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Submitted by MissK03 on Thu, 04/22/2021 - 7:38pm

So every time BM and SO have a small conversation (my blog that I posted the other day) she thinks it opens the door for convo. She does this without fail. Then when he doesn't engage she goes quite for a bit. 
 

SO comes home from work and he is like ugh what's wrong with her. I asked him what happened? 
 

BM: "Did your job have a collection when the skids were born?" Aka.. if someone gets married, has kids, or death.. they pool money for that person as a gift. 
 

He responded with a simply No. Then (just to avoid the text tomorrow) he asked her what time SD was going to be home tomorrow (it's her birthday) and she does her annual take only said skid out by themselves for dinner and home. 
 

BM: "Around 6:30.. sorry for bothering you." 

SO.. doesn't respond. 
 

He's like if she keeps going with the small talk I will tell her AGAIN that I don't want to talk to her unless it pertains to skids. He goes why can't she get this?! 
 

Me: "wait... she's asking you if your job gave you guys money 17 (almost 18), 16, and 14 years ago when you guys had kids....?!" He's says uhhh yeah...she's probably drinking right now.

This is definitely a reaching for the stars to find SOMETHING to talk about... like wtf...

SO (and clearly me) is just over all her BS and wants to start the next chapter in our lives. We are close... 

I also said to him what's the "sorry for bothering you" He's says.. "if she was sorry she wouldn't text me with her small talk" HA right SO! 
 

Edit: This is just another small example of how it is always been about her skewed vision of how SO was suppose to be her forever bestie. Never about her relationship with her kids. It always circling back to her wanting SO under her belt in some weird twisted way. 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Thu, 04/22/2021 - 7:56pm

That she is.... she's the type that puts on a show and a unknowing stranger would have no idea she is what she is... I'm sure I'm made out to be satan. I ruined her manipulation of SO. Ooppss! *shrugs shoulders* LOLL. 

I'll add it wasn't always like this.. I wish I found step talk 3/4 years ago when things were really going sour haha. SO sees everything now (for the most part) and really wants nothing to do with her. He also never thought she would turn into the dirt bag she is so... there's that too. Haha. 

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Submitted by caninelover on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 10:50am

Don't forget to add on the interest since SO has been withholding it all these years!

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Submitted by MissK03 on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 12:03pm

Honestly... have no clue where she wanted to go with that. My guess is she knows a few people (not thru SO) that work where SO does so maybe something got brought up about it... no clue. So she was trying to remember if they got money...? No clue. She comes up with random nonsense that's irrelevant. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 4:39am

Next time he should just ignore anything that doesn't pertain to the kids entirely. 

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Submitted by halo1998 on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 8:36am

and if I wasn't around try to make small talk with DH.   The last time she did this was at a baseball game for GWR that DH was at alone. (I was at a softball game for DD).  She plopped her beaver tail down next to DH and proceeded to ask him what he thought about the lastest Big Brother episode.  

DH...(who had enough of her)..looked her straight in the face and said in front of everyone in the stands.

Beaver I do not like you,  I am not your friend.  I only talk to you because we have kids together.  Other than that I would not talk to you or want to be associated with you.  If you don't have anything to say about the kids...the please move and stop bothering me.

DH told me Beaver had a cat butt face that could be seen from space..but she got up and moved.  She hasn't tried to make small talk with DH ever again.

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Submitted by MissK03 on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 9:36am

LOLLL that's awesome. That infamous day she went into the house in November and when she came back she has hanging out on our deck playing with our dogs she saw SOs car there but not mine... she was using that as an opportunity to butter up to SO without me there. 100% that's what it was... Luckly he was at the neighbors house and didn't come back while she was there.. he didn't realize what was happening at the time. 

She got told to never do that again... 

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Submitted by halo1998 on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 10:02am

but in this case...it was all she was going to understand.  Plus it was public....so there was no way she could try to weasle her way out of it.

 

She later complained to a mediator that DH didn't want to be "friends" with her. The mediator, who was also a step mom, prompty told her he doesn't need to be friends with her.  Their relationship was a business relationship..the business being their kids.  I was there for that one...and again she had a cat butt face and shut up immediately.

 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 12:01pm

Oh yes... the "we wereeee supooseeeee to beee friendssss" insert crying antics too. BM has done that multiple times. 

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Submitted by Ispofacto on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 10:14am

Narcissists can't stand when someone doesn't like them.  But they don't feel like they should have to make an effort to be likeable.  They're special, and entitled to be liked.

 

 

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Submitted by Sparky66 on Fri, 04/23/2021 - 2:03pm

Can relate 100%!!! My SS is 19 and was 3 when his father and I got together. BM has been a huge issue all of these years. She was so awful to my DH during their relationship (one time beating her arm with a door and calling the police on him, dragging him through court only to yell out at the last moment before sentencing that it was all a lie). Everything my DH has now he and I have worked so hard for and she has always wanted to get back with him to leach off of him, she's never worked and never remarried. Once my SS turned 18 the small talk started almost daily, it got to the point where my DH just ended up blocking her and speaking directly to his son. I guess she understood that her control was finally over because her son was already an adult. This has been the most peaceful few months I've had in so long. Ignore her, all she wants is attention. And if you all have a good relationship with the kids and can communicate directly with them, block the toxic ex out of your life.