 2) hoped she would be civil. Yes, his wife is a strong, confident woman. Thank God!
Goodness me, didn't you know that DH was supposed to spend the rest of his days pining for BioHo?? SHE didn't want him, but no other woman should have him! And because I got her "leftovers", she is under the delusion that I am jealous of her and want everything she has, including her children.
NO idea if 'Ho knows (yet), but she was rebound for DH. From ME. DH and I were a couple 26 years ago. I had been legally separated from my H for several months. DH and I had gone to high school together (he was a year ahead). We were workng together and immediately attracted. I stupidly caved into parental pressure to make my marriage work, so I broke up with DH, quit the job, and went back to psycho (and we all know how THAT ended). DH rebounded with 'Ho. Gaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh!!!
Both SDs know that DH and I were a couple way back when and the story of it all...except the timeline. We have never told them 'Ho was rebound - they believe this happened closer to 30 years ago and we prefer they believe that.
I used to feel sorry for 'Ho, but that feeling is mostly gone. As for Pinhead, I began to suspect some time back that he LIKES being 'Ho's whipping boy.
However, I AM a barren bItch and DH does love his children. He's a wonderful father and I'm thankful he has the kids as I would never have been able to give him that.
Wow, I did not know that
that is pretty awesome and funny that Ho was the rebound from you! I didn't realize you and your DH went that far back!
With SS leaving probably also made him feel more obligated to invite her, but I bet he regrets doing that now!
He has got to like it to some degree either that or he is just pretty dumb!
That is true and hey, once again Ho made herself look bad by her petty actions and when no once sees or speaks to her, she made her bed all on her own!
I used to hang out with DH's
I used to hang out with DH's brother in high school! LOL BIL and I had a mutual friend, so we did a fair number of activities together. I barely knew DH then, but thought he was sooooo HAWT. Guess you could say I've been gaga over him for more than 40 years. *dirol*
Yes, he regrets it. I also think that, with him going to a combat zone, he knows there's a chance this is the last time he will see all of us. Wanted to give her a chance? Maybe 'Ho got excessively/repeatedly drunk to hide her upset that her favorite son will be gone for over a year. *unknw* Regardless, she still chose to act like a major twunt.
I have never forgotten this... Years ago, I was out with a group of friends. In the parking lot, a man had a woman by the arm and was slapping her face. One of my friends (we'll call hi Rick) ran over there, grabbed the guy and pulled him away and said, "WTH are you doing?!" Next thing you know, the woman jumps on Rick's back, starts punching him, screaming, "Eff off! Leave us the eff alone!!!" Turns out, that was their 'thing' - they liked doing that in public places for a thrill. *shok*
For quite some time, I've wondered why the hell the Karma Bus has bypassed BioHo for more than 25 years. Yep. She has been wreaking havoc for over a quarter of a century! 'Ho is a narc and sees her children as extensions of herself. Her dream is to have a commune where all of her children and their families live together with 'Ho. Instead, they are pulling back from her more and more. Perhaps that's what Karma has in store for 'Ho: a life where her children no longer speak to her and her grandchildren don't know her.
I haven't commented, but you
I haven't commented, but you know Classy is sitting here in Jersey snacking on pop corn just waiting for the next installment.
For some reason, I see this as my future with SS23 and DBDB
I actually DID grab a bowl of
I actually DID grab a bowl of popcorn before reading this.
HO'ly smokes.
You did not!!!
You did not!!!
Did you really? LOL
I swear to all that's HO'ly I
I swear to all that's HO'ly I did.
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Cold cider is delicious with
Cold cider is delicious with hot popcorn...
Good grief, woman, I hope not!
BBB Club
I think you must be a member of the Triple B Club - Barren Bad-A$$ B!tch Club. I want to join! Sign me up!!!!
Bio Ho was, is, and always will be the bio mother, and as such, she feels entitled. Like a great many who have given birth but who have such little respect for those they have given birth to or with, BioHo is digging her own grave. Emotionally, those kids are going to be damaged. Yet, because she is in an acohol-induced rage against them for "going to the other side", she cannot see that, nor does she seem to care.
Toxic Troll at least likes to keep a semblance of "normalcy". She wants to be the victim, and if we lay low she is "good with us". I am not looking forward to any kind of grands or weddings. I think Feral Forger might possibly be against having kids, she professes to hate them. Backstabber/Munchkin sais she someday wants kids, but I think she might be attracted to girls, so that will be more of a challenge for her...way into the future.
But, I digress. Back to 'Ho-rendous.
I can still see the bottle flying through the air. I hope the children will create a healthy distance. But they always seem to go back, when they are the "favored" ones.
SD22 Went back. She almost got away, but her Toxic Troll-ness wouldnt let her. And now SD15 is the Golden Child, and I dont see her getting away at all.
"Hope Springs Eternal...".
Heres to hoping that the wedding isnt a disaster and that Spawn can get herself out of the toxic 'Ho-Sludge. That SS has a wonderful life with new wife and they stand strong together to battle whatever comes next (brewing some tea...)
Triple B's! I was a member of
Triple B's! I was a member of the club until a fertility Dr helped me. For most women getting pregnant is one of the most effortless things they do in their life. I don't know why they think it is such an accomplishment. Getting pregnant and giving birth are the easy parts, the hard stuff comes after!
Hard for me sometimes
When I think of Toxic Troll and her "parenting", and her toxic nature yet she had kids and I did not...
But good for you to transition out of the Triple B Club
Psycho and I went the
Psycho and I went the fertility doctor route. In the end, the doc found I had plumbing problems. Having a child with psycho would have been a nightmare. I don't know if I would have escaped other than via the morgue.
Never did explore
I sadly was never in a relationship where this would ever happen, and now too old.
By the time I was in a place
By the time I was in a place where I could have corrective surgery, I was too old. {{{{HUGS}}}}
Big {{{{Hugs}}}
And now, here we are - on Steptalk - with BioHo and Toxic Troll, dealing with OPP - Other Peoples Problems (not Stalk, the BMS)...
But, life has been rewarding and continues to climb upwards in quality.
Yes. Onward and upward!
Yes. Onward and upward!
So many people have said to me, "If you could go back in time, you should NOT marry psycho!". But if I had not, I would not be where I am today. Doubtful I would not be as strong and resilient. In the same vein, "If you hadn't married DH, you wouldn't have to deal with BioHo!". But life with DH is wonderful! 'Ho is merely an occasional hiccup, IMO. And I'd like to think that witnessing that trainwreck has made me kinder, more compassionate, and more understanding.
CLove, we can be the co
CLove, we can be the co-founders! *yahoo*
I don't believe 'Ho wants to be the victim; rather, she wants to be Supreme Overtwunt. Instead of being happy with what she had or trying to improve her lot in life, she beeyotched and moaned about what she did NOT have, that she did NOT get what she wanted. Well, boo-fackity-hoo! I've yet to meet a single person who got all they've ever wanted; who never experienced disappointment. There are some who chose to wallow in misery (although nowhere near as much as 'Ho) instead of making plans to move up and out of their unhappy existence. Their idea of hope seems to be hoping that all will cater to their whims; not work to change.
Tea sounds good. I'm going to have some, too! *drinks*