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FIL stops by, MIL sends a text

Jcksjj's picture

Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 11:35am

So FIL stopped by this weekend while MIL was at work. Before he left he talked to DH about all the drama. He said he wants DH and MIL to get on the same page so that what happened with FILs family (he was estranged from his mom for most of DHs life) doesn't happen with theirs. DH said he's done with SIL and everything else is on MIL to fix. And unloaded all of his thoughts and feelings on things to him. FIL mostly just listened and didn't argue.

This morning MIL sends a text that says "family is forever no matter what and always. My heart is hurting too and I love and miss you."

Please MIL, tell us more about YOUR feelings on the situation. No apology, no plans to change behavior, we just want to hear your guilt tripping.

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Stepdrama2020's picture

Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 11:41am

Holy gawd what a PITA.

She is a poster for narcissim.

Yea Id keep her at bay. 

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Submitted by AgedOut on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 11:43am

I'm not sure I'd even entertain her bs at this point. She/BM/SD/SIL are putting your home in jeopardy. Their nonsense has to be kept away from your family. Take SD for day visits to neutral places. No electronics, no special just her rewards. A park, a hike, a playground. Keep the toxicity away from your home. That includes those who create it:MIL & SIL. 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 12:51pm

I agree completely. They're all the types of people you can only deal with by not dealing with them.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 11:48am

"Wish I could say the same because you being less involved has reduced my anxiety and the drama in my life. Your actions don't match your words, and for that reason I'll continue as I have been."

Or ignore her, but that seems less fun and I'm in a petty mood.

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 11:57am

There's so many both serious and snarky things I'd like DH to respond, but no matter what he responds it's just going to lead to a tantrum.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 12:09pm

I just thought of something better to say:

"Sorry, someone got into my phone and changed the names. You're listed as 'See You Next Tuesday'. Who is this?"

Or

"New phone, who dis?"

Or

"Sorry, I don't have this number saved. Who's this?"

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 11:57am

MIL = ME I Love

Block her on phone and email. If she is TRULY sincere about being family (~snort~) she can WRITE AN APOLOGY. 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 11:58am

Hahaha.

I read it as "I hate losing control and you're making me look bad."

 

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 12:38pm

Right?! When I read it, it screamed (by MIL) "it's all about Meeeeeeeeeee!!!" *diablo*

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 12:15pm

So the FIL did recon so the MIL could get the intel and then gaslight DH and make it about herself.
My response would have been "family is what you make it, and my heart bleeds for my children you seem to forget I have."

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 12:42pm

Basically, but I don't think FIL was exactly aware what he was doing and is basically a "useful idiot." 

I'm not sure if MIL knew he was stopping by or not.

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Submitted by MissK03 on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 12:36pm

F HER! I HATE that "family is everything" crap. FIL is just her puppet. I really can't stand your DHs "family" haha.