Bratty and SO did talk on the phone Saturday.  He asked Bratty about the now cancelled Grandma visit.  Bratty said she was confused as she applied to that school in the mid west to be around Grandma and now it seems like Grandma may not want that.  Otherwise SO said she seemed disappointed but not upset.  

Bratty also said she was accepted to a couple of post bacc programs in the Bay Area but was waiting to hear on the one in SoCal.  She said a decision would come at the end of May but that was her top choice.  It would be about an hours drive from us so if Bratty does indeed start this fall SO and I will have to set some rules to make sure Bratty doesn't 'drop by' very often.  Once in awhile would be fine with me.

Bratty also did show up for the family Zoom call Sunday.  When it came up that she wasn't going to be visiting because Grandma said she wasn't ready for visitors and Bratty should visit later in the summer,  Bratty initially looked mad but then made a gracious comment about the weather being warmer then.  I don't think she was serious though and probably won't try to visit Grandma again, at least that's my guess.  I made sure to let SO know that I thought her comment was gracious and SO seemed happy about the compliment.

All in all I thought Bratty took the news much better than I thought she would.